Topic: what do i do?
stevenpwis's photo
Wed 01/23/08 11:16 AM
also, she says she has had commitment issues in the past with guys not giving her enough space, I am giving her a lot of space. Would flowers be going too far if she has issues like that?

no photo
Wed 01/23/08 11:17 AM
flowers are good!!!flowerforyou

KennethP5206's photo
Wed 01/23/08 11:18 AM
Flowers would not be going too far, and it does not have to be roses

Texanese's photo
Wed 01/23/08 11:20 AM

another question, i'm going to get her flowers, does it have to be roses?



No, it doesn't have to be roses. Get her flowers that to YOU match her personality.

I've gotten everything from a single rose to a small tropical rainforest. My favorite was a wild flower that my on again off again sweetie gave me because he said it reminded him of me. Something pretty, but unexpected.

KennethP5206's photo
Wed 01/23/08 11:22 AM
As far as her needing her space, and having commitment issues in the past ...Some people are like that so you have to be careful. Don't push anything or you will end up getting hurt, unless you need your space too.

stevenpwis's photo
Wed 01/23/08 11:28 AM
i do need my space too. She is actually the one that's asked me out on every date, unfortunately I am the one who thinks of things to do every time, haha. Just need some ideas from her as well

KennethP5206's photo
Wed 01/23/08 11:35 AM
Well it sounds like things are going well, and there is plenty of things to do in NY

stevenpwis's photo
Wed 01/23/08 11:37 AM
Edited by stevenpwis on Wed 01/23/08 11:37 AM

Well it sounds like things are going well, and there is plenty of things to do in NY


Not in Rochester NY, unless you like bars...neither of us are drinkers or really into the bar scene

Just_Say_When's photo
Wed 01/23/08 11:38 AM
Just ask and see where she stands on the "couple" issue. Just be honest and mention the previous conversation on commitment and tell her you're not trying to crowd her, you just don't want your legs kicked out from under you. After all, YOU don't want to end up with commitment issues as well if she hurt you, right?

Good luck! As for flowers? I'm sure she'd appreciate the gesture. flowerforyou

KennethP5206's photo
Wed 01/23/08 11:47 AM
Fix another romantic dinner, and rent a movie.
Or go to a comedy club....get out the yellow pages and look under entertainment.
Movies?drinker

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 01/23/08 11:51 AM

I've been dating a girl for 2 and a half weeks now, going on our sixth date today. Do I just assume we are a couple now or do I ask her? I've never really understood how someone becomes an actual couple.



ASSUME??? Have you never heard what assuming does? It makes an 'ass' out of 'u' n 'me' .......

Don't evaaaaaaaaah assume, especially not where a woman is concerned smokin

stevenpwis's photo
Wed 01/23/08 11:52 AM
I am cooking her another dinner tonight. She likes romantic comedies and I do own Stranger than Fiction, that would be a pretty good one I think.

SpamlaSpamderson's photo
Wed 01/23/08 11:52 AM
huh

a person can still be an 'individual' yet be a couple
you have hobbies and things you enjoy doing as does she (hopefully)....life is growth and you should not feel smothered by a relationship of being exclusive....


just my opinion....

KennethP5206's photo
Wed 01/23/08 12:13 PM
Sounds good.

SpamlaSpamderson's photo
Wed 01/23/08 12:32 PM
:smile:

stevenpwis's photo
Wed 01/23/08 01:10 PM
what actually happened to people in this world? People want a relationship yet they don't want to spend a lot of time with their partner

KennethP5206's photo
Wed 01/23/08 01:18 PM
Like I said some people are like that.
I am not one of those people, and I know how it feels to be with someone that is the exact opposite.
If you are the type of person that likes to spend a lot of time with the person you care for and she is not, then you have to be very careful or you WILL GET HURTbrokenheart

DaveyB's photo
Wed 01/23/08 01:39 PM

what actually happened to people in this world? People want a relationship yet they don't want to spend a lot of time with their partner


It's not always about want. It's a busy world we live in and the only way to make things work is (oh gee have you heard this a million times in this threadlaugh laugh ) to talk.


msjkk2020's photo
Thu 01/24/08 07:14 PM



I've been dating a girl for 2 and a half weeks now, going on our sixth date today. Do I just assume we are a couple now or do I ask her? I've never really understood how someone becomes an actual couple.


You are asking a bunch of single people. wish I could help....
Just because we are single now...doesnt mean we have no idea what a relationship is like.........you make it sound like we are all a bunch of mindless idiot losers!!noway laugh laugh noway

Nawwwwwww...I would have said that if that is what I thought.

no photo
Fri 01/25/08 09:10 PM
Have you had sex with her yet?

Also, I think you'd have to "ask her out" if you want to make things official.