My current boyfriend knows about all of that and he said that doesn't bother him and not to worry about anything because he said he won't let my ex get in between the both of us no matter what

It's not up to him whether he gets between you two or not... it's more up to you

Kudos to everyone with advice. All great advice everybody. That's refreshing.

Thats right....it's up to you

Ex's are an EX for a reason..very rarely can you go back and it ever be the same..there are people in your life that a part of you will always care about just because they held a special place in your heart...but that's all it is..

You could end up going back to your Ex, and then you would have another Ex you would wish you were with

Don't mean to hurt you but at 18 I guess you don't even know your own mind 100% If you did you would not even think of your ex, when you love someone you don't get all hot for your ex boyfriends in fact you don't even think of them.

Thats right, and if it's a problem and you have feelings for and even thinking about your Ex then you shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone until those feelings are gone, or you will always end up hurting someone, and that's not fair to them.

It sounds like you've already made your decision to add this drama to your life, and the heartache, and grief, and stress. Ah all that pain and trouble will be a good life lesson for you. Just make sure you put yourself directly in the middle of it so you get good and hurt. Is that what you really want? No of course not. But you're thinking that way. In co-dependency courses this is known as "stinky thinking". Don't do that.

thats easy to answer , just pick the one you wanna be with ..

Be careful now you're spilling some of those can of worms!

And you wanna do this in gary indiana the murder capitol? Girl better open those eyes. Better think clearly. The hurt could be really bad.

We can't have our cake and eat it too...

Step back from the situation and do some thinking on it!

Thats right, and if it's a problem and you have feelings for and even thinking about your Ex then you shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone until those feelings are gone, or you will always end up hurting someone, and that's not fair to them.


wow best answer so far

completely agree

Thats right, and if it's a problem and you have feelings for and even thinking about your Ex then you shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone until those feelings are gone, or you will always end up hurting someone, and that's not fair to them.


wow best answer so far

completely agree

Thanks blades
It has happened to me several times, and it's not fair.
I would never do someone that way.
If I have feelings for someone else, I am not going to get into another relationship with someone else...It's just not fair to them or me.

I agree with everyones advise here. The choice is yours now.

And did someone say Cake.. MMMMMMMMM.. I would love a piece thank you...

1. He is an Ex for a reason either you or he ended it - so if you did make the mistake of going back to the past - History will repeat itself and it will be the same thing - I would never personally waste my time. Im thinking the grass is greener till you get there and realize its the same.

2. Your current probably treats you well or you wouldnt still be with him. Think of all the great things and grow your relationship from those and develop something till you have no doubts about this relationship together.

3.Put yourself in your currents shoes ... if he had an ex right down the street ...would you be okay with it? Whats fair is fair if you wouldnt want someone to treat you in this manner it isnt fair to treat him in that manner either. Men look at this as a drama game ... maybe your looking for more attention or some need is not met ... its simple for men just ask them right out for it they understand direct and to the point better than beating around a bush.

4. You already have whats good you just dont realize how lucky you are. Maybe reflect what life is like when your not with someone you care about. Or worse, when someone is not quite upfront with you, or far worse deceives you. Most of us have had this happen to us. You can prevent it be strong enough not to give in to a temptation that will only cause you larger problems in the end.

Good luck to you. Count your blessings.

"Liquidcandy's advice is helping but does anyone else have another view of what I should do??? ...."

Im wondering what do YOU want to do?? Are you waiting for someone to speak the words in this forum that are already in your heart, so that you can feel ok with what you really want?

Be HONEST, first with yourself and then find a way to be honest with everyone else involved.

Good luck

if you love the one you're with, shouldnt be a question

why is he your ex ?
if it just don't work it just don't work.

you still loving him doesn't change the fact
that theres a reason why hes your ex.