If he made you feel bad about yourself....I say don't answer!!

im not here..shhhhhhh..lurking

Well noone can make you feel bad about yourself unless you let them .. he just didn't seem to ever really know me ..

CAMBO

for what my opinion is worth...stick to what you want for yourself. you are too pretty and sweet to have anything less

Especially if you have took him
back in the past, he will expect
you to be his back up plan. Show
him you have taken control of your
life and find someone else..

Well I didn't really want to see three years go down the drain but you can't make anyone love you if they don't and if they say that don't then chances are you ought to listen ..

you are right

this thread has the nicest ladies on this site.Just had to say it.

I wouldn't completely rule out being friends with an ex.

I've found a great friend in mine. We give each other relationship advice, have dinners & watch movies.
(All the good stuff minus SEX)

Its not easy, and it took me a while to realize that people can't hurt you unless you let them.

Break-ups are hard, but they don't have to ruin frindships.

In the long run...Time heals all.

yes you should but you should follow your gut too. maybe take it slow and talk about things and see where it goes

I agree and am friends with other exes but they didn't degrade me or call me names when they were mad at me .. they also said they were sorry if they had done something mean to me .. they didn't take your most private thoughts and turn them against you .. so that is not really being a friend .. I just don't get since I am such a bad person why he would still call ...

my best friend is my ex..Cause we were friends first!!!Thats how it should always be..Lust is powerful and hard to deny..but if thats how ya start a relationship it will end strangely.

he knows now that he was an ass.

in that case you are probably the only person that put up with his crap, and he either recognized it, or is trying to take advantage of it.

But really and truly, if he puts you down, he doesnt deserve your time.

my ex really hurt me before we broke up he was my everything at the time several months later he started calling me and apologizing at first i was very forgiving cause i thought i wanted him back but then i had to realise did i really want to get back with a guy who could be so cold. So to break things off with him felt so great at the end

I dont really know your whole situation... But in my case my ex and i are still friends. He is still treated as part of the family as far as my parents and brothers are concerned. As a couple we werent good together. But as friends we make great parents and our kids dont have to be put in the middle and be made to choose who is better or who loves them most.

Did three years really go down the drain or did you just decide you deserved a better life situation or relationship than was possible with him. Sure if history is there your moving forward might seem like he is being left behind but the consequences he has are the ones he earned by his not so pleasant behavior. You deserve to maintain the hard won freedom you have attained by putting him on a polite but long term iggy. You will treat him and others how to treat you by what you do and donot let them get away with. Good luck.

Maybe he misses you regardless of what he said. As they say, others most often get angry at others for what they actually dislike in themselves. Either way, I think what it really boils down to is what you're most comfortable with. If his calling you is bothering you this much, then it's probably not a good idea at this point in time. But maybe some time down the road. Or never. It's entirely up to you.

Thanks .. I sometimes feel by talking to him I am just picking at a scab .. I say rip off the band aid and be done ..