This came up in on another site. People are getting tired of commercial for things relating to 'reproduction', bodily functions, and so on. They felt like people have lost the line between what we can talk about and what we should keep to our selves.

That is a site that is about 90% female and 10% male, at a rough estimate. SOme people thought since there are some men, we should stop talking about some things that sometimes comes up, while others wanted to stop talking about it because they didn't like it when it came up themselves.

Many of the women said they grew up keeping those things a secret from fathers and not talking about them with their mothers and they would rather keep it that way and don't like it that people are talking about things now. And this isn't just older people. Many were also younger than me.

The following is how I feel about it and why, but I want to know what people with children or who are or were married think about it.

I can understand that, but I think breaking the taboo about TOM is a good thing. Even in the early 80's, it was still not something you talked about. I knew so many middle school girls who had no idea how to talk to their mom when they started. And now we live in an age where many more single fathers have full custody of their kids. It is important that people be able to discuss this subject in mixed company these days.

And I think it isn't just for the sake of teen age daughters. I think it is important the men understand it just as much as women and feel comfortable discussing it so they have a better understanding of their wife's or gf's medical needs. Or maybe I feel that way since I've a few female friends going through some strange mystery issues right now that doctors haven't been able to identify.

I also think that by keeping this subject one that people don't talk about, it will continue to keep the emphasis on preventing pregnancy as something only the woman should have to take care of and it continues to let the guy "off the hook" so to speak. The attitude still prevails that it is HER job to take preventative measure. It is slowly improving, but it should be equal.

I agree, some things have gotten down right crude. But I blame it on Hollywood comedies. A strange connection, I know but over the past 25 years, they have gone down hill, getting cruder and cruder and cruder, always going for the lowest level of comedy. When pie in the face has turned into bleep in the face, it has gone way too far.

I think we should be able to talk about these things but I think we still need to maintain a level of tact and decorum. There is no need to be gross about it.

But to continue to try and keep it quiet and behind closed doors is to perpetuate the idea that it is something to be ashamed of and it is only a tiny step away from the idea that somehow, being a woman is something shameful.

Sorry if I got on my soap box, but it's an issue I feel extremely passionate about.

That is a site that is about 90% female and 10% male, at a rough estimate.

what site are you on

It is a diet and nutrition site that costs 20 a year. I don't think you will meet people interested in dating there. Most are married, many have boyfriends.

I agree that we should be able to discuss these things out in the open. I am a single mother of 3 sons and am trying to impress upon them that it`s not just about preventing pregnancy. It`s also not just the girls responsibility to provide protection if they do take that next step & have sex.

There is nothing that I won't talk to my daughter about.

I love being a woman and that is part of it. I think at one time it was taboo, but not so much today.

What is taboo is not listening to your kid.

so true. I have found that even when I thought I was listening, sometimes I really wasn't.

Yea I sometimes wonder if I should listen or just ignore them until the tantrums stop. Kind of hard when the Grandkids are getting caught in the crossfire.

I absolutely believe in communication...I have 2 sons, the oldest is 12 and I have already talked to him about protection. I think( I know!) kids are starting everything younger than when I was a kid, and I want him to be informed about the importance of protection, and that it is ok to say NO!! to the difficult questions..

if i find out my daughter is having sex oh i will be so pissed. she will never leave the house agine and i dont care about protection. that poor boy is gonna need protection from me lol.