Im looking for a little advice on whether or not to believe this guy.
I started talking to him online in August. He wanted to meet and I kept putting it off finally in Dec I met him and then I stopped talking to him, told him something didn't feel right,and then I started talking to him again becuase he kept persuing me,and he mentioned he wanted more and I said I wanted to wait and he said he was willing to wait as long as it took.Now finally I want more and he seems to be backing off, calling me less and texting me less for the past few weeks and I havent seen him in two weeks. I texted him the other day and said is everything ok you've been differnt the past few weeks. He responded with yes I have just been busy doing work on my house and with work stuff and I am giving you your time and your space like you like.My gut is telling me that he's met someone else and I am not sure whether or not to believe him.But if he is seeing someone I cant be mad becuase of what ive done to him not being sure before but I did atleast be honest with him and tell him not let him sit and wonder.

This sounds familiar.

It sounds like he's involved with criminal activity. You should stay away from him. He could be dangerous.

Go with your gut feeling. He shouldn't have rushed you if you werent ready, and now that he's backing off it's either because he changed his mind, or the thrill of the catch is gone.

Just my two pennies.

Good luck!

I would go with your gut instinct... You kind of have to because if you can't trust yourself, how can you trust someone else. It does sound like to me you're telling yourself the truth and you can't deny that. Keep using your gut and telling yourself the truth....you'll be happy that you did....that's just my opinion of course...cause I use mine!!!

If he is seeing someone, let him go, but if he is not you need to make up your mind, because it is unfair to him..

Oh, the thrill of the chase.

Chances are, he's not who he says he is. Probably never was. Don't you find it odd you put him off for almost six months? Trust your instincts. There was something offputting then, and now. For good reason, most likely.

Is this guy a sex offender ?

why does it sound familiar?

why would you ask if he is a sex offender

Is this guy a member of the mafia ?

thanks to all who gave some serious advice here

That's how online dating goes... It happens to all of us. Time to move onto the next one...

Where are all the suggestions for her to move, buy a gun, and get a dog???? Oh, and I suggest if you own a blue tarp, please hide it under all your broken appliances in the backyard.



Please do not take offense, we are not teasing you. Just skip to the pertinent posts.

you're welcome lynn....it's always important to believe yourself and listen to your heart....you'll be fine.....just sit back and let the work be done for you instead of eating yourself up inside!!! You did well...very well.

Well the wait and see game can back fire...

and you should Always listen to your gut feelings!
Its when we dont listen to our gut feelings- that we get into trouble.

I say move along... JMO

I'd see where things go from here, but becareful. He's probably backing off, because of what has happened before. IDK

Hmmm.. Well, you can always do things the way I would do them. You find another girl (online) who is willing to contact him (making sure this is only to find out what his intentions are.. about you) and definitely without mentioning a single word that would be relevant to his interactions with you. I play no games with anyone. Either, I know for a fact what is going on.. or I'll find out myself (my way) and take matters from there..

I don't just sit back for the ride and wonder.. I have better things to do, than debate in my mind if I'm being played or not..

Heck, I'll do it for you if you want.. and trust me, there will be absolutely no problems (as he won't know of our association).

Let me know!!

Isn't this offering to be gamey?