How are you, I have a question for you, My 18 year old son got him self into trouble,,He got 3 tickets all at different times, He has to go to court thursday for the first ticket than again on the 18th and than again on the 27th,,,My nerves are shot, He could care less,By chance do you have any clue what is gonna happen,I'm so ready to have a nevers break down cause of him, I called legal aid, they said I had to go to court with him cause he is only 18,,, I don't understand that,I want him out of my home, I told him he has until April 1st,,,To Get OUT!!!

What's going to happen with what? The court, or getting him out of your home? Anyway, logically they would couple all of the charges in one court date to get them all out of the way however this may not be. He should be able to attend court alone as he is a legal adult, but just in case talk to court clerk to find out (much better). To get him out of your house is as simple as telling him to get out, he doesn't comply you can have the police escort him out without pressing any charges and without any legal trouble going to either of you.

Well, the same thing happened to me when i was 18 or 19. I went to court and they told me that I had to take a defensive driving class, twice. But, if I did that then I wouldn't have any fines and the tickets would be taken off my record. Of course, you have to pay for the class, but the guy was cool and gave me 2 certificates so I only had to pay once and got both tickets off my record.

Colleen, Colleen, Colleen....my dear sister in motherhood.

First,he got the tickets (he could care less) let him deal with the stress

Second, (reality is) his is oflegal age and it is time for you to let him understand the real world is not going to take his crap (excuse my harsh language) like we moms do.

Third, do not give an ultimatum (he has to be out by April 1st) unless you are ready to stand your ground. Our kids knowour weak spots so make sure you are ready to move forward.

Lastly, as for our nerves, thinkabout what you want to do with his room starting Apr 1st, are you going to paint it before you turn it into your special room, etc.....

Sweetie, you will be fine if you now learn to start takin gcare of you.......I am in your corner

i'm a mother of 4 kids,,, 18boy 16 girl 13 boy and a 2 year old,,,,


my 18 year old has stolen from me and his sister & brothers,,, I have try to get him help he don't want it, So I want And Need Him Out Of My House Am I So Wrong For this,,,

No. Your house, your rules, one does not follow said rules that one leaves.

I agree with FearandLoathing,
If he does not want to "man-up" to the responsibility of his wrong-doings then he needs to have tough love and get out. You have other children to care for and because of his indifference is putting you and the other children at risk.

You did not say what kind of tickets. If for a DUI he will probably loose his license if he is found guilty. If for a traffic offense, it would depend on the amount of points that will go against his license.

If he is 18 you don't have to be in court with him. If someone says so, it is probably because they want you to pay the fines and court costs or lawyers or whatever. Be glad he is 18. (In some states Parents become responsible for the crimes of their children.)

If he is that irresponsible and has a "don't care" attitude, he should not be driving a car to begin with. If he wants to live there he should have a job and pay some rent and pay for his fines himself.

That's not knowing all the details, or how he got in that shape to begin with.

Well said

Rich don't drive, It was for pot in his pocket,, He was by the bowling ally with his friends,

He got 3 tickets on 3 seperate days for pot in his pocket?

Well that's a different story.
Damn. Personally I think the cops should leave the pot smokers alone. LOL

Don't know about your state, but if he was in possession and for 3 charges, he might get some jail time. That could be an eye-opener for the boy. It is almost impossible to get an 18-year-old to do something they don't want to. They think they know it all, you can't tell them anything. At this point, sounds like he is at the mercy of the court, and they have the upper hand. Sounds like he doesn't respect you, your family or your rules, either, so time for some tough love, just like the others said. You should go to court if someone told you, but he is legal age, so he is responsible for his behavior and is likely in for a rude awakening. Heck, usually getting caught one time is enough for most people and they get smarter about hiding things.

I am sorry you are going through this. There is no way to not stress over it, but try to let as much of it go as you can, the ball is in his court now as he is an adult and he did commit the offenses. He knew the law. It is not easy, I went through hell with my daughter growing up, she did all kinds of things, and it is not easy, but it is time for you to take care of you and your other kids. I hope things get better for you. Take care.