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When starting a relationship, how often do you like to spend with the new girlfriend/boyfriend? once, twice, more times per week? When you grow further into the relationship do you like to spend even more time with your significant other? At least a couple times a week, moving on to more during the first months. I need His companionship, warmth, and touch. Looking into His eyes and smile often is a must, too. |
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I like my space too, I think 2 times a week is perfect for the first couple months...does she initate some of the contact? It's tough if your the only one doing the calling, but even a text every couple days means something...or just a quick call or message that says your thinking of her. Maybe send her flowers or something too... that is always a good thing
 
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she does a lot of the calling, we both initiate texting. I don't like to call her because she is pretty busy with her homework, she takes 6 college courses, 3 of them are masters program, so that is a lot of work. She also works overnights most of the week, so I try not to bother her during the day.
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she does a lot of the calling, we both initiate texting. I don't like to call her because she is pretty busy with her homework, she takes 6 college courses, 3 of them are masters program, so that is a lot of work. She also works overnights most of the week, so I try not to bother her during the day. Sounds like you got it right then...if she hasn't indicated that she doesnt like you calling, then your doing just fine. 
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so i should keep not calling then?
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so i should keep not calling then? Just thought of something...she calls alot? If she is doing MOST of the calling, yeah, maybe you need to do alittle more initiating. Or like I said...send some
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Edited by
stevenpwis
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Wed 01/30/08 03:17 AM
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I've bought her flowers. The reason I don't call her is because she says the day before "I'll call you tomorrow." The only problem with that is about 4 or 5 times that she has said that, she didn't end up calling, in fact she didn't call me last night and I thought she was going to. She also doesn't really like phones, neither do I, but a quick conversation would do it for me. Is it possible that she didn't call maybe because we talked online earlier in the morning? I have no idea. Women always seem to play with my head.
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I look at it like this dude. First of all, you knew she was a busy woman when you two started dating, so like someone stated, you knew what you were getting into. Now, having said this, I also understand that as you date, the desire to want to spend more time with her grows. That is a good feeling to have man, but in your case, you have to take it in stride. One question I have is does she want to be spending more time with you? Does she say things like this? I know she talked about having her space and all, just curious if she mentions wanting to spend time with ya. Cause, right now, she is all about college and her job, which is understandable, but she also decided to be involved with you. Well, when you pile things on, something will take a "backseat", and in a way, maybe the relationship is there (for now) because it is new to both of you. Given time, it could manifest into more, which is why people are saying to just go with the flow.
As for you calling? I would say call her like every other day. If you get her voicemail, just leave her a nice little message saying that you just wanted to talk for a few minutes, little chit chat stuff like that. If she calls back, keep the convo short and all. Then, wait a day, maybe even two, and call her again. Don't be too aggressive with it. Keep up the texting and all (such a wonderful tool isn't it). Main thing is to not come off as needy or clingy dude. Missing her is one thing. But becoming needy will set off the red flags. Not good. |
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I agree with Goof...
I know from past experience that when a guy becomes too needy or clingy it really is a turn off, for me anyway... <~~~~what Goof said... 
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yeah i agree with goof....
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it just depends on the situation, but if it is good we tend to spend all our free time together and make more free time to spend together as well...
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go with the flow really
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depends but as often as we both agree on
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when i first met my doll we were together ALL the time!!!
   
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it all depends on the guy...i used to not see one of my exes for weeks at a time...but we talked on the phone every night for just a few minutes...and texted eachother throughout the day...one of my exes i went days with out talking to him on the phone but when schcduals permitted we would spend any time off together...I believe honesty's the best policy...tell her how u feel...or just pick up the phone and call her...it wouldnt hurt...the worst she can say is "i'm busy can u call me later?"
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As for you calling? I would say call her like every other day. If you get her voicemail, just leave her a nice little message saying that you just wanted to talk for a few minutes, little chit chat stuff like that. If she calls back, keep the convo short and all. Then, wait a day, maybe even two, and call her again. Don't be too aggressive with it. Keep up the texting and all (such a wonderful tool isn't it). Main thing is to not come off as needy or clingy dude. Missing her is one thing. But becoming needy will set off the red flags. Not good. Excellent advice! Yeah, what he said!~
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he doesnt have to be with me all the time. a call or two in a day is sweet and and a day within a week is enough for me...
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At least 2 to 3 times a week at first if not more when first dating. Hell as we all know as time goes on, some things will slow down, but then again if your like me. I never slow down
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