Topic: Why?
Twitch's photo
Wed 03/12/08 04:39 PM
Hey Kris -- i don't know if this will help. But when my niece was her age and the "why question' would come up for 100th time that day I would use children's books to explain her questions. Not all books will explain "her why's" but those books helped me teach her simple things.
I don't know which why question she asked, but this worked for me.:heart:

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Wed 03/12/08 04:40 PM

Hey Kris -- i don't know if this will help. But when my niece was her age and the "why question' would come up for 100th time that day I would use children's books to explain her questions. Not all books will explain "her why's" but those books helped me teach her simple things.
I don't know which why question she asked, but this worked for me.:heart:
happy thanks Twitch
I will try that MY kiddo loves books any way
she prefers them over cartoons even

lilith401's photo
Wed 03/12/08 04:41 PM

So you never say "no" unless you really mean "No" and then you will say "NO"??

Is that right?

yes
I don't feel that she should get the idea that saying no to everything is a great idea
like, for example
Its time to eat your vegies
"NO"
and with 2 yr olds something small like that can not only escalate into something unneccesary but can also hurt their feeelings if not properly explained in a way they can comprehend


I'm not trying to be rude, but have you read any parenting books or studied child development?

There is a difference between you saying no, and her screaming no. Her feelings, huh?

I always said "no thank you", "later", "not yet"...and "no"; but I am the boss. Not my child. My child makes few decisions, but I allow him to feel as though he makes more.

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Wed 03/12/08 04:43 PM


So you never say "no" unless you really mean "No" and then you will say "NO"??

Is that right?

yes
I don't feel that she should get the idea that saying no to everything is a great idea
like, for example
Its time to eat your vegies
"NO"
and with 2 yr olds something small like that can not only escalate into something unneccesary but can also hurt their feeelings if not properly explained in a way they can comprehend


I'm not trying to be rude, but have you read any parenting books or studied child development?

There is a difference between you saying no, and her screaming no. Her feelings, huh?

I always said "no thank you", "later", "not yet"...and "no"; but I am the boss. Not my child. My child makes few decisions, but I allow him to feel as though he makes more.
well this wasn't really meant to be about "Why can't I do this or that?"
She listens when I tell her she can't do something
It was more so meant to deal with what to say when she says "why " for the 100th time

Twitch's photo
Wed 03/12/08 04:43 PM


Hey Kris -- i don't know if this will help. But when my niece was her age and the "why question' would come up for 100th time that day I would use children's books to explain her questions. Not all books will explain "her why's" but those books helped me teach her simple things.
I don't know which why question she asked, but this worked for me.:heart:
happy thanks Twitch
I will try that MY kiddo loves books any way
she prefers them over cartoons even


It's worth a try. My niece learned so much from those books; even started reading earlier than most kids. Visual pictures helps them associate better. She'll be learning and not even know it. Love Ya hun :heart:

chuck366's photo
Wed 03/12/08 04:44 PM



Hey Kris -- i don't know if this will help. But when my niece was her age and the "why question' would come up for 100th time that day I would use children's books to explain her questions. Not all books will explain "her why's" but those books helped me teach her simple things.
I don't know which why question she asked, but this worked for me.:heart:
happy thanks Twitch
I will try that MY kiddo loves books any way
she prefers them over cartoons even


It's worth a try. My niece learned so much from those books; even started reading earlier than most kids. Visual pictures helps them associate better. She'll be learning and not even know it. Love Ya hun :heart:


Hi sweet twitchflowerforyou

Jill298's photo
Wed 03/12/08 04:44 PM

Hey Kris -- i don't know if this will help. But when my niece was her age and the "why question' would come up for 100th time that day I would use children's books to explain her questions. Not all books will explain "her why's" but those books helped me teach her simple things.
I don't know which why question she asked, but this worked for me.:heart:
thats a good ideaflowerforyou I've done that with my daughter too... she loves books

lilith401's photo
Wed 03/12/08 04:44 PM



So you never say "no" unless you really mean "No" and then you will say "NO"??

Is that right?

yes
I don't feel that she should get the idea that saying no to everything is a great idea
like, for example
Its time to eat your vegies
"NO"
and with 2 yr olds something small like that can not only escalate into something unneccesary but can also hurt their feeelings if not properly explained in a way they can comprehend


I'm not trying to be rude, but have you read any parenting books or studied child development?

There is a difference between you saying no, and her screaming no. Her feelings, huh?

I always said "no thank you", "later", "not yet"...and "no"; but I am the boss. Not my child. My child makes few decisions, but I allow him to feel as though he makes more.
well this wasn't really meant to be about "Why can't I do this or that?"
She listens when I tell her she can't do something
It was more so meant to deal with what to say when she says "why " for the 100th time


Well.... answer her question or tell her who to ask then. That is easy. Why the hullabaloo?

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Wed 03/12/08 04:45 PM




So you never say "no" unless you really mean "No" and then you will say "NO"??

Is that right?

yes
I don't feel that she should get the idea that saying no to everything is a great idea
like, for example
Its time to eat your vegies
"NO"
and with 2 yr olds something small like that can not only escalate into something unneccesary but can also hurt their feeelings if not properly explained in a way they can comprehend


I'm not trying to be rude, but have you read any parenting books or studied child development?

There is a difference between you saying no, and her screaming no. Her feelings, huh?

I always said "no thank you", "later", "not yet"...and "no"; but I am the boss. Not my child. My child makes few decisions, but I allow him to feel as though he makes more.
well this wasn't really meant to be about "Why can't I do this or that?"
She listens when I tell her she can't do something
It was more so meant to deal with what to say when she says "why " for the 100th time


Well.... answer her question or tell her who to ask then. That is easy. Why the hullabaloo?
I try but "why" is such an open ended question sometimes :tongue:

Twitch's photo
Wed 03/12/08 04:46 PM




Hey Kris -- i don't know if this will help. But when my niece was her age and the "why question' would come up for 100th time that day I would use children's books to explain her questions. Not all books will explain "her why's" but those books helped me teach her simple things.
I don't know which why question she asked, but this worked for me.:heart:
happy thanks Twitch
I will try that MY kiddo loves books any way
she prefers them over cartoons even


It's worth a try. My niece learned so much from those books; even started reading earlier than most kids. Visual pictures helps them associate better. She'll be learning and not even know it. Love Ya hun :heart:


Hi sweet twitchflowerforyou


Hi my sweet, sweet Chuck flowerforyou

Jill298's photo
Wed 03/12/08 04:46 PM
it really is just a phase tho... however you never want to discourage them from learning and asking questions. The CONSTANT "why why why" will end I promise flowerforyou

Jill298's photo
Wed 03/12/08 04:46 PM
it really is just a phase tho... however you never want to discourage them from learning and asking questions. The CONSTANT "why why why" will end I promise flowerforyou

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Wed 03/12/08 04:47 PM

it really is just a phase tho... however you never want to discourage them from learning and asking questions. The CONSTANT "why why why" will end I promise flowerforyou
I can only hope lol
I love that she likes to ask questions but wow sometimes it can be a bit overwhelming lol

Winx's photo
Wed 03/12/08 04:49 PM
My child never did the "why, why, why". I have seen it in others before. It can get old.

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Wed 03/12/08 04:51 PM

My child never did the "why, why, why". I have seen it in others before. It can get old.
you are so lucky laugh laugh laugh

Winx's photo
Wed 03/12/08 04:55 PM


My child never did the "why, why, why". I have seen it in others before. It can get old.
you are so lucky laugh laugh laugh


It will stop one day.

I sometimes think that they are doing it for attention or trying to learn how to make a conversation. Maybe it even becomes a habit. Who knows? I do know, though, don't give too much information - just little bits.

But...why is the sun yellow, etc. is perfectly normal.

lausim's photo
Wed 03/12/08 05:00 PM
When my son would ask why he couldn't have something, I would say to him "well, why do you think?" Kind of put it back on him.

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Wed 03/12/08 05:01 PM



My child never did the "why, why, why". I have seen it in others before. It can get old.
you are so lucky laugh laugh laugh


It will stop one day.

I sometimes think that they are doing it for attention or trying to learn how to make a conversation. Maybe it even becomes a habit. Who knows? I do know, though, don't give too much information - just little bits.

But...why is the sun yellow, etc. is perfectly normal.
That makes sense actually
Although she is very bright, like scary smart, she is still limited on words, she may just be trying to figure everything out
IT seems to me that a lot of her Aunts and Uncles prey victim to the awww its' cute let it slide rule
IF she says something that is cute even though inappropriate for a 2 yr old girl she is responding as an adult so they let her get away with it
ANd ad you said
She gets a reaction from it and sees that so she thinks it's ok to continue doing it
grumble which is why I want to shoot her Aunt for teaching her to whistle when dadda bends over laugh laugh

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Wed 03/12/08 05:03 PM

When my son would ask why he couldn't have something, I would say to him "well, why do you think?" Kind of put it back on him.
laugh
good one

thats like the whole George Carlin line
"How are you?"
"I'm not unwell thankyou"
which pissed them off because they have to figure that one out for themselveslaugh

Jill298's photo
Wed 03/12/08 05:03 PM


it really is just a phase tho... however you never want to discourage them from learning and asking questions. The CONSTANT "why why why" will end I promise flowerforyou
I can only hope lol
I love that she likes to ask questions but wow sometimes it can be a bit overwhelming lol
yes it does. I set aside time for her to ask questions. We could look them up online or in a book or talk about them...