I never look at it as "rejection." If things don't work out, they don't work out. Have come to that point, online, frst. meeting & after 2+yrs of dating. I never feel rejected, it just didn't work. Best to end it as soon as you realize, it isn't working or headed in the direction you want.

That way; HOPEFULLY; you can remain friends.

depends on how they do it i suppose...but either one sucks. But here's a little tip..Dating is a number game...you're going to be rejected..it's just how you take it. For example if you ask a girl out and she's a B!tch about it and says something like "ya right, or not with you" simple look at her and say "come on lower your standards i did!" and walk away! JMHO

Do you think its rejection, I don't really know how to put this, or are you just requiring someone strong in knowing who they are , secure in there own life, which is a very good thing!! I mean this in a very positive manner, in that you have high expectations which is good!!!

I met this guy once after months of talking to him online and phone..he asked me out on a date..I told him "Well before the date why don't we just meet first..talk a little then see how things go from there"..he agreed.He came to my house..got HALF way out of his car..saw me..got back in his car and left..THAT I would call rejection..This was years ago so I can laugh about it now but that day I wanted to cut off his b*lls and feed them to him..And before anybody says I should have told him about the chair first..I've done it that way too..still didn't work out.

What an A$$, you're beautiful his loss

THAT was a TOTAL lack of class.
How rude.

Thank you Isaac

Rude?..no..try Evil..and I gotta tell you..it's not like Tyra Banks is knockin down this guys door to be America's Next Top Male Model or anything.

Dateing as a Person who uses a wheelchair, or any other type of assistive equipment is always going to take some getting used to for the person who doesn't have AE in their life but eventually you meet someone who is cool and they are so into you they don't care. As someone who has been there and gotten that T-shirt I found the more I was comfortable with my situation and the more I avoided the complications (like going someplace I know will be a struggle useing my chair or canes ) the easier it was for people to see me and not the "complication" of useing equipment. If I went someplace I enjoyed the "fun" I was having just attracted guys anyway. Didn't seem to slow me down all that much.

I am so sorry that happened to you!!! I can think of nothing ruder than that!!

I've gotten on msg boards like this on other sites and guys always tell me the same thing.."I'm looking to be somebody's boyfriend..not their caregiver"..If I needed a caregiver I wouldn't be on a date site..they got plenty of nursing agencies here that I could use if I needed that.

Evil, is a good way to put it!

reject me before or after, gotta meet once or twice before i commit to anything, or, "all together" we will end up back on here

I think that telling someone about your chair is a purely personal preference, and maybe it would vary in different situations? You would have to kind of feel a person out first?

that's because most guys are plain ignorant. They assume that if someone is in a wheelchair that they need to be 'babied' not the case with most. In fact most people in wheelchairs are ten times more indepent than your average everyday citizen. they don't WANT to be babied. Unlike a lot of other people. again just my opinion.

Hey Isaac .. long time no see. You should come play on our MILF younger guy thread he he

and to the OP .. where DO you come up with all these questions.

after. -trust me, i know this stuff.

(((fade)) how are you? and where is you're thread located?

I couldnt make that decision without a meeting. There are things about being a couple, nuances that are intangible, but no less important, that cant be communicated thru the chat mod or text forum.

Also, being open and honest with a person about your true feelings - from the get-go - avoids unpleasant surprises and inconveniences. Sure, you may be attracted to them and they you - everyone needs someone to talk to and a certain level of companionship. If you cant recognize this in yourself and honestly admit it, you cant in someone else. Best to let them know from the beginning "Hey, I really like talking to you, but I doubt we'll ever be more than friends" or something like that. I'm sure someone else could be a bit more wordy and diplomatic than I. I get myself in trouble too often cuz I speak too plain. heheh

My opinion: Never attempt to 'date' someone who does not share your core values. All else can be built around that solid foundation.

You're right Isaac..we DON'T want to be babied or treated any differently than you'd treat ANYONE else..because we ARE like everyone else..we just have to do things a little differently..THAT'S why I refuse to label myself as "DISABLED" or "HANDICAPPED"..because I can do most things on my own just in a different way..THAT'S why I say that I am "DIFFERENTLY-Abled"..I don't need people to push my wheelchair around for me..as a matter of fact..if I am in a relationship with someone I like my hand held as we walk just like any other girl does when shes with her man..actually I use a motorized chair now so pushing my chair isn't even an issue anymore..for me or anyone else..Hell I have never even liked my mom pushing my chair.