A guy on this site has been demolished by a woman he fell for here.
Because this seems to always happen to you sappy poetry dudes I figured
you guys could give him some advice...please, and be kind.

who is it ontario

Can,t say...he,s embarassed and shook up...!

Anyone with some real advice for this guy...!

Come on Guys...?

Humm not that it really matters who it was or is it happens all the time
to the women and the men. Watch out for the red flags that come peaking
up at you when there stories seem to change. Don't fall in love with an
image or just a pic you see on the screen. Don't make more out of it
then it really is. Just because you see there pic or see there words
don't fall head over heels with someone you have not even gotton to
know. Don't expect just because all the talks either by IM or phone go
soo well that it will be the same in person. For so many times when all
seems to click online when you actually meet that person for one reason
or another that chemistry is not there in real life. So don't set that
person so high upon a pedastal that if it don't work out your heart got
broke in the process. Take it one day at a time be friends with them
talk about life and wants and needs but make it clear the first meeting
all you expect is a friendship for out of friendships a great love could
grow then your friendship will mean so much more. Have I followed my own
rules in the past no I have made my mistakes as well but I'm trying to
follow them now and yeah ya need to hold your heart at bay until you
actually meet the person in order to see if that chemistry is there then
let your HEART open all the way at least then if your heart is broken
you know that it was very real person you feel for and not an image of
one. So just take one day at a time and do not rush into a relantionship
for you must build it on trust so take your time and build that
friendship and gain each others trust and repect. Listen to your heart
but also think with your mind!!

Very well stated Txs.

dude... it happens all the time!

Well....T-gal... he,s already nursing a heartache....I was hoping,
someone could cuss him out ...and maybe he,d snap out of it...!

here you,go you sorry son of a bicth there an't no dam women out there
worth losing one dam min. of sleep over so get the hell up off your
sorry and get back out there and tell that sorry no good for nothing
whore to take her sorry ass back where the hell she came from.

thhats not talking just a freind.hope that helps you out

Why curse him out Ontario cause he let his heart get in the way. It is a
real hurt and one that only he can deal with but he must know he is not
the only one that has been heart broken we all have at one time or the
other best thing is time give it time before you rush into another
relantionship also take time and think about how things went and what to
correct. We have to battle our on demons inside there is no magic cure
that makes the hurt go away it just shows that they have a heart but you
can not close that heart either for if you do how can you expect someone
to love you if you can't love them completly. So the only advice I have
is give it time and think about what and how it all went about. Was it
really love for most of the time when things happen it happens for a
reason if its a falled love it was cause it was not meant to happen with
that person but it was another stepping stone you have to cross in order
to be ready for the one you truely was meant to be with.

Yo Ontario. If you need a gf believe in yourself. Use your charms and
soon you'll find a . Don't put yourself down. You'll be okay.

i've never been crushed by rejection, even when it was someone i loved
so i'm not the right one to ask but basically i'd leave it in the past
and move on with my life. to me being rejected just ain't that big a
deal where my life would stop.

T-Gal....he,s a fool...and deserves to be cussed out, and was by some
guy here. He,s done it before recently...those sapplings
never learn.

Okay...this was a sincere attempt to help someone that is emotionally
drained. Many guys who stick those sappy poems up are most familiar with
this issue, as he is one of you...at least you ....oh I,ll die if you
don,t love me....types can say something encouraging to one of your
own...!

OK SO SHE WASN'T WHAT YOU DREAMED OR HOPED SHE'D BE. WHO THE HELL EVER
IS. YOU THINK YOUR GONNA DIE NOW BUT BELIEVE ME YOU'LL GET OVER IT SHE
HAS IS PROBABLY SCREWING OVER THE NEXT JOE RIGHT NOW. LOOK ON THE BRIGHT
SIDE SHE LET YOU DOWN EASY BEFORE SHE SUCKED YOU COMPLETELY IN GOT HER
RING AND TOOK YOU FOR ALL YOUR WORTH. DO YOU FEEL BETTER OR WORSE NOW?
IN THE END IT DOESN'T REALLY MATTER SUCK IT UP AND GO FALL FOR T HE NEXT
PIECE OF ASS THAT TELLS YOU YOUR CUTE SO WE CAN DO THIS ALL OVER AGAIN.

This is what he needs...more please...!

I'm sorry reading it now it is pretty mean. i have had a rough couple of
days and i'm sorry i took it on whoever you are. but you do need to let
it go darling she's gone and chalk it up to experience when the next one
comes along try not to make the same mistakes quite as fast causee you
now you will. just try to be a little slower about them next time

Good advice...but still no sapplings...why...?

We are are so fkd.over by TV and movies. That we actually believe that
that's the way it is except for "everyone but me."We actually are
brainwashed into to thinking that we live in a Meg Ryan-Tom Hanks movie,
and that all cops have an Eddie Murphy type of job. I don't believe in
ghosts and I will start believing in Meg and Tom when I actually SEE it
with my own eyes. Life can be pretty exciting at times, but nowhere near
Doris Day and Rock Hudson. This telephone dating service that I was on,
one guy ACTUALLY asked me why the people on that site didn't look like
the women in the ads. It's kinda like we women who subscribe to
magazines like SHAPE and hate outselves 'cause we don't look like the
models. Hell, they don't even look like that! Rrality is face to face,
nose to nose 'cause 99 percent of us look just like the people standing
behind us in the grocery store. I'd never fall for anyone on a computer
screen. alone.