I know that when alot of women are in an office there will be conflict. Thats just how it is..Hormones flying. But HELP!! No matter what I do this 1 lady is always trying to push me to the edge. I want to quit and look for another place of employment but I like it here....Minus her! What can I do..and advice??

Ok first option Considering its a place of employment there is the option of going to the supervisor and tell him/her that You are being harrased under the hostile work enviroment act.


Also depends on how she is pushing you over the edge.

she just has an attitude all the time and then when I have the smallest attitude back she responds back to it where everyone can hear it. Its just childish and she acts like all is ok and shes so perfect in front of everyone and I am the bad one. however I am not prefect and I know that. I jsut dont want to lose my job for being mean to her. Then she is best friends with the office manager so I will always be at fault..no matter what!

Is there a Personnel Manager you can talk to about it? Chances are other employees have had problems with this gal too, and the PM would be aware of it and can usually help in those situations.

Well, I've worked in office environments with mostly women, mostly men and a balance and I can tell you, at every one of my jobs, there was always someone with an attitude. Sometimes a woman, sometimes a man, but there's always that one person. You can't do a thing about it, unless they cross the line, which they almost never do. My point is, you learn to ignore and/or get along because no matter where you go, it's not going to be perfect. If you like your job, except for that one, then just ignore, ignore, ignore.

Ok simple fix to this. Human resorce department. They are above the supervisor. Keep a record of incidents. I know it might be hard but dont fight fire with fire against the other employee. Also since the employee and manager are best friends find someone who will take your side to prove it. Fraternization of mangement and employee arnt allowed. After a couple weeks of keeping record of events inform the manager that you feel like you are being harrased under hostile work enviroment and if he replies in any negative go to the human resorce department. Enform them the situation. Not only can the employee be terminated but the manager also. Penalties on this can result in a class action lawsuit against the company and with the evidence and witnesses you could very well win. Not saying it will go that far but generally a company dosent want to risk negative publication.
Also in medical offices keep tractif she is not following HIPPA procedures that too can result in termination. Anything else I can help ya with feel free to ask.

Good advice, Zman.

Another approach to consider, though difficult, is one I had to undertake a few years ago. Unfortunately the woman I had the issue with was my supervisor AND the Human Resource Manager. She was insecure, so she created a hostile environment that kept everyone at each other to distract from her feelings of incompetence.

Long story short, after an off-site meeting one day I asked if she wanted to grab lunch. Then I swallowed my pride and, for the greater good and my piece of mind, said I knew there was tension between us and that I wanted to apologize for any part I had in that. I said I wanted to start with a clean slate if she was willing. I was still choking down my words when she started to cry! Well, life got much better at work (for everyone!) and we actually became very good friends. Not a taditional approach, but it worked for me. Food for thought...

FINALLY SOMEONE WHO IS JUST LIKE ME...i work in an office too and i cant stand everyone in this office except one other girl...all of them r either racist too ****ing young and niave... OMG!!!!...i just turn my radio on and forget everyone...plus alot of the women r leaving so its just a few left...but yeah find some outlet (like talking to me feel free to email me) ask ur supervisior if u can have a cd player or a radio and get some headphones and get in ur zone...

i hope i helped...

squid

Bring her a donut every morning and then the next time she gives you attitude just look at her like you are really hurt and ask what you ever did to her.

or just no matter what she says, just say she is right,your sorry and will never do it again, but continue business as usual. I love that one myself. it really drives them crazy!

I work with hundreds of women........many are the devils spawn

I either ignore them completely.....which makes them crazy and while they arent looking I imagine dunking their heads in a really dirty toilet!!! I call these "Swirleys"

i best way for someone to leave you alone is to be nice to them or go out of your way to say hello because most people will get convicted.

Donuts, swirley's, and kindess....tough choices!

I REALLY like the idea of the swirley, but she had a few donuts on me, so I doubt that would have worked!

I have to say that I agree with Rustydoggy - kindness worked for me!

Maybe you do a better job than she does, and she feels threatened by that.

She's a bully, just like the ones that we encounter in grade school. She's baiting you for a reaction...and you're giving her exactly what she wants. She pushes and you let her push you.

Granted, you could go to a supervisor but that just might aggravate the situation. She'll probably get a verbal reprimand, and things may escalate. No need to fuel the fire...I'd try to put it out first.

Let her have attitude. Let her be a B**ch. Let her push...and stay cool. Smile at her. Say Good Morning to her. Be as sweet and polite as you can. That will probably irritate her more than any other attitude you could have. Miserable people like to make everyone else miserable. Ever heard "Misery loves company"? Once she stops getting the reaction she wants, she'll probably cool it.

Or...you could quit and go work for a fast food joint...then you'll get much more attitude! *L*