Once again if you feel like hurting yourself...you need professional help...

agreed.


hurting yourself is in direct relation to a past issue, one that requires professional help

When I read that you thought about hurting yourself it made me feel so sad. You are a beautiful young woman and if this guy makes you feel like he does its time to re-evaluate your relationship w/him. I know sometime men can retreat to their caves and do not want to talk or whatever. Thats ok for a day or so. But if he totally is not capable of giving any emotional support to you then you have to think of what you need and do some changes. I know it is much worse than you may be revealing to us. Which means its bad. You deserve better. Get out while you can. I will pray for u and hope you find someone worthy of you. My father used to say women are Queens and should be treated like it.

Thank you

Hmmmmmmm self mutilation........are you mad at yourself for some reason??? angry??? feeling guilty??? When I was about 16 I used to burn cigs into my hands because I was feeling mad at myself...for stupid sh*t I did......

My ex use to do that, and it drove me nuts. Always be open,
never assume he doesn't want to hear it. Your a woman, hes a
man, never assume you know what he wants. Be open always. You
might just be surprised in the end.

Good advice

I feel sad for those who do this....I don't know anything about it except of course it is a emotional issues..the depth..I can't respond to..

When i am frustrated and going thru a difficult time....

I cut my hair....

Not trying to be funny here....but my hair dresser who I have known for 10 yrs knows me very well..she understands I do this ..when I can afford to get it cut..because when I feel sad and can't control my world..I can control what I do to my hair..

it grows so mistakes made no big deal...

I never would want to hurt myself...thank god..

So I willl stick with the hair cuts....

to those who cut... hugs....

he kinda sounds scary-familiar, i should say.
like he could snap.
get away from him, and that may start to change
the way you approach other things, and feel
about yourself.

lol i can relate. im a cosmetologist... and i cut my hair a lot too. I havent had anyone by myself cut my hair for the past 3 years.

It was down my back during the summer. then shoulders, then i let it grow out again, then i made choppy edge-y layers, and then short again, then layers again, now its growing back out

its like productive self-mutilation... doesnt hurt and it grows right back.


I was really upset on valentines day because my bf told me i couldnt have chocolate because its not good for me and i need to watch my weight. I contained myself, i didnt kill him (as i assume others would...) but that night i just had this intense self-loathing... like i felt the urge to punish myself for not exercising or eating right. I tried talking to him about it last night... and he doesnt understand what he did wrong. We dont celebrate holidays much.. i told him he didnt have to get me flowers or anything, that i just wanted to spend time with him and have him wish me happy valentines day. He doesnt understand that its wrong to tell your girlfriend she is fat.... i dont know how to explain.. except every guy knows thats suicide!