I just tried to IM an online member, a window dropped down that said someone wanted to IM with me asking me yes or no to accept, I clicked accept and nothing happened. I right clicked it to open it, and it said the member had been deactivated. The name it gave of the member deactivated wasn't mine, nor was it the person's I was trying to IM.

Anyone know what's up with all this?

the onsite IM is just plain buggy. i get the kind of weirdness you described on a daily basis. either the site code needs to updated, or the site needs to go to another IM system.

you'd better off just e-mailing the other member instead... their profile hasn't been deleted yet.

Okay. Thanks bunches for responding.

I've sent messages to people, too, giving them my email address and Yahoo contact name, and have heard zip...which has kind of surprised me. Dunno, maybe they're just too busy with their lives to drop a line, but it sure seems like I'd get at least one response. I guess I'm wondering if they're receiving my correspondences at all...or maybe this really isn't an online dating site, and I'm in a twilight zone zip code with no return mail service.

the not responding business could just be due to some rather inconsiderate users out there. if THAT's the case, just blow it off and go get a pizza.

Lol...sweet darlin', if there was at least even a pizza parlor in this rural town (or surrounding area) in which I live (pop 760 or so) then there'd probably be a single man with at least some taste here too.

ROTFLMAO! Pizza does seem to be the maker or breaker. I"m not foolin'. Lol...I've missed getting a real, live, fresh, unfrozen pizza. I haven't had one for over six months now.

Ahem, live and learn, eh? It's probably time just to get outta my heart, crawl back into my head, and forget about it.

And hey, that's not me being bummed, I just have no problem with realism.

...uhg, my friend laughed in my face when I told her I joined an online dating forum, and then had the nerve to tell me, "Well, that's one way to get layed." I didn't come here to get layed...omg, just writing that is GACKIE. I came here to meet someone in my area that might want to...what? Like, do something besides stare at the freaking four walls?

Boy-oh-boy...if that isn't TMI I don't know what is.

Ahh, well anyways, thanks for your help, bebe

Wish I was in your area, I used to work in a pizza shop in my teen yrs and it would have been an honor to make you a home made fresh pizza any night you wanted. As for the single guy problem, I guess you need to move to a more opulated area, lol. jusk kidding. anyway, I think we all have that same problem, thats why we are all here in the first place. As for your friend laughing at you, online dating is not much different than going to a bar or club, eccept that you don't really SEE who you are chatting with. Good luck to you.

Thank you freeagle44. Gosh, that pizza sounds like it would've been great! I used to cook for a living, but it was high-end cooking so pizza wasn't part of what I did. Maybe you'd like to post or send me a recipe for a great pizza dough? I could certainly give it a go on my own