lol i know the feeling

Very well said!

well multiply that by 5 .. ya that be me and there is no such thing as caring toooo much. IMHO.

lol you are my hero

care you hopefully learn from your hurts

ok...why do people push the good away and say f it - I'll go for someone to hurt me again?

I've done that in the past so I'm just as guilty, but I know a lot of people that do that

Wow, same thing as in another topic going on right now.

Here's what I posted in there:
Wrong question. He's gone and what does it matter what his issues are?

The answer you need to find is to the question "Why are you attracted to that kind of guy?"

Untie that knot and you'll be on your way to eliminating those kinds of leeches from your life.



The place to start looking is inside yourself. Your beliefs and expectations. Do you see yourself accurately? Of course everyone THINKS they do but do you really? This is difficult ground to cover and takes patience and courage - and lots of outside help. Once you understand yourself and God's place for you in this world you'll see through the BS more easily. You'll attract less of it and be attracted to it less.

lol i saw that post on the other thread. just curious why people look for the wrong person. i know what i am looking for and who i am, the good and the bad. but some how i keep running into the same problem and can't figure out the common factor

No, you won't be able to see it in yourself. You're IN the forest and can only see trees. That's where the outside help comes in. Sometimes friends are enough to point you in the right direction. Sometimes it takes a trained professional to help you unravel the weaves.

The problem is finding a competent professional since at least half of the psych field belongs in rubber rooms themselves.

lol so it's hopeless huh?

How on earth did you get THAT out of what I said??

lol from the rubber room part

Sometimes it's easier to care for another,

Then to care for yourself.

So don't forget to care for yourself,

Then others will care for you.

very well put...ty

Nah, there are plenty of great counselors and therapist out there. you just have to weed through a lot more quacks to find 'em.

lol i don't need to go THAT far lol. just questioning things is all

I would much rather care and risk getting hurt. I know what it's like being with someone that doesn't care. I would hate to put someone through that. Because I can care I have learned what kind of people I want in my life.

very true. I just think sometimes that when someone else hurts you...it would be nice to have an off switch