So me and this girl, Nicole who I have been with for about 7 months now have been acting different. I mean I love her to death and she loves me. Recently we split up for about a week and that was aweful but she finally asked me back out. She told me that she had these feelings for another guy but knew it wouldn't go anywhere. So were back together and she has been acting really distant because of her job putting a lot of stress on her and an incident which may cost her the job. It seems like she keeps pushing herself farther and farther away from me and its killing me. I mean I love her so much and I have had many girlfriends but she makes it feel like I have never had one before. I dont know what to really do. I ask myself is the happyness she gives me worth the pain that comes. I dont know because im torn. I mean I love her with all my heart and soul, it just feels like shes playing mind games. The other night she tells me she loves me but she still has feelings for the other guy. I mean I knew that, im not stupid.. but I'm over it you know. I just feel like I am a cushin for her to fall back on incase nothing ever became of her and him. I hardly get sleep at night, and constant feel full of anxiety. I just dont know what to do..

-Josh

Hi Josh...and Welcome to JSH

As an older woman who has been through every emotional pain in this world.....I honestly think that this girl is playing games with you, simply because she CAN.

She knows how much you really love her, and "in my opinion", she has you just sitting on the Back Burner while she sees if things will work with the other guy first...if it doesn't, then you will be the "FALL GUY"

She doesn't "LOVE" you ...if she DID, she would be with you, and not telling you about some other guys that she cares about

You are a nice-looking young man, and I'm quite sure that you can find someone who really DOES love you and want to be with you!

She is not the one for you......So, just let it go and move on.

I know it wont be easy, but if you think really hard about all of the emotional stress that she causes you....time will HEAL your heart and MAKE it easier for you

Rose