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Topic: Ever misjudge someone?
IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Thu 02/28/08 08:59 PM
I guess giving everyone the benefit of the doubt is a good thing. Sometimes yes; sometimes no. (((((Angel)))) how are you beautiful? Haven't bumped into you in ages.. I've been better, ((((IndnPrncs)))). Thinking about leaving the forums, though. Takes up too much of my time, I'm afraid. I hope everything is ok Angel.. If you need to talk email me and or call (you'd have to email for my number ) I'm here for you sweetie really.. Um yeah the forums so much damn fun we're all giving up sleep or a majority of us... lol

shoes4rhon Joined Sat 02/02/08 Posts: 3411	Thu 02/28/08 09:06 PM
I know I have seen it work the other way around..occasionally at work I get put into groups with young accountants..and you can see on their faces when they see me..oh, crap, we are gonna have to work with a granny...but then I make them laugh and I say things they never heard their grandma say; and I know some of their music and the shows they like..they always end up hugging me and then keeping in touch. I would not have thought anyone could have that impression of you hikerchick.. well..visually -the first impression - I am 50 years old..overweight..I know they are expecting me to be like their mom or something..but some of my best friends are young people..once they get to know me. well that goes to show about the whole book and it cover thing true, but the thing is they give me a chance and they come around. pfft - I can charm youngsters easy. It's guys my age that I have trouble with! do you think that you intimidate them ??

johnboy072472 Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 4874	Thu 02/28/08 09:08 PM
Absolutely .. and sometimes the funny thing that I come to realize is in my hasty judgement that it is something about myself that I see in them that I don't like lol ... I hope that made sense made complete sense!!! you are so right that is when I realize that I need to learn something from them so I can be the best person I can be ... Whoot whoot WHOOT WHOOT Happens to me all the time

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Thu 02/28/08 09:09 PM
I know I have seen it work the other way around..occasionally at work I get put into groups with young accountants..and you can see on their faces when they see me..oh, crap, we are gonna have to work with a granny...but then I make them laugh and I say things they never heard their grandma say; and I know some of their music and the shows they like..they always end up hugging me and then keeping in touch. I would not have thought anyone could have that impression of you hikerchick.. well..visually -the first impression - I am 50 years old..overweight..I know they are expecting me to be like their mom or something..but some of my best friends are young people..once they get to know me. well that goes to show about the whole book and it cover thing true, but the thing is they give me a chance and they come around. pfft - I can charm youngsters easy. It's guys my age that I have trouble with! do you think that you intimidate them ?? who - the kids or the guys my age? Guys are just visual creatures for the most part. You can have the most amazing mind, heart, and soul, but if the looks are not there, most of them back away slowly. There are some super special ones that can see past the outside and into the inside..but they are rare. (certainly worth looking for, though!)

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Thu 02/28/08 09:09 PM
I guess giving everyone the benefit of the doubt is a good thing. Sometimes yes; sometimes no. (((((Angel)))) how are you beautiful? Haven't bumped into you in ages.. I've been better, ((((IndnPrncs)))). Thinking about leaving the forums, though. Takes up too much of my time, I'm afraid. I hope everything is ok Angel.. If you need to talk email me and or call (you'd have to email for my number ) I'm here for you sweetie really.. Um yeah the forums so much damn fun we're all giving up sleep or a majority of us... lol I down to four hours a night..I keep thinking, oh, it's only 2 am....yikes

baby_gurl Joined Tue 11/14/06 Posts: 2431	Thu 02/28/08 09:09 PM
lol ive done the contrary, gave someone he benefit of the dough and it turned out he was a total prick

DevilDog1987 Joined Mon 02/25/08 Posts: 613	Thu 02/28/08 09:11 PM
lol ive done the contrary, gave someone he benefit of the dough and it turned out he was a total prick you gave someone dough?

shoes4rhon Joined Sat 02/02/08 Posts: 3411	Thu 02/28/08 09:12 PM
I know I have seen it work the other way around..occasionally at work I get put into groups with young accountants..and you can see on their faces when they see me..oh, crap, we are gonna have to work with a granny...but then I make them laugh and I say things they never heard their grandma say; and I know some of their music and the shows they like..they always end up hugging me and then keeping in touch. I would not have thought anyone could have that impression of you hikerchick.. well..visually -the first impression - I am 50 years old..overweight..I know they are expecting me to be like their mom or something..but some of my best friends are young people..once they get to know me. well that goes to show about the whole book and it cover thing true, but the thing is they give me a chance and they come around. pfft - I can charm youngsters easy. It's guys my age that I have trouble with! do you think that you intimidate them ?? who - the kids or the guys my age? Guys are just visual creatures for the most part. You can have the most amazing mind, heart, and soul, but if the looks are not there, most of them back away slowly. There are some super special ones that can see past the outside and into the inside..but they are rare. (certainly worth looking for, though!) I am sure they are out there .. it isn't any easier for us thin gals either .. folks is folks ....

johnboy072472 Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 4874	Thu 02/28/08 09:15 PM
I know I have seen it work the other way around..occasionally at work I get put into groups with young accountants..and you can see on their faces when they see me..oh, crap, we are gonna have to work with a granny...but then I make them laugh and I say things they never heard their grandma say; and I know some of their music and the shows they like..they always end up hugging me and then keeping in touch. I would not have thought anyone could have that impression of you hikerchick.. well..visually -the first impression - I am 50 years old..overweight..I know they are expecting me to be like their mom or something..but some of my best friends are young people..once they get to know me. well that goes to show about the whole book and it cover thing true, but the thing is they give me a chance and they come around. pfft - I can charm youngsters easy. It's guys my age that I have trouble with! do you think that you intimidate them ?? who - the kids or the guys my age? Guys are just visual creatures for the most part. You can have the most amazing mind, heart, and soul, but if the looks are not there, most of them back away slowly. There are some super special ones that can see past the outside and into the inside..but they are rare. (certainly worth looking for, though!) I am sure they are out there .. it isn't any easier for us thin gals either .. folks is folks .... WHOOT WHOOT

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Thu 02/28/08 09:17 PM
I know I have seen it work the other way around..occasionally at work I get put into groups with young accountants..and you can see on their faces when they see me..oh, crap, we are gonna have to work with a granny...but then I make them laugh and I say things they never heard their grandma say; and I know some of their music and the shows they like..they always end up hugging me and then keeping in touch. I would not have thought anyone could have that impression of you hikerchick.. well..visually -the first impression - I am 50 years old..overweight..I know they are expecting me to be like their mom or something..but some of my best friends are young people..once they get to know me. well that goes to show about the whole book and it cover thing true, but the thing is they give me a chance and they come around. pfft - I can charm youngsters easy. It's guys my age that I have trouble with! do you think that you intimidate them ?? who - the kids or the guys my age? Guys are just visual creatures for the most part. You can have the most amazing mind, heart, and soul, but if the looks are not there, most of them back away slowly. There are some super special ones that can see past the outside and into the inside..but they are rare. (certainly worth looking for, though!) I am sure they are out there .. it isn't any easier for us thin gals either .. folks is folks .... I understand..you may get a lot more attention but is it the kind of attention you really want? It's hard to find the right fit no matter who you are. But we have these forums to have fun while we are waiting!

shoes4rhon Joined Sat 02/02/08 Posts: 3411	Thu 02/28/08 09:18 PM
I know I have seen it work the other way around..occasionally at work I get put into groups with young accountants..and you can see on their faces when they see me..oh, crap, we are gonna have to work with a granny...but then I make them laugh and I say things they never heard their grandma say; and I know some of their music and the shows they like..they always end up hugging me and then keeping in touch. I would not have thought anyone could have that impression of you hikerchick.. well..visually -the first impression - I am 50 years old..overweight..I know they are expecting me to be like their mom or something..but some of my best friends are young people..once they get to know me. well that goes to show about the whole book and it cover thing true, but the thing is they give me a chance and they come around. pfft - I can charm youngsters easy. It's guys my age that I have trouble with! do you think that you intimidate them ?? who - the kids or the guys my age? Guys are just visual creatures for the most part. You can have the most amazing mind, heart, and soul, but if the looks are not there, most of them back away slowly. There are some super special ones that can see past the outside and into the inside..but they are rare. (certainly worth looking for, though!) I am sure they are out there .. it isn't any easier for us thin gals either .. folks is folks .... WHOOT WHOOT Hey John you cutie patootie ... whoot whoot to you too , you and mirror making fun of my whooting...

Wonderbread Joined Wed 12/13/06 Posts: 5587	Thu 02/28/08 09:18 PM
lol ive done the contrary, gave someone he benefit of the dough and it turned out he was a total prick rofl. dough. doH! doubt. hahaha, its a long night.

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Thu 02/28/08 09:18 PM
I guess giving everyone the benefit of the doubt is a good thing. Sometimes yes; sometimes no. (((((Angel)))) how are you beautiful? Haven't bumped into you in ages.. I've been better, ((((IndnPrncs)))). Thinking about leaving the forums, though. Takes up too much of my time, I'm afraid. I hope everything is ok Angel.. If you need to talk email me and or call (you'd have to email for my number ) I'm here for you sweetie really.. Um yeah the forums so much damn fun we're all giving up sleep or a majority of us... lol Thank you, sweet. I'll remember that. ....Can't talk about it just now. (((hug)))

shoes4rhon Joined Sat 02/02/08 Posts: 3411	Thu 02/28/08 09:22 PM Edited by shoes4rhon on Thu 02/28/08 09:24 PM
I know I have seen it work the other way around..occasionally at work I get put into groups with young accountants..and you can see on their faces when they see me..oh, crap, we are gonna have to work with a granny...but then I make them laugh and I say things they never heard their grandma say; and I know some of their music and the shows they like..they always end up hugging me and then keeping in touch. I would not have thought anyone could have that impression of you hikerchick.. well..visually -the first impression - I am 50 years old..overweight..I know they are expecting me to be like their mom or something..but some of my best friends are young people..once they get to know me. well that goes to show about the whole book and it cover thing true, but the thing is they give me a chance and they come around. pfft - I can charm youngsters easy. It's guys my age that I have trouble with! do you think that you intimidate them ?? who - the kids or the guys my age? Guys are just visual creatures for the most part. You can have the most amazing mind, heart, and soul, but if the looks are not there, most of them back away slowly. There are some super special ones that can see past the outside and into the inside..but they are rare. (certainly worth looking for, though!) I am sure they are out there .. it isn't any easier for us thin gals either .. folks is folks .... I understand..you may get a lot more attention but is it the kind of attention you really want? It's hard to find the right fit no matter who you are. But we have these forums to have fun while we are waiting! there is not enough alcohol in the world for me to be interested in some of the emails that I get ... shuddering .. and you are right about not wanting that type of attention .. guys don't care what I have to say ,or want to know who I am but by god I better look good on thier arm in front of thier friends .. I thought that online dating would make them have to see me , my insides ...Besides about the outside I always feel like I should call my parents and say thanks for great genes ..

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Thu 02/28/08 09:23 PM
I guess giving everyone the benefit of the doubt is a good thing. Sometimes yes; sometimes no. (((((Angel)))) how are you beautiful? Haven't bumped into you in ages.. I've been better, ((((IndnPrncs)))). Thinking about leaving the forums, though. Takes up too much of my time, I'm afraid. I hope everything is ok Angel.. If you need to talk email me and or call (you'd have to email for my number ) I'm here for you sweetie really.. Um yeah the forums so much damn fun we're all giving up sleep or a majority of us... lol Thank you, sweet. I'll remember that. ....Can't talk about it just now. (((hug))) I completely understand, just don't forget I'm here.. <hugs>

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Thu 02/28/08 09:25 PM
I won't. Thanks.

shoes4rhon Joined Sat 02/02/08 Posts: 3411	Thu 02/28/08 09:28 PM
back to topic for just a second .. Do you think that sometimes we put off wrong impression to defend the vulnerable person in there ??

Wonderbread Joined Wed 12/13/06 Posts: 5587	Thu 02/28/08 09:29 PM
back to topic for just a second .. Do you think that sometimes we put off wrong impression to defend the vulnerable person in there ?? Nope, not in my book, you're only vulerable if you're weak. And weakness is a sign that one day, you will not survive, because as we all know its survival of the fittest. I'm going to continue to tell it like I see it.

mnhiker Joined Wed 02/14/07 Posts: 3771	Thu 02/28/08 09:30 PM
Have you ever had a first impression of someone that may not have been so good, then after you get the chance to spend some time with them and get to know them, you find that they are really an awesome and decent person? I guess giving everyone the benefit of the doubt is a good thing. Not often. But I've been misjudged.

Lordling Joined Mon 12/31/07 Posts: 536	Thu 02/28/08 09:32 PM
Have you ever had a first impression of someone that may not have been so good, then after you get the chance to spend some time with them and get to know them, you find that they are really an awesome and decent person? I guess giving everyone the benefit of the doubt is a good thing. No....My first impressions are always dead-on.