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AaronzDad Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 10182	Mon 01/28/08 10:41 AM
To answer your question jtitol... There isn't any "way" to write to anyone on these sites other than simple decency rules. Write something personal and particular to that individual. Ask questions that can give them something to respond to. Don't use mass emailings or blanket statements - "Ur HOT, rite me K?" Yes women get those all the time along with every other perverted bit of weirdness you can imagine. And THAT is the main reason you're not getting replies. Women are inundated with email on these sites and some of the stuff they get is downright scary. Many, if not most women just "shut down" after a couple days and only respond to emails from guys they've already viewed and were interested in or someone with something REALLY unique to say. It's a crap shoot. You may be the perfect match for the gal you're writing to but six hundred forty eight other guys before you have soured the whole experience for her. Nothing for you to do but shrug and write to someone else. Here's hoping she's newer and not jaded yet.

jtitol Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 5396	Mon 01/28/08 10:44 AM
To answer your question jtitol... There isn't any "way" to write to anyone on these sites other than simple decency rules. Write something personal and particular to that individual. Ask questions that can give them something to respond to. Don't use mass emailings or blanket statements - "Ur HOT, rite me K?" Yes women get those all the time along with every other perverted bit of weirdness you can imagine. And THAT is the main reason you're not getting replies. Women are inundated with email on these sites and some of the stuff they get is downright scary. Many, if not most women just "shut down" after a couple days and only respond to emails from guys they've already viewed and were interested in or someone with something REALLY unique to say. It's a crap shoot. You may be the perfect match for the gal you're writing to but six hundred forty eight other guys before you have soured the whole experience for her. Nothing for you to do but shrug and write to someone else. Here's hoping she's newer and not jaded yet. NO JADED PLEZ

catchme_ifucan Joined Fri 11/03/06 Posts: 24221	Mon 01/28/08 10:50 AM
The ones that don't bother answering are missing out. Just be you, sends notes & always answer even if your not interested. Just invite them to come meet other people in here. When I started deleting my who's viewed me list I sent out a ton of notes Inviting them here & only a few responded. Those few did start posting, that's what counts. I did have one guy answer with "WHAT DO YOU WANT?" eeeck! I told him nothing from you! I was just being nice! (I left off the d*ckhead part)

catchme_ifucan Joined Fri 11/03/06 Posts: 24221	Mon 01/28/08 10:51 AM
Do WE get Jaded in time??

jtitol Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 5396	Mon 01/28/08 10:51 AM
The ones that don't bother answering are missing out. Just be you, sends notes & always answer even if your not interested. Just invite them to come meet other people in here. When I started deleting my who's viewed me list I sent out a ton of notes Inviting them here & only a few responded. Those few did start posting, that's what counts. I did have one guy answer with "WHAT DO YOU WANT?" eeeck! I told him nothing from you! I was just being nice! (I left off the d*ckhead part)

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Mon 01/28/08 11:07 AM
Well, after checking out your profile I think I can say that there is only one picture of people and you could be one of two people.... and your profile is BLANK. I do not bother to reply to blank profiles... take the time to fill it in.

jtitol Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 5396	Mon 01/28/08 11:10 AM
no camera and i expected ppl who r interested to email

AaronzDad Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 10182	Mon 01/28/08 11:13 AM Edited by AaronzDad on Mon 01/28/08 11:13 AM
Well, after checking out your profile I think I can say that there is only one picture of people and you could be one of two people.... and your profile is BLANK. I do not bother to reply to blank profiles... take the time to fill it in. DING! DING! DING! DING! DING! DING! DING! WE HAVE A WINNER! Good GRIEF jtitol!!! What the heck do you expect?? You have to SAY something for anyone to respond. If I get a letter from someone with NO profile (and that goofy imitation banner thing is NOT a profile) I'm thinking "You're too lazy or dumb or plain boring to write ANYthing at all about yourself? Why on God's green earth would I write to YOU?" Well folks that wraps up this episode of "Things not to do on internet dating sites". Please join us next time when we will discuss the finer points of finding foreign spouses.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Mon 01/28/08 11:15 AM Edited by lilith401 on Mon 01/28/08 11:15 AM
no camera and i expected ppl who r interested to email And in what, exactly, would people find interest in? A photo of world flags? A photo of a mother and her two sons? Cetainly nothing about you, since you wrote nothing. Oh, borrow a buddy's phone, take some pics, there you go.

jtitol Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 5396	Mon 01/28/08 11:20 AM
im not going to kiss ass any1s just so do ppl like me either u like me or hate me as simple that not into writing speeches

jtitol Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 5396	Mon 01/28/08 11:24 AM
Well, after checking out your profile I think I can say that there is only one picture of people and you could be one of two people.... and your profile is BLANK. I do not bother to reply to blank profiles... take the time to fill it in. DING! DING! DING! DING! DING! DING! DING! WE HAVE A WINNER! Good GRIEF jtitol!!! What the heck do you expect?? You have to SAY something for anyone to respond. If I get a letter from someone with NO profile (and that goofy imitation banner thing is NOT a profile) I'm thinking "You're too lazy or dumb or plain boring to write ANYthing at all about yourself? Why on God's green earth would I write to YOU?" Well folks that wraps up this episode of "Things not to do on internet dating sites". Please join us next time when we will discuss the finer points of finding foreign spouses. THATS THE FLAG OF MY COUNTRY "NICARAGUA" ware the foreign spouses

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 01/28/08 11:25 AM
hey jtitol can I have some chzz w/all ur whinning

jtitol Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 5396	Mon 01/28/08 11:27 AM
hey jtitol can I have some chzz w/all ur whinning whos whinning just speaking

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 01/28/08 11:34 AM
This thread has pooped me out This is the song that never ends, It just goes on and on my friends, Some people started singing it, not knowing what it was, And they'll continue singing it forever just because—

MsTeddyBear2u Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 22031	Mon 01/28/08 11:36 AM
How do aproach people who don't post? Ahhhh very carefully! Then tell them to join us!

jtitol Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 5396	Mon 01/28/08 11:37 AM
This thread has pooped me out This is the song that never ends, It just goes on and on my friends, Some people started singing it, not knowing what it was, And they'll continue singing it forever just because—

jtitol Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 5396	Mon 01/28/08 11:37 AM
How do aproach people who don't post? Ahhhh very carefully! Then tell them to join us!

jtitol Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 5396	Mon 01/28/08 11:45 AM
Do WE get Jaded in time??

jjfred Joined Fri 12/21/07 Posts: 52	Mon 01/28/08 11:46 AM
Just reading this made me want to post and I'm not a poster!!!! lol

jtitol Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 5396	Mon 01/28/08 11:47 AM
Just reading this made me want to post and I'm not a poster!!!! lol