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Topic: Why
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Sun 02/03/08 03:43 PM
Are guys so stupid to take their x back after they cheated on them the first time? What makes you think that they have changed and wont do it again?

hikerchick's photo
Sun 02/03/08 03:45 PM
I think women do that too.

Brenda_Darling's photo
Sun 02/03/08 03:46 PM
i think its the whole safety net thing...they know the likes and dislikes of eachother..and how far they can push things...and that jazz...its safer then getting to know some one new..

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Sun 02/03/08 03:48 PM
Once a cheater always a cheater in my book and how do you EVER TRUST them again?

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Sun 02/03/08 03:49 PM
I think that people try to take on situations on an individual basis. They also want to believe that there is hope the person loves them and would not do it again. That might be true. No person is infallible.

There is the capacity to hope and believe that people want to better themselves and enrich the lives of others and themselves...to believe the person deserves a second chance as they themselves might want if the situation was reversed.

We can never know.

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Sun 02/03/08 03:49 PM
once a cheater always a cheater!!!!!!!

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Sun 02/03/08 03:50 PM

I think that people try to take on situations on an individual basis. They also want to believe that there is hope the person loves them and would not do it again. That might be true. No person is infallible.

There is the capacity to hope and believe that people want to better themselves and enrich the lives of others and themselves...to believe the person deserves a second chance as they themselves might want if the situation was reversed.

We can never know.


lilith - I think you are truly smarter than the average bear. flowerforyou

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Sun 02/03/08 03:51 PM
i've never taken anyone back that's cheated, the trust is gone. it's not that hard to not cheat, and breaking up before a cheater cheats is what should happen, that's what honorable people do, so...this means they are not honorable, and can't be trusted again, because as soon as it gets comfortable, it happens again!

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Sun 02/03/08 03:51 PM
once a cheater always a cheater is the Gods honest truth...I gave my ex husband one to many chances but he got sloppy in his endevorsgrumble

fredwood28's photo
Sun 02/03/08 03:55 PM
sh*t i guess once a cheater always a cheater

link97my's photo
Sun 02/03/08 03:56 PM
Who would want there X back? They're an X for a reason RIGHT!!!!!








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Sun 02/03/08 03:56 PM
Hikerchick- thank you. I've been cheated on many times, and the answer is always far simpler on the outside looking in than inside the relationship.

It is a mistake to judge others based on your own prior experiences, for the other person is never that same old cheater.

I'm hadly a doormat and do not condone cheating at all, but I think these situations are composed of a myriad of complexities with no simple black and white answer.

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Sun 02/03/08 04:05 PM

Hikerchick- thank you. I've been cheated on many times, and the answer is always far simpler on the outside looking in than inside the relationship.

It is a mistake to judge others based on your own prior experiences, for the other person is never that same old cheater.

I'm hadly a doormat and do not condone cheating at all, but I think these situations are composed of a myriad of complexities with no simple black and white answer.

i just read your profile, and i can't see how a loved one couldn't get everything he would ever need from just you, you're awesome, well rounded, gorgeous, loving......damn, he screwed up!

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Sun 02/03/08 04:07 PM


Hikerchick- thank you. I've been cheated on many times, and the answer is always far simpler on the outside looking in than inside the relationship.

It is a mistake to judge others based on your own prior experiences, for the other person is never that same old cheater.

I'm hadly a doormat and do not condone cheating at all, but I think these situations are composed of a myriad of complexities with no simple black and white answer.

i just read your profile, and i can't see how a loved one couldn't get everything he would ever need from just you, you're awesome, well rounded, gorgeous, loving......damn, he screwed up!


I do say I'm happily divorced and so very glad he is someone's else's problem. Thank you for your kind words.

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Sun 02/03/08 04:11 PM
glad thatlaugh laugh laugh drinker devil

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Sun 02/03/08 04:17 PM

I think that people try to take on situations on an individual basis. They also want to believe that there is hope the person loves them and would not do it again. That might be true. No person is infallible.

There is the capacity to hope and believe that people want to better themselves and enrich the lives of others and themselves...to believe the person deserves a second chance as they themselves might want if the situation was reversed.

We can never know.


Lilith, I have to agree -- there's no universal rule, and every situation is different. A second chance doesn't necessarily or automatically have to be a horrible idea.

I just want to say I am really enjoying your posts! It's a pleasure to have someone of your intellect and understanding on this site....we could use a LOT more like you!

flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

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Sun 02/03/08 04:22 PM


I think that people try to take on situations on an individual basis. They also want to believe that there is hope the person loves them and would not do it again. That might be true. No person is infallible.

There is the capacity to hope and believe that people want to better themselves and enrich the lives of others and themselves...to believe the person deserves a second chance as they themselves might want if the situation was reversed.

We can never know.


Lilith, I have to agree -- there's no universal rule, and every situation is different. A second chance doesn't necessarily or automatically have to be a horrible idea.

I just want to say I am really enjoying your posts! It's a pleasure to have someone of your intellect and understanding on this site....we could use a LOT more like you!

flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou


Lex, Thank you, sincerely.

I feel the exact same way about your posts. I always have. Not to make everyone else reading this stick their tongue down their throat with a "gag me with a spoon" vibe (I'm an eighties girl)... but your posts always make me laugh or are dead on. Your lady is a lucky one.
It's too bad we can't go grab a coffee! flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou


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Sun 02/03/08 04:31 PM
Edited by Jistme on Sun 02/03/08 04:32 PM

one couldn't get everything he would ever need from just you
Interesting choice of words there. Being jistme...I wouldn't have it any other way!

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Sun 02/03/08 04:48 PM
I don't think I would don't know if I could ever trust again no trust no relationshipfrown frown frown

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Sun 02/03/08 04:49 PM


one couldn't get everything he would ever need from just you
Interesting choice of words there. Being jistme...I wouldn't have it any other way!


Yes honey, "jist" you. :heart: :heart: :heart:

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