This is going to sound silly and probably have a couple people up in a roar but i am HONESTLY curious.

I live next to a Military Base and when I talk to someone from the base, 90% of them act as if the Military is the BEST thing in the world to them. When I ask about their family or children they act like they are nothing special but the army is "all that" and more. Why is it a lot of Military people (at least where I am at) Take more pride in their service record then on the birth of their children or their family in general?

alot were not there for the birth of their child and others only get married for the benifits sorry to say it but it is the sad truth

I asked that question for 17 years when I was married to the AF (via my EX).

Don't know! but they're doing something most won't so I don't Hassle them about anything

I think its gotta be somethin that is instilled in basic training... they have to think that way, when/if somebody gets it hopefully they can deprogram! Thank God for them all though

Maybe it's just their state of mind at this moment... I'm sure they do NOT think less of their children and family. They have to be in this state of mind right now especially because of what's happening.... Of course this is just my opinion and a HUGE guess....

I don't think they are all like that. When I went to see my ex-boyfriend at Fort Polk, I talked to a lot of his friends, and all they could talk about to me was how much they missed their family, girlfriends, wives, kids.

One of my very closest friends is in the Army, he is currently in Iraq for the 3rd time.

He loves his mom and sister more than anything, would move heaven and earth for them.

Before he left we had long talks about him going again, and he told me..."I was scared, but it is what I promised to do." I think military men and women have an honor that makes them faithful to their job. I have the highest respect...I certainly couldn't do it.

I know one guy i work with cant stop talking about the Military. Asked about his 2 year old daughter and he just says "its a girl nothing special". I almost wanted to deck him.

When you join the military, they let you know real quick that they are your mom,not your real family anymore.

*crosses "military" off her dating list*

when I was in the military, it was my life while I was on duty, most of the men I knew felt the same. I had a house off post where I lived with the wife when I was there family was all that counted, there was a small enclave of military familys we did not really have a lot to do with civillians, we were just too busy and our little free time was for the family....

when I was in the military, it was my life while I was on duty, most of the men I knew felt the same. I had a house off post where I lived with the wife when I was there family was all that counted, there was a small enclave of military familys we did not really have a lot to do with civillians, we were just too busy and our little free time was for the family....

They love their family and children, military life is hard on families and the focus required to do your job is tremendous. You can get yourself killed or your comrades from one moment of distraction. And a military career for someone who has chosen such is something to be proud of and strive for achievement and recognition in you particular job. It is hard yet fullfilling, but with few exception, love of family, friends etc, does not ever fade.

I married into a military family. My husband is currently active duty Navy. Is isn't so much that they don't care for their families... but it's a different mindset. I know my husband loves me and the kids very much, but he signed up for something somewhat of a higher purpose. He has a duty to serve his country. Even when he's tough on the outside, I know he misses us a great deal. In fact, the last time we parted ways, I actually saw the tears in his eyes.
Don't think the don't care about their families... sometimes the tough exterior is all that keeps them from falling apart while they are gone.

I do not know exactly. but i was in something like the Army for five years, and i think that sometimes the isolation and the rigorous training have an effect on the personality. and the Army becomes to be all.

I was in the love the military category. Here's the thing: noone trains you to love your family and kids. If you don't have that in your character or your parents didn't teach you or set a decent example, you miss out. The military trains you about how to be a military man, but they don't teach relationship skills. They've gotten a little better at it lately, but still, they have a long way to go, I think. Besides, they use some really great brainwashing techniques when they train you, too.

If you think about it from a psychological stand point. In order to get military personnel to do what they are told without question they must hold their service in a higher standing then anything else, otherwise they may start questioning the orders given. It is control. It is the same psychology that religions use by making their religion the one true religion and all others wrong.

I'm in the Army, National Guard going active..My soon to be husband is this way, he is Infantry and very Army first/Infantry fist hooah..I will agree with the posters on this subject, cause I don't know what to say... I leave in one week for basic and ait and I'm sure my mindset will be different when I come home...