Topic: RED FLAGS!!!
TheShadow's photo
Thu 02/07/08 07:22 PM

NO Mirror, I did it this time!!laugh laugh

Hey Nervesdrinker good to see you

MirrorMirror's photo
Thu 02/07/08 07:23 PM


like...the nudist who was looking for a single woman that was raising daughters, not sons...so that he could "have a second chance at raising daughters through that troubled time of adolescence when all the sexual tensions develop"?
mad THAT WAS MY PROFILE!!!!!!!!!mad

lulu24's photo
Thu 02/07/08 07:25 PM


like...the nudist who was looking for a single woman that was raising daughters, not sons...so that he could "have a second chance at raising daughters through that troubled time of adolescence when all the sexual tensions develop"?
mad THAT WAS MY PROFILE!!!!!!!!!mad


i have no doubt that it WILL be, anyway...lol...

ellgee1976's photo
Thu 02/07/08 07:32 PM

i dont get lost often but i need a gps about now


<---brunette ;)

hunter870's photo
Thu 02/07/08 07:33 PM
I really think it wasent you Mirror.IT WAS MElaugh laugh laugh YOU TO NICE A PERSON FOR IT TO HAVE BEEN YOU:wink:

ellgee1976's photo
Thu 02/07/08 07:46 PM
Edited by ellgee1976 on Thu 02/07/08 08:00 PM

OP...red flags will be different depending on what qualities they themselves are of concern. They will be based upon the specifics of what the others profile indicates...and what works for one will be a flag to another.


i think i mentioned this already lol


I would consider that a red flag...maybe you're really not very serious????


maybe ya missed the headline? "notta mission...but lookin"
or maybe the last sentence? "Im not in any big hurry, so startin out as friends is what im here for. if something comes from a friendship, then wonderful, if not, oh well."

so yeah..im not making it my life mission, cuz im not in a rush lol

perhaps you're "dream guy" is just that...unrealistic....you want unconditional...but outline conditions...and I might think that a red flag as well.


yes, i want unconditional acceptance of any mistake i may have made in my life, i don't know of anyone that would want that terrible mistake they made 20 yrs ago thrown back at them at any time.. perhaps you should ask ME what i mean in my profile, instead of drawing negative attention towards my profile eh?

Your profile mentions your preference to someone close to your own age...again a red flag for me...seems it really is a "condition" and not the unconditional which you imply you seek...there are likely men younger and/or older who could be that "dream guy".


first of all, the reference to 'dream guy' was just that, a reference to a DREAM guy. there IS no 'mr. perfect' and im well aware of that. why waste my time lookin for the nonexistant?

second, someone close to my age, cuz my X hubs was 13 yrs older, and obviously he's an X for a reason, right? i don't want to go that route again and be treated as tho im some 'child'. i have no doubt there's someone out there for me, that IS close to my age..im a pretty likealbe person inside and out, thanks.

So the point is we all view things as they relate to our individual interests, likes and dislikes...


again, already pointed this out..but thanks again


so don't worry...just have fun...be open, honest and sincere...


no one is worried but you apparently lol if you knew anything about me, you'd know im not worried, i AM open, honest and sincere..lol

and perhaps you will meet that guy..


doubt that..again, mr perfect doesn't exist..lol



red flags which really are about "issuses" which are unacceptable...are just that and stand out by themselves LOL.

Classic


classic, i think we've covered this enough, 'red-flags' arern't issues, but perspective..and nothing but

again, if you have any questions about a profile, why not ask the person that posted that profile, instead of drawing negative attention to them on a thread

hunter870's photo
Thu 02/07/08 07:59 PM
Young lady ,,,no matter what eany one says to or thinks just smile and remember you dont need to defend your self like you just did,your better than that,and thats my opinion from what I have read that you have postedflowerforyou flowerforyou so smile young lady,drinker drinker

ellgee1976's photo
Thu 02/07/08 08:05 PM
Edited by ellgee1976 on Thu 02/07/08 08:06 PM

Young lady ,,,no matter what eany one says to or thinks just smile and remember you dont need to defend your self like you just did,your better than that,and thats my opinion from what I have read that you have postedflowerforyou flowerforyou so smile young lady,drinker drinker


thank you hunter..i AM smiling now :D

no photo
Thu 02/07/08 08:12 PM
Ellgee -- I have a few, sort of....

"I don't know what to write here" -- lack of creativity or any ability to express actual thoughts in standard English.

The profile where the whole text is "Anything you want to know, you have to ask" -- believe me, there isn't anything I want to or need to know that badly. If there's nothing worth reading in the profile to begin with, I have no motivation to pursue anything further.

"I'm laid-back and easy-going" -- means "I'll just copy language from 9400 other profiles since I'm too lazy to make up my own sentence." Does anybody ever say "I'm easily agitated and perpetually hyper"?

The multi-person picture with no explanation of which one the profile belongs to. Is this "Deal Or No Deal"?

"No game players" generally means "I'm too stupid to realize that nobody with an ounce of sense is ever going to ADMIT to being a game player."

And so on....I have at least 914 more red flags....but they are all very DULL red flags, if you know what I mean....!

:wink:

JustLooking3's photo
Thu 02/07/08 08:15 PM
Ellgee I don't see any red flags with your profile flowerforyou

ellgee1976's photo
Thu 02/07/08 08:29 PM
lex..i have a full understanding of what ya mean lol

thanks JustLooking3, i apreciate that ;)

JaceKnows's photo
Thu 02/07/08 10:05 PM

OP...red flags will be different depending on what qualities they themselves are of concern. They will be based upon the specifics of what the others profile indicates...and what works for one will be a flag to another.

example...your profile begins with "im not really searching, but this is a "dating site" so..here's what my dream guy is"

I would consider that a red flag...maybe you're really not very serious????

You also mention "i don't want to be 70 yrs old and not have anything to talk about with my guy..so we both need other interests, not just common interests. i want to find the unconditional, 100% acceptance, and no judgements no matter what ...also, family, i can't stress how important that is, trust, communication, and respect .. i won't settle for anything less"...so you demand all this and won't settle for less...perhaps you're "dream guy" is just that...unrealistic....you want unconditional...but outline conditions...and I might think that a red flag as well.

Your profile mentions your preference to someone close to your own age...again a red flag for me...seems it really is a "condition" and not the unconditional which you imply you seek...there are likely men younger and/or older who could be that "dream guy". So the point is we all view things as they relate to our individual interests, likes and dislikes...so don't worry...just have fun...be open, honest and sincere...and perhaps you will meet that guy..red flags which really are about "issuses" which are unacceptable...are just that and stand out by themselves LOL.

Classic


If it's a red flag for you, don't effin' talk to her, then!

ellgee1976's photo
Thu 02/07/08 10:07 PM
YEAH! what HE said! lmao

thanks Jace ;)

JaceKnows's photo
Thu 02/07/08 10:11 PM
Grrrr!

countrybelle6471's photo
Thu 02/07/08 10:13 PM

devil IT WAS MEdevil


we dont need to read your profile to see those flags burninglaugh

Moondark's photo
Thu 02/07/08 10:26 PM

OP...red flags will be different depending on what qualities they themselves are of concern. They will be based upon the specifics of what the others profile indicates...and what works for one will be a flag to another.


Your profile mentions your preference to someone close to your own age...again a red flag for me...seems it really is a "condition" and not the unconditional which you imply you seek...there are likely men younger and/or older who could be that "dream guy". So the point is we all view things as they relate to our individual interests, likes and dislikes...so don't worry...just have fun...be open, honest and sincere...and perhaps you will meet that guy..red flags which really are about "issuses" which are unacceptable...are just that and stand out by themselves LOL.

Classic


That is a red flag in the other direction. If I get emails and go to see who the person is and find out it is someone my parents age, it is a huge red flag. That the heck it a man doing trolling for a woman that could be his daughter? Creeps me out.

shoes4rhon's photo
Thu 02/07/08 10:32 PM


anyone read a profile that just had red flags all over it for 'em?

keep in mind, red flags for me, may not be red flags for you..

which is why im asking


laugh just about every other profile I have read over
wow shadow my feeling are so hurt just when I thought we were becoming friends sad sad sad

Engraven_Image's photo
Thu 02/07/08 10:33 PM
Edited by Engraven_Image on Thu 02/07/08 10:33 PM
huh The profiles didn't have red flags with a giant blue X filled with white stars in the center did they???laugh

countrybelle6471's photo
Thu 02/07/08 10:33 PM
well I have come to realize young-old it makes no difference,If they are breathing they are looking..It dont bother me any more

shoes4rhon's photo
Thu 02/07/08 10:34 PM

Ellgee -- I have a few, sort of....

"I don't know what to write here" -- lack of creativity or any ability to express actual thoughts in standard English.

The profile where the whole text is "Anything you want to know, you have to ask" -- believe me, there isn't anything I want to or need to know that badly. If there's nothing worth reading in the profile to begin with, I have no motivation to pursue anything further.

"I'm laid-back and easy-going" -- means "I'll just copy language from 9400 other profiles since I'm too lazy to make up my own sentence." Does anybody ever say "I'm easily agitated and perpetually hyper"?

The multi-person picture with no explanation of which one the profile belongs to. Is this "Deal Or No Deal"?

"No game players" generally means "I'm too stupid to realize that nobody with an ounce of sense is ever going to ADMIT to being a game player."

And so on....I have at least 914 more red flags....but they are all very DULL red flags, if you know what I mean....!

:wink:

I always enjoy reading your post they are insightful and so well thought out