How do I over come jealousy? It is one of my downfalls in a relationship....So I am told...I do believe it sometimes I am jealous but cant help it...I have lost men from not being jealous because for the fact they tell me dont be jealous but my best friend is coming to see me and she is a woman...and seeing them together its like ok so there lil more friendly than im used too....then 2 months later find them together...but oh no I shouldnt be jealous though...lol...My thing is i have had that happen to me so many times now that it has made me jealous....and I dont want to be but there it is...how do I over come that? Because im tired of losing men to it...Not losing them to it all the time but some I am...

There is no pity in Sin City.............

It sometimes pays to have ugly friends.....

lol ok im being serious her I need some suggestions that i can go by

Lol... I would rather loose someone from being jealous, then to loose them from not showing how I cared.
Let your jealous side stick out... If they really don't agree with it, they will mention it when you are alone, instead of just around the other person!
And if they can't handle a little bit of envy/worry/love, how are they supposed to handle alot?

what you need is some good friends

I tell ya...it is a part of life that can be hard to over come. You are with a great guy...a girl comes along...what other instinct will you have? Unless you know and trust the girl, then you are fine. Also, there has to be trust in the guy. It is a way to know which guy is trustworthy or not. Jealousy just shows that you do care about the person and don't want to lose that person. Of course, there is a degree in being jealous. You don't want to scare the person off. But, I think it is good for the person to know that you are jealous at times because it makes them feel good (don't ask why...I've seen this happen before). I know I have my little issues, but it does take strength and discipline. Yeah, I do type a lot too. Sorry.

don't give a sh%t about it, what have you really lost?

jealousy is a disgusting beast that is the #1 relationship killer dude

Sounds more like mistrust ,than jealousy.

very true Frozn but my jealousy prob is like way up there that it causes arguments and im trying to tamper down on it so the next person im with i wont have that prob

believe in your self

it's not a mistrust thing....i dont know how to explain it other than there is such a thing as how close you should be with a woman when your dating one...if that makes since...

agreed.. just dont let it get out of control

some jealousy can make a relationship stronger, he needs to know that you care. First off if he is saying things like "your just jealous" then you should be worried. If he cared he would do things to put your fears at rest and help you overcome the problem you are facing. If he is up to something he will say things just to throw you off track. and about your friends, your friends are your worst enemy when it comes to a bf. they are the ones who you tell how great he is and how good he treats you and so on. this makes them want him.

so verry true

you need to figure out why you are jealous first. maybe low self esteem or something in the past? not saying you should have low self esteem...just an option. when you learn why then you can understand it and work on it. but jealousy is a natural reaction. there are no bad feelings...only bad actions to those feelings. jealousy can make you grow and learn to become a better person...or at least see what you need to avoid in the future

oops my bad, maybe somebody else can use this advice

Nothing wrong with people that talk alot... Not enough of them.
I'm jealous of the ones that somehow type little statements!