I have been seeing a wonderful person, who I really like. I have been somewhat gaurded emotionally and not wearing my feelings on my sleeves. I dont want 2 get attached to quickly. I have just been taking it slow and watching. My fondness for him has grown. I can not say that i really knows how he feels, but i have been trying to avoid talking about feelings and just enjoy our time together. It seems like he is becoming aggravated a bit about what i dont say. I know he has taken me the wrong way a few times. So now i feel like i am pushing him away. Is it possible to be to gaurded?

Is he sharing his feelings?

Is he asking questions that you are not answering?

Communication is key, if you keep locking yourself up you won't get very far. Not talking about how you feel and the prospect of a relationship may make him feel you're not really looking for a relationship whether it be with him or just not at this juncture in time, on that note he might feel like he's being lead on.

no he has not come out and told me how he feels

to be oneself is to speak yourself...your feelings.....you did not make a mistake before, he just was not for you.....you felt rejected, but you were spared from a man that was only not for you at the time.....how can one not make tomarrow the same as yesterday if they base it on a so called mistake from yesterday......so would have to be an answer that show the mistake was not a mistake at all.....what person create within themself desire.....many have have tried to get love from you, and could not, and you felt nothing.....why does he.....what will be will be, as desire not brains lead the way, and then brains will show what is happening as it happen in front of you.....trust you, not him!

If he is taking you wrong, there are two possibilities:
1. He is assuming.
2. You are not effectively communicating.

I suggest you talk to him. Let him know how you feel, if you want to have a relationship. If you don't or aren't sure, then don't bother. It's okay to tell him you like him and want to spend time with him. If you don't and he leaves... well how are you going to feel?

In turn, he is equally responsible for communicating with you. A couple of months into dating is usually the best time to deterimine if you're going to actually have a relationship. Test the waters and go from there. If you remain too guarded for too long then how you feel now could go on indefinately if no one will step up and talk!

thanks for the wonderful advice

NO....thank you for the courage to share, as every word one write make them to believe it THEMSELF all the more, so you have helped ALL!

I have been thinking the same thing, and lo and behold, I read my horrorscope today;

March 11, 2008
Capricorn (12/22-1/19)
Are you feeling too restricted by a relationship? Do you think you're being suffocated by this person? Just a bit? Before you follow your urge to run away from them in order to regain your freedom, stop! You need to be thorough about things like this. Before you make a mistake and deliver an ultimatum, realize that you could really hurt their feelings. You need to think all the possibilities through completely before acting today. Be gentle.

Well, just wanted to give an update. He finally told me how he felt, I finally found it in me to open up and let go with him. Now 3 weeks later, he tells me he is getting back 2gether with his ex-girfriend. I FEEL SOOOOOOOOOO STUPID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You shouldn't. You were honest with him. Don't ever feel stupid about that.

Don't ever feel stupid! He is the one who should feel stupid for leading someone on like that. Hope you find someone 10x better than him.

sorry about that...know how you feel...makes you want to be even more guarded the next time....

I guess this isn't the first or last time I will misjudge someone:) thank u all for the kind replies