Topic: YA YA Chica-Sisterhood Club
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Fri 02/01/08 11:31 AM



ok sistas....ive got a problem. im going to post about it in relationship advice thread. ive "met" someone and its getting to the wire and im freakin out here!!! NERVOUS has kicked in!!!! i love you guys and you always have sound advice for me xoxoxoxoxoxoxo


First, take a slow deep breath to the count of 5, then let it out slowly to the count of 5.

You'll be nervous, he'll be nervous, gives you something in common already, doesn't it bigsmile I've found the most effective strategy is to talk about the nervousness, makes you feel better. Go somewhere you feel comfortable already, not a good time to try something new. Wear something you feel comfortable in, that makes you feel good about yourself. These all help make you feel more relaxed. Then, just be yourself and have a good time. If it doesn't work out, you're no worse off than you are now, right? But, you might have a good time anyway and at least you'll have a bad date story to tell. flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou


thanks guys!!!! i just really dont feel that good about myself right now for various reasons..some know some dont...ughhhh in the last 2 years i had a violent relationship which ended abotu 8 months ago. i gained a TON of weight and the last attack he knocked out 9 teeth, i took 14 blows to the face alone. ive had to have some reconstructive surgery...so yeah i feel kinda yucko...jeff knows this, he's seen me, he doesnt care so he says...says all of that is fixable if i so choose, etc...just not having faith in myself is more what it is i think...you guys lift my heart in so many ways, you have no idea what you do for me. i love you all so very much...nothing i wouldnt do for any of you. we chicas really do rock!


((((((((((Kitt)))))))))))

I had no idea about your relationship, but know, it's most certainly not a reflection of you, you, my chica sister, are an amazing woman, do not ever doubt that. Trust your gut, trust your instincts, they will lead you on the right path. And, if this is truly right, time will tell you that, no reason to rush anything.

I wrote that before I read your post, most of it doesn't really pertain to your particular situation.

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Fri 02/01/08 11:35 AM
(((SUZ))) you too are awesome!

im talking to him now. making sure that we have established grounds that we are friends! roommates! if something happens down the road, great if not, nothing is lost...we are talking abotu it now...ughhhh

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Fri 02/01/08 11:35 AM
Stay strong and keep breathing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Fri 02/01/08 11:41 AM

Stay strong and keep breathing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


What she said :tongue:

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Fri 02/01/08 11:41 AM



ok sistas....ive got a problem. im going to post about it in relationship advice thread. ive "met" someone and its getting to the wire and im freakin out here!!! NERVOUS has kicked in!!!! i love you guys and you always have sound advice for me xoxoxoxoxoxoxo


First, take a slow deep breath to the count of 5, then let it out slowly to the count of 5.

You'll be nervous, he'll be nervous, gives you something in common already, doesn't it bigsmile I've found the most effective strategy is to talk about the nervousness, makes you feel better. Go somewhere you feel comfortable already, not a good time to try something new. Wear something you feel comfortable in, that makes you feel good about yourself. These all help make you feel more relaxed. Then, just be yourself and have a good time. If it doesn't work out, you're no worse off than you are now, right? But, you might have a good time anyway and at least you'll have a bad date story to tell. flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou


thanks guys!!!! i just really dont feel that good about myself right now for various reasons..some know some dont...ughhhh in the last 2 years i had a violent relationship which ended abotu 8 months ago. i gained a TON of weight and the last attack he knocked out 9 teeth, i took 14 blows to the face alone. ive had to have some reconstructive surgery...so yeah i feel kinda yucko...jeff knows this, he's seen me, he doesnt care so he says...says all of that is fixable if i so choose, etc...just not having faith in myself is more what it is i think...you guys lift my heart in so many ways, you have no idea what you do for me. i love you all so very much...nothing i wouldnt do for any of you. we chicas really do rock!




I am sorry you went thru that, but you prevailed :heart: :heart: outer appearances are basically only a type of shell we all carry and yes he is correct that its all fixable/changeable etc. the inner you is the real you!!! and thats beautiful just as your outer is... :heart: :heart:

what I care about is how u feel about all this? are you ready for a relationship type thing? is there an escape clause of sorts? lol

**NOW JUST TO VENT** IT TAKES A MIGHTY SMALL/MINUTE MAN TO EVER PUT HIS HANDS ON A WOMAN!!!!

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Fri 02/01/08 11:43 AM




ok sistas....ive got a problem. im going to post about it in relationship advice thread. ive "met" someone and its getting to the wire and im freakin out here!!! NERVOUS has kicked in!!!! i love you guys and you always have sound advice for me xoxoxoxoxoxoxo


First, take a slow deep breath to the count of 5, then let it out slowly to the count of 5.

You'll be nervous, he'll be nervous, gives you something in common already, doesn't it bigsmile I've found the most effective strategy is to talk about the nervousness, makes you feel better. Go somewhere you feel comfortable already, not a good time to try something new. Wear something you feel comfortable in, that makes you feel good about yourself. These all help make you feel more relaxed. Then, just be yourself and have a good time. If it doesn't work out, you're no worse off than you are now, right? But, you might have a good time anyway and at least you'll have a bad date story to tell. flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou


thanks guys!!!! i just really dont feel that good about myself right now for various reasons..some know some dont...ughhhh in the last 2 years i had a violent relationship which ended abotu 8 months ago. i gained a TON of weight and the last attack he knocked out 9 teeth, i took 14 blows to the face alone. ive had to have some reconstructive surgery...so yeah i feel kinda yucko...jeff knows this, he's seen me, he doesnt care so he says...says all of that is fixable if i so choose, etc...just not having faith in myself is more what it is i think...you guys lift my heart in so many ways, you have no idea what you do for me. i love you all so very much...nothing i wouldnt do for any of you. we chicas really do rock!


((((((((((Kitt)))))))))))

I had no idea about your relationship, but know, it's most certainly not a reflection of you, you, my chica sister, are an amazing woman, do not ever doubt that. Trust your gut, trust your instincts, they will lead you on the right path. And, if this is truly right, time will tell you that, no reason to rush anything.

I wrote that before I read your post, most of it doesn't really pertain to your particular situation.



one word of advice sweet sistah ...........

R E L A X flowerforyou

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Fri 02/01/08 11:46 AM
he is reassuring me that all is well and we are going to continue our friendship/business relationship and see where things go. he says he did not mean to sound controlling nor would he ever try to control anything. he thinks in a relationship its about compromises. says that its my house, my rules. he says he was expressing his thoughts and feelings and in no way meant for me to take it as a request for anything. perhaps i did take it to the line since i am very leary of men in general. i told him that i am fixing me right now and having such a wonderful friend in my life would be great and let nature take its course. i can not love anyone until i love me again in whole. did i do good? lol

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Fri 02/01/08 11:47 AM

he is reassuring me that all is well and we are going to continue our friendship/business relationship and see where things go. he says he did not mean to sound controlling nor would he ever try to control anything. he thinks in a relationship its about compromises. says that its my house, my rules. he says he was expressing his thoughts and feelings and in no way meant for me to take it as a request for anything. perhaps i did take it to the line since i am very leary of men in general. i told him that i am fixing me right now and having such a wonderful friend in my life would be great and let nature take its course. i can not love anyone until i love me again in whole. did i do good? lol


Perfect! flowerforyou flowerforyou

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Fri 02/01/08 11:49 AM
flowerforyou :smile: flowerforyou :smile:

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Fri 02/01/08 11:49 AM





ok sistas....ive got a problem. im going to post about it in relationship advice thread. ive "met" someone and its getting to the wire and im freakin out here!!! NERVOUS has kicked in!!!! i love you guys and you always have sound advice for me xoxoxoxoxoxoxo


First, take a slow deep breath to the count of 5, then let it out slowly to the count of 5.

You'll be nervous, he'll be nervous, gives you something in common already, doesn't it bigsmile I've found the most effective strategy is to talk about the nervousness, makes you feel better. Go somewhere you feel comfortable already, not a good time to try something new. Wear something you feel comfortable in, that makes you feel good about yourself. These all help make you feel more relaxed. Then, just be yourself and have a good time. If it doesn't work out, you're no worse off than you are now, right? But, you might have a good time anyway and at least you'll have a bad date story to tell. flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou


thanks guys!!!! i just really dont feel that good about myself right now for various reasons..some know some dont...ughhhh in the last 2 years i had a violent relationship which ended abotu 8 months ago. i gained a TON of weight and the last attack he knocked out 9 teeth, i took 14 blows to the face alone. ive had to have some reconstructive surgery...so yeah i feel kinda yucko...jeff knows this, he's seen me, he doesnt care so he says...says all of that is fixable if i so choose, etc...just not having faith in myself is more what it is i think...you guys lift my heart in so many ways, you have no idea what you do for me. i love you all so very much...nothing i wouldnt do for any of you. we chicas really do rock!


((((((((((Kitt)))))))))))

I had no idea about your relationship, but know, it's most certainly not a reflection of you, you, my chica sister, are an amazing woman, do not ever doubt that. Trust your gut, trust your instincts, they will lead you on the right path. And, if this is truly right, time will tell you that, no reason to rush anything.

I wrote that before I read your post, most of it doesn't really pertain to your particular situation.



one word of advice sweet sistah ...........

R E L A X flowerforyou


thanks judy. i hold your advice in high regards as well. as ive told you before, you are an intelligent classy strong woman. im trying to relax...ok ruthie breath with me here lol IN.....OUT! lol

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Fri 02/01/08 11:49 AM
Do I qualify?????

For the chica club I mean??

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Fri 02/01/08 12:03 PM
Well now that I realize you are a WOMAN and not a guy in shades ... sure nuf sweetie drinker

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Fri 02/01/08 12:04 PM






ok sistas....ive got a problem. im going to post about it in relationship advice thread. ive "met" someone and its getting to the wire and im freakin out here!!! NERVOUS has kicked in!!!! i love you guys and you always have sound advice for me xoxoxoxoxoxoxo


First, take a slow deep breath to the count of 5, then let it out slowly to the count of 5.

You'll be nervous, he'll be nervous, gives you something in common already, doesn't it bigsmile I've found the most effective strategy is to talk about the nervousness, makes you feel better. Go somewhere you feel comfortable already, not a good time to try something new. Wear something you feel comfortable in, that makes you feel good about yourself. These all help make you feel more relaxed. Then, just be yourself and have a good time. If it doesn't work out, you're no worse off than you are now, right? But, you might have a good time anyway and at least you'll have a bad date story to tell. flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou


thanks guys!!!! i just really dont feel that good about myself right now for various reasons..some know some dont...ughhhh in the last 2 years i had a violent relationship which ended abotu 8 months ago. i gained a TON of weight and the last attack he knocked out 9 teeth, i took 14 blows to the face alone. ive had to have some reconstructive surgery...so yeah i feel kinda yucko...jeff knows this, he's seen me, he doesnt care so he says...says all of that is fixable if i so choose, etc...just not having faith in myself is more what it is i think...you guys lift my heart in so many ways, you have no idea what you do for me. i love you all so very much...nothing i wouldnt do for any of you. we chicas really do rock!


((((((((((Kitt)))))))))))

I had no idea about your relationship, but know, it's most certainly not a reflection of you, you, my chica sister, are an amazing woman, do not ever doubt that. Trust your gut, trust your instincts, they will lead you on the right path. And, if this is truly right, time will tell you that, no reason to rush anything.

I wrote that before I read your post, most of it doesn't really pertain to your particular situation.



one word of advice sweet sistah ...........

R E L A X flowerforyou


thanks judy. i hold your advice in high regards as well. as ive told you before, you are an intelligent classy strong woman. im trying to relax...ok ruthie breath with me here lol IN.....OUT! lol


sweetie, I've met more guys from on line IN PERSON than most posters all together. LOL

it's just a friggin meet. friends. see it as .... no matter what you have a new inperson friend.................

hell it's a crap shoot no matter what laugh

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Fri 02/01/08 12:17 PM
so true fade...it either will be or wont...

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Fri 02/01/08 12:22 PM

so true fade...it either will be or wont...


Have F U N darlin' flowerforyou drinker

madamx7316's photo
Fri 02/01/08 12:26 PM


so true fade...it either will be or wont...


Have F U N darlin' flowerforyou drinker


im going to...to heck with it all. IM WOMAN HEAR ME ROAR...GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR LOL

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Fri 02/01/08 12:28 PM
flowerforyou :heart: flowerforyou

madame follow your heart...



it will not lead you astray... just follow your heart.. and if it gets broken.. chalk it up to learning.. but dont miss out on things.... follow your heart...


but listen to your head too..
laugh :wink: flowerforyou flowerforyou

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Fri 02/01/08 12:42 PM



so true fade...it either will be or wont...


Have F U N darlin' flowerforyou drinker


im going to...to heck with it all. IM WOMAN HEAR ME ROAR...GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR LOL


YA YAAA!!!drinker drinker

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Fri 02/01/08 12:47 PM
YA YA !!!! drinker smokin

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Fri 02/01/08 01:09 PM
yay