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Topic: When does......
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Wed 01/23/08 10:12 PM
Edited by BigCurt_31 on Wed 01/23/08 10:12 PM
the blaming of the opposite sex for a relationship failure stop? When will people start accepting that they comprise 1/2 of a team that lost the game. When will people stop blaming others for thier mistakes in life? Tired of hearing all the crying really!

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Wed 01/23/08 10:14 PM
<-----NOT A BLAMER........Im oblivious with my head up my azzzzzz~~~!!!bigsmile drinker

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Wed 01/23/08 10:15 PM
totally agree that it takes two people to make a relationship work.. its not always a 50/50 reason for the split tho.. There are some things each person either does or doesn't do to upset/offend the other but for the most part its usually either someone gets bored or just isn't happy anymore and moves on. Sometimes this comes out of nowhere for the other person and its hard to deal with a breakup when you thought the relationship was perfect.. in hindsight they never are tho!

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Wed 01/23/08 10:15 PM

the blaming of the opposite sex for a relationship failure stop? When will people start accepting that they comprise 1/2 of a team that lost the game. When will people stop blaming others for thier mistakes in life? Tired of hearing all the crying really!


I really enjoy the "Why do all men ____________?" and "Why are all women _________________?" threads.

It's like, at that point, if you really believe that ALL are like that, why bother anymore?

More to the point, why complain about it? If it's THAT bad, just shut up and go live in the woods.


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Wed 01/23/08 10:17 PM
Personal responsibility? Are you nuts?? Wait....maybe THATS why Im single....noway

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Wed 01/23/08 10:17 PM

<-----NOT A BLAMER........Im oblivious with my head up my azzzzzz~~~!!!bigsmile drinker

It's ok Gypsy! I just get tired of hearing all this woes me and why doe I get **** on! Well, if you wouldn't let someone **** on. They ever thank it is because instead of looking for love let love look for you. I realized that I may never fall deeply in love. Thus, I fall deeply in love with life. Passion fuels my heart and my love. But, I let thing's go from the past. It those thing's taht hinder us from finding true love when it really does happen to us.

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Wed 01/23/08 10:17 PM

totally agree that it takes two people to make a relationship work.. its not always a 50/50 reason for the split tho.. There are some things each person either does or doesn't do to upset/offend the other but for the most part its usually either someone gets bored or just isn't happy anymore and moves on. Sometimes this comes out of nowhere for the other person and its hard to deal with a breakup when you thought the relationship was perfect.. in hindsight they never are tho!


just went though that, we just grew apart, for the better though, we're best fiends now.

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Wed 01/23/08 10:18 PM
I hear ya Curt.. Although, I KNOW it was all his fault.. laugh But all goofing aside.. If a man manhandles a woman and it's because of insecurities not cheating then he's wrong... I'm sure there are other instances but that's one I know..

itsmetina's photo
Wed 01/23/08 10:18 PM
sometimes its one person choosing to screw things up

BigCurt_31's photo
Wed 01/23/08 10:19 PM
Edited by BigCurt_31 on Wed 01/23/08 10:19 PM

totally agree that it takes two people to make a relationship work.. its not always a 50/50 reason for the split tho.. There are some things each person either does or doesn't do to upset/offend the other but for the most part its usually either someone gets bored or just isn't happy anymore and moves on. Sometimes this comes out of nowhere for the other person and its hard to deal with a breakup when you thought the relationship was perfect.. in hindsight they never are tho!

it is true sometimes it is 75/25 or 80/20! Your spouse may get sick and you have to kick in and do more for a time. But, as far making it work it is 50/50 and you do have to meet in the middle!

darkowl1's photo
Wed 01/23/08 10:23 PM
for me sometimes it was me 90, her ten, she got really sick, when she got better, it was more me me me, so we grew apart.

izzie's photo
Wed 01/23/08 10:25 PM


the blaming of the opposite sex for a relationship failure stop? When will people start accepting that they comprise 1/2 of a team that lost the game. When will people stop blaming others for thier mistakes in life? Tired of hearing all the crying really!


I really enjoy the "Why do all men ____________?" and "Why are all women _________________?" threads.

It's like, at that point, if you really believe that ALL are like that, why bother anymore?

More to the point, why complain about it? If it's THAT bad, just shut up and go live in the woods.


i do live in the woods...
ok so not in the woods...
but i do not beleve that ALL men are lyin cheetin azz holes.. just the ones ive dated...

and i know that not all of them are.. cuz ive met some incredibly wonderful ones in here.. its just a distance thing..

and as for my past relationships..
i chose to date the azz hole.. i did NOT ask to be beat.. raped.. or cheated on... however i did let it go on for the 6 years that it did...

so i guess it was kinda my own fault for not leavin sooner...

ether way...
flowerforyou

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Wed 01/23/08 10:25 PM
Aww come on Curt, we all know ur in love with yourself,lool, Just kiddin Brotha!!laugh



<-----NOT A BLAMER........Im oblivious with my head up my azzzzzz~~~!!!bigsmile drinker

It's ok Gypsy! I just get tired of hearing all this woes me and why doe I get **** on! Well, if you wouldn't let someone **** on. They ever thank it is because instead of looking for love let love look for you. I realized that I may never fall deeply in love. Thus, I fall deeply in love with life. Passion fuels my heart and my love. But, I let thing's go from the past. It those thing's taht hinder us from finding true love when it really does happen to us.

BigCurt_31's photo
Wed 01/23/08 10:26 PM

for me sometimes it was me 90, her ten, she got really sick, when she got better, it was more me me me, so we grew apart.

Well, the pendulum has to sway!

darkowl1's photo
Wed 01/23/08 10:26 PM

sometimes its one person choosing to screw things up


this happened to you?

BigCurt_31's photo
Wed 01/23/08 10:27 PM

Aww come on Curt, we all know ur in love with yourself,lool, Just kiddin Brotha!!laugh



<-----NOT A BLAMER........Im oblivious with my head up my azzzzzz~~~!!!bigsmile drinker

It's ok Gypsy! I just get tired of hearing all this woes me and why doe I get **** on! Well, if you wouldn't let someone **** on. They ever thank it is because instead of looking for love let love look for you. I realized that I may never fall deeply in love. Thus, I fall deeply in love with life. Passion fuels my heart and my love. But, I let thing's go from the past. It those thing's taht hinder us from finding true love when it really does happen to us.


I hear tell it you have to love yourself, before you can love anyone else! I am complacent with who I am as a person! I know I am honest and forthright and sure don't have a problem speaking my mind.

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Wed 01/23/08 10:28 PM


for me sometimes it was me 90, her ten, she got really sick, when she got better, it was more me me me, so we grew apart.

Well, the pendulum has to sway!


you got it, curt. i couldn't take it anymore, princess has warned me not to be a rug, all i gotta say is HARLEY TIME!

BigCurt_31's photo
Wed 01/23/08 10:31 PM
Edited by BigCurt_31 on Wed 01/23/08 10:31 PM



the blaming of the opposite sex for a relationship failure stop? When will people start accepting that they comprise 1/2 of a team that lost the game. When will people stop blaming others for thier mistakes in life? Tired of hearing all the crying really!


I really enjoy the "Why do all men ____________?" and "Why are all women _________________?" threads.

It's like, at that point, if you really believe that ALL are like that, why bother anymore?

More to the point, why complain about it? If it's THAT bad, just shut up and go live in the woods.


i do live in the woods...
ok so not in the woods...
but i do not beleve that ALL men are lyin cheetin azz holes.. just the ones ive dated...

and i know that not all of them are.. cuz ive met some incredibly wonderful ones in here.. its just a distance thing..

and as for my past relationships..
i chose to date the azz hole.. i did NOT ask to be beat.. raped.. or cheated on... however i did let it go on for the 6 years that it did...

so i guess it was kinda my own fault for not leavin sooner...

ether way...
flowerforyou

And I am sorry that there are guy's out there like that Izzie! And that you had to meet them, but as far the responsibilty thing goes it sounds like you are accepting your part. IT can be scary to leave someone, especially after they have made you feel like noone else would want you. But, I tell you this if I were a woman i would be out the door first time any man put his hand on me. I guess, I can say that because I am a man and have never been beaten. I am no coward and I think any man that hit's woman or is cruel to animal's is a coward.

itsmetina's photo
Wed 01/23/08 10:33 PM


sometimes its one person choosing to screw things up


this happened to you?
yeah

izzie's photo
Wed 01/23/08 10:36 PM

And I am sorry that there are guy's out there like that Izzie! And that you had to meet them, but as far the responsibilty thing goes it sounds like you are accepting your part. IT can be scary to leave someone, especially after they have made you feel like noone else would want you. But, I tell you this if I were a woman i would be out the door first time any man put his hand on me. I guess, I can say that because I am a man and have never been beaten. I am no coward and I think any man that hit's woman or is cruel to animal's is a coward.


its also not so easy to leave when there are kids involved... in my head.."well hes good to the kids.. its only me he treats like sht...." but i know that it would only be a matter of time..

thing is.. i coulda left.. i did leave.. and i took him back.. i learned... and am a better person for it.. if more cynical and jaded so be it.. also less niave. and smarter...


ether way.. i am who i am now.. and that is because of my past...

i screwed up sometimes too.. but everyone does.. granted he screwed up more and more often.. but i let him too, so im as much to blaime..

ok now im rambeling..


curt.. y arent you in my bed yet??
bigsmile

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