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Topic: Your relationship gets serious on here.
brat88 Joined Tue 02/12/08 Posts: 335	Mon 03/10/08 06:21 PM
I don't think I would move in with a guy right from the start..that gives you NO change to see if he has any type of issues..I'd move like down the street or something like that from him and just spend time with him daily..then after a few weeks or a month..move in with him..Ok..so I'm weird..I don't have a man..and it's driving me nutty. ' i would do that. WOW!..You mean I'm giving out good advise tonight..dang I might be sicker than I thought. the man im talking to ... wont live with anyone until they get married.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Mon 03/10/08 06:22 PM
I personally feel the guy should move, not saying it's right for every situation, just how I was raised. based on what? what if he has kids in school? or worse,kids living with mom in the town he lives in. Should he just pack up and leave them for a girl?

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Mon 03/10/08 06:23 PM
Well I have no kids, no ties, so it would be right for me.

LadyOfMagic Joined Fri 09/29/06 Posts: 4957	Mon 03/10/08 06:23 PM
I personally feel the guy should move, not saying it's right for every situation, just how I was raised. In a normal situation I'd agree with you Peccy..but I'm needing to get out of this backwards,backwoods,brain dead filled place that I was cursed to live in...I don't wanna end up like these people!

lacileo1 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 5226	Mon 03/10/08 06:29 PM
Maybe you could move into the middle,that way you would be close to your family and she would be close to her family.Everyone would be happy. Now that's what I am talking bout..COMPROMISING. Gotta have it in any relationship. May not be a logical answer but at least your trying to work out something that would be for both partys involved. IT'S ALL ABOUT ME my life is about me - who else should it be about? You can't toss away everything you have worked for just to get a boyfriend. Being single is not death. I have alot too. Own my home acreage, 2 stocked ponds, goats,chickens,ducks,dogs,cat. I love my home but if we are talking SERIOUS relationship would consider moving for LOVE. Might be the only chance ya get. Not talking boyfriend...would have to be a deeper level that that. Guess I am not wanting to live in my lovely home until I die.....ALONE. I have no trouble being alone. I have moved twice for work and I am not going to go through it for "love" when all of my experience tells me that despite how wonderful things seem at first, there is a good chance that things will end badly. And then what? More years wasted. Nah - I will enjoy what I have created here and if someone wants to join me, great, if not, great too. If you believe a relationship will never work it will NEVER work. I love myself and enjoy being alone. But we are talking we have made that special connection with someone. Have met them many times and ready to go to the next level. Either living with or marriage..what do you do? If it is a true union of two people then compromise is obviously the answer.

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Mon 03/10/08 06:32 PM
neither, it's doomed from the start.

LadyOfMagic Joined Fri 09/29/06 Posts: 4957	Mon 03/10/08 06:33 PM
I don't think I would move in with a guy right from the start..that gives you NO change to see if he has any type of issues..I'd move like down the street or something like that from him and just spend time with him daily..then after a few weeks or a month..move in with him..Ok..so I'm weird..I don't have a man..and it's driving me nutty. ' i would do that. WOW!..You mean I'm giving out good advise tonight..dang I might be sicker than I thought. the man im talking to ... wont live with anyone until they get married. Now see..THAT'S the kind of guy that I'm looking for..someone that knows how to take things slow..I've gotten notes from people asking me if I "do it"on the first date..even had a guy that wanted to skip the date altogether and just asked if I'd "do it" on the first meeting..um.."Yeah right you perv!"

lil_bit Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 1685	Mon 03/10/08 06:33 PM
you have met each other a few times and decide that you are right for one another. Someone has to move for you two to be together. Who is it and why? It all depends on who wants to make the first move and if the electricity is there. Yup, the chemistry counts. Certainly the woman is most vulnerable at this point, but the man needs to be as verbal as well. It is a joint connection, the meld of feelings. So much for my deeper moments...lol.

karmafury Joined Sun 11/12/06 Posts: 10156	Mon 03/10/08 06:59 PM
Hmmm. I'm in Montreal, Canada and she's in Queensland, Australia. Only way to get to be together is for one to move. She has two kids to uproot and bring. New schools, new climate (real Canadian winters). I have replaceable material goods. Easier for me so I'm going. 18th April I hit Brisbane and Australia will never be the same again.

scttrbrain Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 5769	Mon 03/10/08 07:02 PM
Hmmm. I'm in Montreal, Canada and she's in Queensland, Australia. Only way to get to be together is for one to move. She has two kids to uproot and bring. New schools, new climate (real Canadian winters). I have replaceable material goods. Easier for me so I'm going. You got that right. You a vewy vewy lucky man Mr fury. Keep her safe. grrrrrr....... Kat 18th April I hit Brisbane and Australia will never be the same again.

scttrbrain Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 5769	Mon 03/10/08 07:03 PM
Hmmm. I'm in Montreal, Canada and she's in Queensland, Australia. Only way to get to be together is for one to move. She has two kids to uproot and bring. New schools, new climate (real Canadian winters). I have replaceable material goods. Easier for me so I'm going. You got that right. You a vewy vewy lucky man Mr fury. Keep her safe. grrrrrr....... Kat 18th April I hit Brisbane and Australia will never be the same again. How did that happen???

LookinRound Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 7894	Mon 03/10/08 07:05 PM
Hmmm. I'm in Montreal, Canada and she's in Queensland, Australia. Only way to get to be together is for one to move. She has two kids to uproot and bring. New schools, new climate (real Canadian winters). I have replaceable material goods. Easier for me so I'm going. 18th April I hit Brisbane and Australia will never be the same again. Awwww how cool, good for both of you!!

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Mon 03/10/08 08:27 PM
Maybe you could move into the middle,that way you would be close to your family and she would be close to her family.Everyone would be happy. Now that's what I am talking bout..COMPROMISING. Gotta have it in any relationship. May not be a logical answer but at least your trying to work out something that would be for both partys involved. IT'S ALL ABOUT ME my life is about me - who else should it be about? You can't toss away everything you have worked for just to get a boyfriend. Being single is not death. I have alot too. Own my home acreage, 2 stocked ponds, goats,chickens,ducks,dogs,cat. I love my home but if we are talking SERIOUS relationship would consider moving for LOVE. Might be the only chance ya get. Not talking boyfriend...would have to be a deeper level that that. Guess I am not wanting to live in my lovely home until I die.....ALONE. I have no trouble being alone. I have moved twice for work and I am not going to go through it for "love" when all of my experience tells me that despite how wonderful things seem at first, there is a good chance that things will end badly. And then what? More years wasted. Nah - I will enjoy what I have created here and if someone wants to join me, great, if not, great too. If you believe a relationship will never work it will NEVER work. I love myself and enjoy being alone. But we are talking we have made that special connection with someone. Have met them many times and ready to go to the next level. Either living with or marriage..what do you do? If it is a true union of two people then compromise is obviously the answer. OH, I never said never.I was just talking odds and probabilities. You can get all starry eyed and believe whatever you want, but chances are good that it won't work out and you would have uprooted yourself for nothing. If something is meant to be, it will happen, without anyone having to take herioc measures. And Peccy's original question spoke of someone you had met "a few times". You are going to give up all you have for someone you have met less times than the checker at your supermarket? It does not seem wise or realistic to me.

Engraven_Image Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 7798	Mon 03/10/08 11:55 PM
you have met each other a few times and decide that you are right for one another. Someone has to move for you two to be together. Who is it and why? Our children, they can move out because the lady and I are goin to need alot of alone time!