I know what your say

Ok check this out I have long hair and I get a lot of compliments on it. So when I get an email and the first thing I read. OMG I love your hair and god only knows how many times I heard that being on here What are the chances that this is someone wanting to know me or hopeing to just flirt and jump right in to the sex conversations? Now, I can't say i don't like it because that would be BS, although it's not what i'm looking for and it's what seems to be heading myway though..

Well you keep this up! i'm going to. OM HMMMM give me a min. Ill think of something

you need that long to think of something??!!

I think mine was, 'you are a bit of a dark horse, aren't you?'

I dont think I mentioned hair in mail... EVER... it irrelevant to who you are, the who of you.

you need that long to think of something??!!


No Just this wasn't ment to turn into a sex topic and with what your saying KITTY You have know idea what your getting into

No Just this wasn't ment to turn into a sex topic and with what your saying KITTY You have know idea what your getting into


empty threats

Dark hores? explain

There is a whole lot more to you, than long hair and flirting, there is a deep thinking sensitive human behind the posts..

empty threats

Boy are you asking for it.... Ok miss I want to play. Ill give you a thought or to here in a min. but not on here

Hay Shadow, ithink Jess has actually got your number so to speak

Wow, this is a very interesting thread

Funny how everyone danced around the subject, made half baked excuses, or came up with fuzzy logic reasoning.

waiting for aaronz advice lol

I think some are used to it or maybe they think they need to talk about it alot to keep the chat up. dunno

If I'm only interested in being friends steer clear from the "S" word. When they are asking a question about the "S" word then I answer them honestly.

I really think that women and men bring up sex because this is a date site. Everyone knows the topic of sex is gonna come up sooner or later. No pun intended.. (how about some tongue with that) Couldn't resist..

I think Jess has your number...you are very thought provoking in some of your posts.

I think Txsgal had the best answer to your question.

I think "nough said"

I don't know that I want to even start in with an answer to this. For one thing it would take a long time to explain and for another it would p!ss off a lot of people.

Yes Txs is a really good friend of mine. And she will always give a straight answer

And I agree with Yellowrose. and some are not interested if you don't keep it up

What else do you have to do?

Fair question Shadow

OK, in a nutshell.

Often it's an immaturity/insecurity/desperation/neediness thing. We want to be in a serious relationship, we hope for that special someone to lighten our load and brighten our lives. Some hope for the right person to come along and "make them whole" or "give them meaning". They have an emotional deficit and they're searching for some outside component or influence to fill that void. The "you complete me" syndrome.

So if we start talking and pretending about something that means it's a serious meaningful relationship - that would be sex - then it will magically MAKE this a serious meaningful relationship. Even though we haven't invested the time or effort to get to know each other and build the trust to that level we can artificially force it up there by describing what I want you to do with your right hand while your left leg is... So now since we're having sex - even just cyber - that means I'm now lovable and desirable and attractive and a REAL man or a REAL woman. Now I'm SOMEBODY dammit!

And sometimes it's much simpler than that. Sometimes it's just a selfishness issue. I want to feel good right now so let's get busy. You're just a piece of meat but that's ok because so am I.

Of course this is all referring to conversations that dive into the bedroom before you take the time to really get to know someone, to talk enough to really develop trust and become vulnerable. And that doesn't happen in a few day's time.

Anything worth having is worth the journey to get it.

Well put. Most either don't see it or don't want to see it. Sex can over ride the relationship and thats all it becomes as you explained. Being on the site is a good way to meet someone and you can express yourself on how you feel, but that only goes so far and people live in a fantasy world that this is real. The funny thing is, it's not. a lot of what we feel is fals and why I say that. It's that most of the excitment that we get from being on the net is knowing we haven't met them yet. The thrill of wanting something we cant have just yet. This is where the sexual talk comes in and people will build up there hopes and once again they will be let down. because they took the road that was pleasure for that moment and not what could of been. I might of gone over some of what you said, but I need to hear what I say and not just listen.