Topic: overcoming shyness
steelersgirltina's photo
Fri 02/08/08 10:58 AM
I have started dating again after my divorce. I waited a while to get back in the swing of things. When I have that mutual match how can I overcome my shyness and email someone?
I would like it if they would email me but that normally does not happen.

Any suggestions?


Jill298's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:00 AM
just be yourself... There's no reason to be shy. If someone isn't interested in talking to you, who cares? You don't even know them lol
Just don't take it so seriously. Be yourself, have fun, enjoy, and I have no doubt you will meet some great people.

sexxyandsingle's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:06 AM
Play the Hand you Where Dealt and i'm sure you will be fine flowerforyou flowerforyou

trueokie2's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:06 AM
Just send them a simple note... hi, how are you?... see how easy that is.. it is not as tho you are face to face with them.. happy

Kimmydoll2000's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:08 AM
Hey Steelers...the good thing about online dating is you can pick and choose who you wanna talk with. It's great! If you see someone's profile and there's something in there that interests you, send them a message that says I just wanted to say hello. I noticed in your profile that blah blah blah... Most times if you end with a question, you will get a response. Just remember to have fun....you are always friends before you're a couple...flowerforyou flowerforyou

steelersgirltina's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:08 AM

just be yourself... There's no reason to be shy. If someone isn't interested in talking to you, who cares? You don't even know them lol
Just don't take it so seriously. Be yourself, have fun, enjoy, and I have no doubt you will meet some great people.


I am all about having fun. I have to say that this is a better site, people are friendly!

pennyg281's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:09 AM


Just e-mail them,be yourself, if you don't get a response, then try again. Even if you don't find that certian someone your bound to make some friends. Good Luckflowerforyou

steelersgirltina's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:10 AM

Play the Hand you Where Dealt and i'm sure you will be fine flowerforyou flowerforyou


I dont know how to play cards! I like the slots!

Jill298's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:11 AM


Play the Hand you Where Dealt and i'm sure you will be fine flowerforyou flowerforyou


I dont know how to play cards! I like the slots!
hahaha well you know then how much of a gamble dating is then...

Jill298's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:11 AM


just be yourself... There's no reason to be shy. If someone isn't interested in talking to you, who cares? You don't even know them lol
Just don't take it so seriously. Be yourself, have fun, enjoy, and I have no doubt you will meet some great people.


I am all about having fun. I have to say that this is a better site, people are friendly!
yes they are, I've met a lot of great people on here.

chickayoshi's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:15 AM

I have started dating again after my divorce. I waited a while to get back in the swing of things. When I have that mutual match how can I overcome my shyness and email someone?
I would like it if they would email me but that normally does not happen.

Any suggestions?




Girl...I have the same problem too. I am old fashioned and prefer the guy to e-mail me first. But, society has changed and women are taking charge now.

no photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:16 AM
Number one trick talk to people just like you would
Your best friend if you don't look at them in the
Way you are looking at them right now then you won't
Be shy Besides that just post and chat in the forums
More it will help you out get out there like you are
Doing right now bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile

MirrorMirror's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:22 AM

I have started dating again after my divorce. I waited a while to get back in the swing of things. When I have that mutual match how can I overcome my shyness and email someone?
I would like it if they would email me but that normally does not happen.

Any suggestions?


:heart: I would like to email you:heart:

shoes4rhon's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:26 AM
come out in the forums and before you know it you will be meeting people and emailing back and forth and see where it goes from there .. take it slow .. and if that doesn't do it just do what the guys do and look at thier pics and go hey nice_________________

L3fTy's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:26 AM
I know exactly what you are talking about, I am so shy when I do try to talk to someone, I stutter, forget what I was talking about, start to sweat, hehe I turn into a mess..I even get that way when I post or reply to a topic on here.. OK well i was no help at all...I guess just lettin ya know it affects alot of us..

curios789's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:31 AM

Hey Steelers...the good thing about online dating is you can pick and choose who you wanna talk with. It's great! If you see someone's profile and there's something in there that interests you, send them a message that says I just wanted to say hello. I noticed in your profile that blah blah blah... Most times if you end with a question, you will get a response. Just remember to have fun....you are always friends before you're a couple...flowerforyou flowerforyou

Yep, that's what I do. I usually just say hi and ask a question…If I don't get a response, they aren't worth my time. Just do it. Can't hurt. Remember that there ARE no consequences when e-mailing someone.

steelersgirltina's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:57 AM

Number one trick talk to people just like you would
Your best friend if you don't look at them in the
Way you are looking at them right now then you won't
Be shy Besides that just post and chat in the forums
More it will help you out get out there like you are
Doing right now bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile

ah that would be trouble if i did thatlaugh my best friend and i are a trip when we talklaugh

steelersgirltina's photo
Fri 02/08/08 11:59 AM

come out in the forums and before you know it you will be meeting people and emailing back and forth and see where it goes from there .. take it slow .. and if that doesn't do it just do what the guys do and look at thier pics and go hey nice_________________



too many guys have far away pics of their face. um nice landscape there on your place