Topic: I've never been more confused in my life...
Lily0923's photo
Tue 02/05/08 02:41 AM

Seriously... you will NEVER get into a womans head. They will vouch for it lol laugh
I had this girl that I went on one date with, but we talked everyday up to that. After the date she was still like "I think about you all day, bla bla bla..."

Then a few days later she told me she is looking forward to meeting this other guy....

get used to it brother.


Ya, i'm not going to lie...that's how it goes... you are 19... let it go... go find 15 other 18-22 year olds to replace her. It will be ok.

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Tue 02/05/08 02:48 AM
Men make us crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!explode grumble laugh

Lily0923's photo
Tue 02/05/08 03:05 AM
Tell it sista.... getting inside the mind of a man is like falling down a well....I'm still waiting to be rescued.... Just call me baby Jessica...

steelersgirltina's photo
Tue 02/05/08 06:13 AM
Edited by steelersgirltina on Tue 02/05/08 06:16 AM

Men make us crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!explode grumble laugh


It does not stop with their age either. I hate when they just stop talking to you for no reason. grumble

Move on OP there are alot more women out there.


JD341988's photo
Tue 02/05/08 08:00 AM
So according to her this is what I did wrong:

-I took down my yahoo ad (and I had to write something to get it taken down so I said I found what I was looking for...she read it)
-I didn't get the "hint" she wasn't interested after she rescheduled the date.

How ****ing stupid is that??

I'm sorry but when someone goes "Hey, I can't do lunch because my niece is coming this week, but I will come to Lawrence (where I live) next week"...that's not exactly a good hint, that's straight up rescheduling.

And taking down my personal ad on the internet is a bad thing? I had to write something for my profile to get taken down, so I did what would do that... It's not my fault she read it by looking at it??? And wouldn't that mean she was interested at what I was doing...

lilith401's photo
Tue 02/05/08 08:06 AM
JD,

The fact of the matter is, sometimes people expect others to assume. They think that by lying they are being kind, as if they are truly that important. Others dislike confontation.
You can never know. And really, in the grand scheme of things.... I think you know this really has very little to do with you. You just got caught up in it.

You'll never know what was going on in her mind and I suspect you really don't care either. I know it's frsustrating when a person is disrespectful and expects to to behave along arbitrary and unwritten rules. I'm sure you'd agree you'd be much happier, not to mention are more deserving, with and of a person with solid communication skills.

Take a deep breath and keep your head up...flowerforyou

TheShadow's photo
Tue 02/05/08 08:08 AM
has anyone thought since she lives with her mom that that might have to do with it. She is only 18huh

shoes4rhon's photo
Tue 02/05/08 08:13 AM
okay well found what i was looking for is kind of scarey when you have not even met it sounds presumptious why take it down at all - jeesh it was lunch ... you are 19 slow your roll there bud

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Tue 02/05/08 08:23 AM
Personally speaking. I'd never do all the detective work you did to get back in touch. If I have to go to that much trouble, chances are it ain't gonna work out and my expectations are disproportionate to the situation at hand. No matter what her issues are.

We could sit here and speculate all day long about what is up with her..and it will only be so much conjecture.

The only other thing to do is get you to sit down in a quiet place and come to realize your part in it...Which is the only part you can control.

shoes4rhon's photo
Tue 02/05/08 08:42 AM

Personally speaking. I'd never do all the detective work you did to get back in touch. If I have to go to that much trouble, chances are it ain't gonna work out and my expectations are disproportionate to the situation at hand. No matter what her issues are.

We could sit here and speculate all day long about what is up with her..and it will only be so much conjecture.

The only other thing to do is get you to sit down in a quiet place and come to realize your part in it...Which is the only part you can control.


that is very good advice ... you are very wise .. maybe the focus should be about what you can do the next time you meet a girl

JD341988's photo
Tue 02/05/08 08:56 AM

okay well found what i was looking for is kind of scarey when you have not even met it sounds presumptious why take it down at all - jeesh it was lunch ... you are 19 slow your roll there bud


Well first off, I rushed what I wrote there..It was "i think I found what I was looking for on here."... It was basically just to get it disabled (because you have to have your profile approved)...

Still, if she wants to block me out of her life for that, that's pretty lame. It's not like I was telling her that I love her or anything.

I still don't believe I did anything wrong, she just checked up on me way too much and read into things and she misinterpreted it.

shoes4rhon's photo
Tue 02/05/08 08:58 AM


okay well found what i was looking for is kind of scarey when you have not even met it sounds presumptious why take it down at all - jeesh it was lunch ... you are 19 slow your roll there bud


Well first off, I rushed what I wrote there..It was "i think I found what I was looking for on here."... It was basically just to get it disabled (because you have to have your profile approved)...

Still, if she wants to block me out of her life for that, that's pretty lame. It's not like I was telling her that I love her or anything.

I still don't believe I did anything wrong, she just checked up on me way too much and read into things and she misinterpreted it.
what have you really lost ?? some texting come on slow down ..

JD341988's photo
Tue 02/05/08 09:08 AM

what have you really lost ?? some texting come on slow down ..
That was on last month's bill :tongue:

I don't really care anymore. Just wish she wasn't so naive...

It's harder to date older chicks because I'm not 21 and can't buy drinks at a bar...and younger girls are naive and/or immature and sometimes stupid. So it's just a rough age... I just want it to be March of 2009 already...

lilith401's photo
Tue 02/05/08 09:38 AM
Bars are one of the worst places to spend time with "chicks" or women, for that matter.

I think I'm most likely not the only one who'd gladly trade places with you from a dating perspective.... God, what a body I had at 19 and what I could get away with! Ohhhhh....

You have plenty of time to get old and all that. Maybe you should "sow some wild oats" in a dating sense. Go on a lot, see what you like, don't get attached so soon.

As a teenager, part of your job is to be educated. Hard knocks, dating, making mistakes, these are all part of it. You need to get some experience so you can learn judgment and the ability to make good choices. Relax.... This is your time. Live it up.

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Tue 02/05/08 10:19 AM

I still don't believe I did anything wrong, she just checked up on me way too much and read into things and she misinterpreted it.


I understand what you are saying. Unfortunately there is some bad news as a direct outcome.

You will generally attract the same kind of woman. The same things will continue to happen until you can look within yourself and accommodate some change.

I hope for your sake..you have that talk with yourself before your 30th birthday though.

shoes4rhon's photo
Tue 02/05/08 10:50 AM


what have you really lost ?? some texting come on slow down ..
That was on last month's bill :tongue:

I don't really care anymore. Just wish she wasn't so naive...

It's harder to date older chicks because I'm not 21 and can't buy drinks at a bar...and younger girls are naive and/or immature and sometimes stupid. So it's just a rough age... I just want it to be March of 2009 already...
Don't wish your life away - why focus on your hobbies and maybe travel with some friends ??? it will go quickly and soon you will be in your 40s and things will look a lot different

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 02/05/08 10:54 AM

This one girl just confuses the hell out of me, and I feel a little disappointed because of what happened.

To make a really long story somewhat shorter... I first saw her on yahoo! personals. She is a year younger than me, she sent me an icebreaker, I sent one back... I noticed somehow she got her AIM screenname on there. I tried IM'ing her but she was on her AIM mobile and didn't respond. A few days later, I was thinking of ways to get a hold of her, when it occurred to me that some people use their AIM screenname as their myspace URL. I found her old profile, and asked one of her friends to add me on myspace, which she did. She then added me on facebook.

That night, I had to work, and while I was work, she texted me (my facebook has my number listed), and I had no idea who it was until I looked back at any earlier text saying it was her. I took that as a good sign and I didn't mind it, despite it being completely creepy if it was I texting her (which is kind of a double standard, by the way)...We texted quite a bit to each other and I was hoping for a date...She said we should meet so I said okay...I'll take you to lunch on that Sunday (it was Wednesday or something)...She kept telling me how excited she was for it, which made me happy. She also said that if we didn't click right away, I seemed like I would make a great friend. She lives 40 mins away, but goes to school and works halfway between us. I was going to come to that halfway point for lunch.

Anyways, the night before, she told me her niece was coming into town and she needed to convince her mom that she could go (she lives with her mom, despite her being 18 ). I figured she'd still come, but around 10 PM, she said it wouldn't be happening, but she'd come see me the following weekend. Well, that was supposed to be this last weekend...And I haven't talked to her since Monday when she posted on my myspace wall. I didn't say anything wrong to her (in fact, I didn't really say anything). On Wednesday, she deleted me from her myspace, deleted my comment on her facebook wall...And after sending a message asking what her deal was, has now blocked me on facebook.

I don't get it, she was coming onto me strongly, and I was simply responding to her and I didn't say anyting wrong. Usually, I know when I **** something up, and I didn't do ANYTHING wrong, didn't call her when I was drunk or anything.

I don't know if I should call her and ***** her out or what. I know I didn't really waste money on her or anything, but I thought she would have been worthwhile to date. I've been hurt worst in the past, but I just want to know what the hell made her stop talking to me...

Any ideas on what it could be? Her only ex is dead, he died from cancer while they were dating about 2 years ago...So it's not like her ex is dating her again, and she even said we could be good friends if we didn't date.
frown THATS WHAT SHE TOLD ME TOOfrown

JD341988's photo
Tue 02/05/08 11:49 AM


I still don't believe I did anything wrong, she just checked up on me way too much and read into things and she misinterpreted it.


I understand what you are saying. Unfortunately there is some bad news as a direct outcome.

You will generally attract the same kind of woman. The same things will continue to happen until you can look within yourself and accommodate some change.

I hope for your sake..you have that talk with yourself before your 30th birthday though.
****, my ex was pretty crazy....

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Tue 02/05/08 11:54 AM
^^^Not often, I get to see my point being proven in real time^^^

JD341988's photo
Tue 02/05/08 12:02 PM
just to back up this current girl is crazy...she still posts on her dead boyfriend's facebook wall as if he were alive.