If you trust him you should follow your heart. You dont have to stand up to your friends and family but you should tell them how you feel and ask them to support you.

you would not be questioning it if you knew he was good for you . . . i think you know he is not . . . there are a lot of things we want that are not good for us. bottom line when it is right there is no question.

thats the thing with my family an friends.. they dont stand by me for what I wanna do.. like I wanna take this EMT class but I really dont have the money for it.. I ask them if they could pay for it now an I will pay them back when I get money.. but all my dad said was, its not a smart idea you should look into if there is a shortage in EMTs.

I think I'm one of those weird people that wants to hear when their friends and family have problems with guys I date (and other decisions as well)... I think it's the difference in being blindsighted by problems when they come up, and knowing that there are warning signs before you get involved. Or in this case, return to the situation. You already know that there are problems, so do you want to risk the pain that there's a good chance of happening?

my ex-wife's family tryed their best to convince her to dump me after we first met, saying i was no good an i was just gonna use her then dump her. but we were happyly married for 16 years ..we only had one fight in the whole 16 years an that was on our wedding night ..

Im the same way I want my family an friends to like who Im with.. an stand by me. I did worry about if it would happen again alot.

If you continue to worry, then I think you always will. Or at least, by hyper-sensitive anytime anything remotely like this happens.

yea prob will..but ty kelley, u helped alot..think I will just stand back an see what happens.. try to move on an get over him.. gonna be hard

Surely he has lots of good qualities, or you wouldn't love him, but it sounds like he has some things he needs to work on...

ooo yeah... everyone says there is something about him they dont like..cant tell what it is but there is something

Yeah, I had one of those guys once... His trial starts Monday for charges of child molestation, so..heh.

oooo wow...

Kelly your family sees what you can't because you are in love.Listen to them.This man should not be taking inappropriate pics of young girls esp with daughters in the house.That scares me.As for EMT,your Dad makes sense.Why take a course for a job there is no demand for.Do some research.If you really want the health field try nursing.shortage of those.Good Luck to you.

I've learned that if you have a bad feeling, or someone who's relatively objective (ie not you or the guy, but knows you and the guy) who can have a less emotionally-based feel of the situation, has a bad feeling, you should pay attention to that. And maybe it's wrong. Maybe he's a great guy. But there's also a chance that there could really be something there, especially if everyone you know says they have a bad feeling about him.

Listen to your head.... save your heart to love another day. <sigh>

SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT YOU THINK IS BEST FOR YOU EVEN IF IT UPSETS OTHERS-THE PIX OF YOUR FRIEND IS A BIT CREAPY BUT WHO AM I TO JUDGE. IF THESE OTHER PEOPLE REALY LOVE YOU THEY WILL LEARN TO ACCEPT IT. ON THE OTHER HAND THEY WILL ALSO BE THE ONES YOU NEED TO LEAN ON IF IT DOS'N WORK OUT.

Now....I am wondering why he took the pic of your friends chest. Was it done under the influence? Was he doing just for giggles and grins? Is the guy just freaky like that? Or is there something else? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

Let me state a couple of things here. Usually, when your family and friends don't like a guy for whatever reason, they just might be onto something. However, my cousin Donna met this guy John, and nobody in the family liked him to begin with cause he was arrogant and all. But 25 years later, he is loved by the family and is one cool dude. So, your folks and friends don't always get it right. In any case, alot of times they can see what you can\t (basically what BizarreKelly was saying). Course, they might not like he is 10 years older than you, has kids, and all that. They may just have a bad vibe about him. It could be many things.

The flipside to this is that you....and only you...have to decide what it is you want. If you value the acceptance of your family and friends when it comes to dating, then stick to it. I want my family and friends to like who I date, but if they don't......f@ck em! That's just how I roll. All of us are different. Bottom line though....it is your life. You will muck it up at times, and at others, you will make wise choices.

Follow your heart is a little too damn cheesy for me. I say, and feel, you listen to it, think on it, evaluate all the possibilites, and make the best choice you can. Life aint easy and it aint perfect girl. But no matter what, you still have to do what you feel is the best thing for you.

Did you run a background check on him? Does he have a criminal history? Does he post the pics online? You need to have all your info before you make a decision that will affect the rest of your life. Good luck!

uhhhhhhhhhhh he took pics of your friends chest while she was sleeping???????? wtf????????? Get a clue!!!!