If you,ve been married before.....and are considering getting married
again, which would you prefer....someone that,s never been married, or
someone who has been married before.... and it does,nt matter is not
acceptable.....?

Hey Ontario, what do you mean by "and it does,nt matter is not
acceptable.....?" ?

If you are in love with a person and they are in love with you, as well,
then Ontario, IT DOES NOT MATTER....PERIOD.

well...someone will say...oh it does,nt matter....as long as she/he...is
a good and decent people, blah, blah, blah,...no
a straight answer please.....!

ok...gotcha...

It doesn't matter really,,,,
the only plus to being married before, each person
has learned from the past marriage just how hard it
is to keep the marriage alive and loving, and to learn
that marriage is about two people not just one sided.

ONTARIO I WOULD PREFER IF YOU WOULD " S T F U "

ont.. honestly, it doesn't matter. that is the best answer that i can
give. because to me it really doesn't matter.

Actually being married has several downsides to a relationship. In my
first marriage I learned all kinds of things I wont have when I get
married again. I actually learned more about how a relationship Should
be in my times since the divorce.

In marriage it seems some men have been very abusive to thier spouse,
both verbally and physically. Trying to overcome those barriers is
almost impossible for some women, they are afraid to show thier true
feelings. The abuse they have had was after marriage and as a result
they feel less than or that they brought it on themselves. Several women
I have met may never recover from the abuse.

I know first hand what types of problems occur as a result, and because
of that I would Rather find a woman who hasn't been in a relationship
that was abusive, married or not. If my path took me to one that was
abused I would gladly spend my time and experiences with her for us to
have the relationship we both deserve.

G

will i'd say as long as your in love it shouldnt matter

I tend to agree with LAMom. I lost my husband last March and I think it
would be a little easier to communicate a little more clearly on loving
and losing, Whether it be by death or divorce. Someone who hasn't made a
commitment by marriage could not really know what it was like to lose
that commitment. If I were to meet someone who hadn't been married and
we hit it off then that would be great, but he couldn't fully understand
something he has not experienced. But then again not everyone goes
through the same life experiences. That's what makes sharing special.

Okay...to all of you people that ride the fence....I understand
that you,ll drag, whoever you can to the alter....but lets say
that you could have the idea situtation....would you rather, break in a
man/woman....that has no reservations about marriage
or someone who,s been there, done that.....!

Backin & LAMom, with how lightly a lot of people take marriage today I'm
not sure how you can think this way (where as someone that's been in a
longterm relationship and never tied the knot might at least repect what
a marriage is about).....

If you put it that way Ontario, I would rather be with someone who
hasn't been in a bad marrige, since they are divorce it kinda goes hand
in hand. Guess I would say someone who hasn't been married before.

How could one fill the shoes of a loved one that left them due to a
death?

It would be impossible.

I am not sure at my age that I would get someone who has NEVER been
married.

Oh so true Tneal, very true. Honestly speaking very few will ever find
someone who has NEVER been married.


Back to work see ya

see ya soon!

t age is only a number, if you take the 2 and add them together how old
will you be...............lol


ohhhhh the question, married for me.

Hummm how many times can I add those numbers together lol


Actually at my age when I see someone that has never been married and is
my age it makes me wonder why what is wrong with them. It does cross my
mind.

But... back to the question I guess someone that has been there done
that and learned from it.

But... I would not turn away from someone just because they have not
been married either. Maybe they just never found the right one yet.

heh does it really freakin matter if they have been married before or
not ..does any of it really freakin matter