I've been dating this guy for a little over a month now. I have been up front and honest with my feelings, and my intentions of eventually moving back to another state to be with my family, which is at the end of the year.

Now I feel like he's blowing me off, not returning my calls, disappearing every once in a while, and it upsets me, but I don't worry about it too much; because it's not like we're dating exclusively...but the second I don't call him and let him know I ok, he gets all defensive and asks if he did something wrong or if I am still interested in him. It's very weird.

Guys...any advice?

Did you do the Nasty with him ????????????

That's probably none of your business.

Ummmm yeah!

if he left a few big bills on the dresser, it was a short term thing for him

in that case, can i get on that gravy train?

Maybe he feels that way because he know your going to leave!! Even though you were upfront , he just might have stronger feelings , than he's letting on ... or he's a psycho

Umm..I would not expect too much from a guy if we knew each other for a month, didn't have an exclusive relationship, and I had sex with him.

It's called a friend with benefits at best..or a fling.

i asked if you did the nasty, cuz it's part of my answer, maybe he just wanted to hit it and quit it

Or he is very unsecure

I know it's not anything long term; I can't really see myself with him anyways, he is 8 years older than me...maybe he just wanted to see if he's still got it!

Your moving away so he's not going to show interest in you. But he has a selfish side. so he gets defensive when you don't respond when he wants you to.

Uh ..8 years older than you is what, 30? Why wouldn't he "still have it"?

It's not like he's 80

Yes he's 30; isn't that why older men date younger women in the first place? To prove to some higher god, they can still nail the "job"?

Im 35 and I still "got" it..........often!

I thought that was why they went after us older women - the ones who have something to compare them with.

Did you consider that maybe he dated you because he liked you as a person? Lots of people actually do that.

LOL

I want it!!!!

Yes I have considered that actually; I just wondered why he's being so selfish now. Me not being around in the last week b/c of work, I just wonder why it's ok for him to disappear for a day and not explain where he was while I was at home worrying about his brains being splattered on the highway somewhere, but it's not ok for me to disappear; and have to explain what happened....there's two sides to every street I think...

long as you had fun right ?!