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Naaah. I don't think so. Just patience.
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Naaah. I don't think so. Just patience. Is your heart still back somewhere with a women you can't forget....this normally send out signals that can't be seen but are real that you are not REALLY looking.....thoughts have energy that can be measured with a damn volt meter....they do have power and create what we see....just things to think about....any man that is what all these women here see in ya has got it going on so there is something there....it is easiest to narrow down what we want by really looking at all that we DONT want....never know, can't hurt 
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Lex...
Ya know it happens this way sometimes. You also know that at some point, you will start to see it in a less painful way then you do today. I wouldn't worry too much about meeting new people right now. Just go and lick your wounds for a while. Besides... That's exactly how I got into the mess lil and I are in right now. Sometimes you need to shut a door, before the one you really were meant to go through opens. |
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Lex...  If I were single, I would want you. Hell, a part of me wants you now! I don't care that I meet most of your 'dealbreaker' criteria.... I think you are a fantastic person. A wonderful catch. I'm speechless, really. I sat reading your post with my hand over my mouth. All I can say is I'm sorry. We all love you. Of course, I think I adore you more than most.  You're not going to like my suggestion... but here it goes. Meet more people. The ones around you, near you... obviously are out. Expand your areas to the surrounding states. Meet the ones you don't hate before it gets to the meet. People, in person, can be much better or worse. It will provide you with valuable dating education (about you) and obviously, whatever you share with us will be fodder for us to date vicariously through you. And you never know... you might actually find that someone grows on you. If I could hug you, I would. ((((((((((Lex))))))))))) This is sweet ... really. Lex you better listen to Lilith. 
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Lex... Ya know it happens this way sometimes. You also know that at some point, you will start to see it in a less painful way then you do today. I wouldn't worry too much about meeting new people right now. Just go and lick your wounds for a while. Besides... That's exactly how I got into the mess lil and I are in right now. Sometimes you need to shut a door, before the one you really were meant to go through opens. best mess either of you have EVAAAH been in 
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Lex... Ya know it happens this way sometimes. You also know that at some point, you will start to see it in a less painful way then you do today. Yeah, that's happened before, and then the cycle repeats itself and it always turns out exactly the same way. And I guess it's because there's only one person that interests me at all, and she is unable to do anything but lie and lie and lie and take advantage of my desire to do everything I can to make her life better. I just can't get interested in anybody else, though. Time to stop the insanity and just admit it's a futile pursuit and can never be anything but that. I'm done. |
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Lex I totally understand. One of my coworkers caught me having a crying fit in my car at lunch. You know its ok to have feelings. Its the little joys in life that make it bearable. Its ok to have a pity party now and then. I got over my ex by thinking about all the crappy things he did and all the times he embarrased me in public.
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Lex... If I were single, I would want you. Hell, a part of me wants you now! I don't care that I meet most of your 'dealbreaker' criteria.... I think you are a fantastic person. A wonderful catch. I'm speechless, really. I sat reading your post with my hand over my mouth. All I can say is I'm sorry. We all love you. Of course, I think I adore you more than most. You're not going to like my suggestion... but here it goes. Meet more people. The ones around you, near you... obviously are out. Expand your areas to the surrounding states. Meet the ones you don't hate before it gets to the meet. People, in person, can be much better or worse. It will provide you with valuable dating education (about you) and obviously, whatever you share with us will be fodder for us to date vicariously through you. And you never know... you might actually find that someone grows on you. If I could hug you, I would. ((((((((((Lex))))))))))) Dayum....you need to move Lex.....and do it now....if she said that to me........I'd be gone already....... |
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Lex... If I were single, I would want you. Hell, a part of me wants you now! I don't care that I meet most of your 'dealbreaker' criteria.... I think you are a fantastic person. A wonderful catch. I'm speechless, really. I sat reading your post with my hand over my mouth. All I can say is I'm sorry. We all love you. Of course, I think I adore you more than most. You're not going to like my suggestion... but here it goes. Meet more people. The ones around you, near you... obviously are out. Expand your areas to the surrounding states. Meet the ones you don't hate before it gets to the meet. People, in person, can be much better or worse. It will provide you with valuable dating education (about you) and obviously, whatever you share with us will be fodder for us to date vicariously through you. And you never know... you might actually find that someone grows on you. If I could hug you, I would. ((((((((((Lex))))))))))) Dayum....you need to move Lex.....and do it now....if she said that to me........I'd be gone already....... oops .....sorry...I missed the part where she said IF she was free........sorry bout the luck........ |
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Lex... If I were single, I would want you. Hell, a part of me wants you now! I don't care that I meet most of your 'dealbreaker' criteria.... I think you are a fantastic person. A wonderful catch. I'm speechless, really. I sat reading your post with my hand over my mouth. All I can say is I'm sorry. We all love you. Of course, I think I adore you more than most. You're not going to like my suggestion... but here it goes. Meet more people. The ones around you, near you... obviously are out. Expand your areas to the surrounding states. Meet the ones you don't hate before it gets to the meet. People, in person, can be much better or worse. It will provide you with valuable dating education (about you) and obviously, whatever you share with us will be fodder for us to date vicariously through you. And you never know... you might actually find that someone grows on you. If I could hug you, I would. ((((((((((Lex))))))))))) Dayum....you need to move Lex.....and do it now....if she said that to me........I'd be gone already....... She's taken -- if there was anyone even remotely like Lilith locally, I would at least try to make a new friend -- but the locals here have never been willing to talk to me at all....from Day One.... |
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I have to agree Lex......I'm in Monee........same delemia......
if someone with Lilith's brain and looks was near me......... Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm |
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Edited by
Jistme
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Fri 03/07/08 09:37 PM
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Yeah, that's happened before, and then the cycle repeats itself and it always turns out exactly the same way. And I guess it's because there's only one person that interests me at all, and she is unable to do anything but lie and lie and lie and take advantage of my desire to do everything I can to make her life better. I just can't get interested in anybody else, though. Time to stop the insanity and just admit it's a futile pursuit and can never be anything but that. I'm done. I hear ya, Lex. It is ok to feel that way today. You also know that you inherently are more courageous then to give another that much power over you. If they lied, if they took advantage... and hurt you as a result? That is OK. Sucks.. but ok.... But if you let that change your life, your outlook? You may as well send them your head mounted as a trophy. Because they have won. I'm probably not speaking to what you want to hear..or need to hear. You aren't there yet. When you are? I'll repeat myself. |
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She's taken -- if there was anyone even remotely like Lilith locally, I would at least try to make a new friend -- but the locals here have never been willing to talk to me at all....from Day One.... You know that trying to predict your future based on your past is just a sure fire way to predict your future...seal your fate. So.. hypothetically speaking. If Liliths doppelganger were to get a flat tire, right in front of your house..while you happened to be standing in the front yard, with a jack in one hand and a tire iron in the other... 3 months from now. You wouldn't even notice. Imagine what words you would have had for me today.. if you knew I passed up Lilith? If I did not screw my courage up and take a chance... Or if I all of a sudden threw in the towel because I did not have the courage to be vulnerable to her? Rhetorically, I ask...What would you say? |
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Well, I'm officially single again. I don't want to go into too much detail, other than to say that talk is cheap and it doesn't pay to believe everything you hear, especially when you've heard it a bunch of times and it was never true any of those other times, either. But I'm stupid like that. Like Homer said, it takes two to lie -- one to lie, and one to listen and believe the lie. OK, so now I'm trying to figure out what's the most realistic way to meet some new people. It's kind of a dilemma because there is no way I can meet people in real life, not where I live, anyway. Basically, as far as I can tell, that leaves dating sites, which have a.) never done me any good whatsoever, and b.) the ones I've been on don't have anyone who is realistically datable anyway. So -- Maybe someone has some kind of totally novel, heretofore unheard of, magically effective strategy that I never knew about before. Hey, it can't hurt to ask, right?  Monastries are looking more realistic...
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Russian bride, Comrade?
Really though, I hate it for you, Lex. Find me if you need an ear. Anything else I might say would just be a cliche. M
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It's kind of a dilemma because there is no way I can meet people in real life, not where I live, anyway. I don't believe you. Quit lying to yourself. It's not like you live in Alaska. |
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It's kind of a dilemma because there is no way I can meet people in real life, not where I live, anyway. I don't believe you. Quit lying to yourself. It's not like you live in Alaska. I don't care whether you believe me or not. There are circumstances that make it impossible to meet anybody here. I was looking for suggestions, not "I don't believe you." |
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It's important to get over this woman, so you can allow love to be found with another. In my humble opinion, it's the getting past that really allows you to move on. It took me a long time to move past and it's been a GREAT realization. There is finally no hurt, no anger, finally apathy. I wish you luck.
You mentioned in a former post you liked someone, who can converse, in an intelligent way..maybe give some past dating sites and maybe this one, another attempt. One thing that worked for me, in the healing process was to make a list of the good and bad times. The bad far outweighed the good. The list was very helpful, during times of regret or longing. |
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Lex, my darlin man, I just read this now my heart goes out to you, I will contact you later...awwwh this is so sad, one big gigantic hug my friend....dammmmmmmmmmmmm,
I hide when something like this happens, lick my wounds and come back in kickin, even if there is only friendship, you gave it your best shot, and god only knows how much of yourself, this tends to kick your ass the most... Please god take care of my friend..((((Lex's Heart)))
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Hey Lex- I know we've had our differences but I think you are a catch and someone will see that you possess great qualities-intelligence,humor and so much more. Hang in there. There are a lot of great people here, yet somehow we're all still looking. So keep your chin up. Somewhere out there is a woman who deserves you.
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