ok I'm sure alot of people ask for help but I really need an outside persons advice of this. Ok well lets see.. was dating this guy mark he is 10years older an has 2 lil girls.. does not bug me at all, but I did move in with him after like 6months of dating.. then I moved out an we broke up because I let my friends an family talk me into it...now I'm thinking I made a huge mistake. my family an friends dont like him at all! one thing happen, he took pics of my friend's chest when she was sleeping...well its was just the clevage part but still.. yea I know it was wrong, he did say sry to everyone. I still love him an wanna be with him but no one wants me to.. Im not the type of person to talk back or really stand up for myself.. dont know why. ok but I do love him an I know that.. I dont know what to do..get over him an try to move on or go back to dating him... please help me!!

kick him in the jimmy for the pics...if he's able to talk after then discuss with him what he did and explain that you will not tolerate anymore disrespect. also you shoudl be living your life for you, not for friends and family...good luck darlin!

Follow ur heart!

i,m a man and not touching this one so come on ladys help her out

Chica...FOLLOW YOUR HEART! you know what u want to do right now! u only love once..and we are all fools at least once..go do u, and do what u know is right~

following my heart will upset everyone else in my life

you are the one who has to make the decision. The family and friends can offer input to be considered, but, trust your inner feelings. If it is not lust nor infatuation, then move on. As for the pic, everyone has glitches in their past that they have to outgro and put behind them. Just trust your self to decide

That taking pics thing would make me leave- even if he did say sorry.

He's got kids? Yikes! Little girls. Wow I hope he is'nt a freak!

so what it is ur life and as long as you are happy what does it matter dont they want you to be happy also ?

I will probably be hated for what I am about to say, but nobody has to listen to it if they disagree :) Your friends and family have known you for a long time. And they have your best interests in mind. And maybe they see some major red flags that you don't because you don't want to. So if *everyone* in your life has a huge problem with him, maybe there's a reason? I think you should listen to what your heart tells you, but sometimes we are not rational in making these kinds of decisions. Just my opinion, take it or leave it.

Respect- "key" word in a relationship-he did not respect you or your friend-he needs to know he did a stupid thing and it sounds like there are other things going on so I would stand back, take a breath and then see if that is really what you want

I gotta agree with Teddy -- that pic thing is creepy and inappropriate --

I agree for whatever that's worth

sounds like he has a kinky side to him and its up to you if you can except that part of him. cause if he's willing to go that far of taking pictures like that of a girl while she sleeps then he'll do it again if he has the chance ..

thank you everyone.. I might just wait it out an see it someone else comes along. but if we do get back together everyone is just gonna start ****.. at times it seems that they dont want me to be happy...yea the pic thing is just wrong in so many ways..but everyone messes up from time to time.. Idk maybe Im just blind but Im in love

Thanks! I like to think that sometimes that psychology degree is worth something

yea thats true.. dont know if I could trust him with that whole thing..

Of course they want you to be happy, but they want you to be happy and safe and in a healthy relationship at the same time. Because otherwise, it's not real happiness.. it's just the facade of happiness.

but you have to ask yourself if youre old enough to run your own life or you need your family an friends to help you run it for you ..