I have a 6 year old son, soon to be seven. Hes a bit spoiled over the divorce he had to endure. But tonight he threw a fit about his math homework (AND HES SMART AS A WHIP WITH MATH) saying it was to much. I put him in his room and listened to him scream I HATE YOU to me. Any help for me???

let it go, he just wants to come out, its not true, and practice moderation!!!

My daughter just turned 7 last month. We have battles over homework but she would never say that to me because she knows I would spank her little butt. I believe respect has to be learned before it can be earned. JMO

I just feel soooo at a loss lately...my son won't get up for school in the morning and now gets mad at night too. I'm frazzled!

I went through the same thing with my 5 yr old daughter. First off, when she does the "I hate you" thing, I let her know that it's fine for her to be mad at me and she can think that to her heart's content - but she will not say to me, same as I will never say it to her. It's a respect thing.

Secondly, when he starts pitching his fits ignore him. He's doing it for the attention, so let him yell and scream and carry on all he wants to. Eventually, he'll realize it gets him no where, especially if - when he has stopped with the fussing/whining/crying - you make sure he knows that when he can speak to you reasonably you will listen.

Only took my daughter about a week or so to figure it out. Talk to me like a big girl and I'll listen, pitch a fit and I'm sorry....I can't see you or hear you.

Tough love, but it worked with my daughter (and she was awful! She'd throw herself on the floor kicking, yelling, screaming and beating her head on the floor)

it will be fine my 6 yr. daughter does the same coule time a week / just have to have litte control or they will walk over you

He doesn't really hate you and its not the last time you are going to hear him say that. he's having a tantrum and being a normal 6 year old.

However he must respect you. You are the parent and what you say goes. My son is 13 and has autism so he is more like a 6 year old and i always tell him that i don't know why he is arguing with me cuz he is going to lose- he understands that when i say to do something- DO IT!!!! i believe in spanking- i was spanked and im fine- no really i am!! lol--- it does get your point across- as does taking away things he likes.

This too shall pass but just stay strong and you can always vent to us

beat the hell outta em

children are smater than we adults give them credit for.. although they may seemingly disconnect from the emotional pains that adults are consumed with as a result of a break-up in relationships THEY KNOW AND FEEL the stress themselves.

your son may be reacting to that very same event. this may be signs of things to come especially if he was close to his dad / your male friend.

i will suggest that you have a talk with him.. not a baby talk but an age appropriate conversation with him so as to assure him that he is never out of the loop. that he is your most important concern that you love him. ten is the age of impression.. you can leave him with a good caring impression or one that leave him to have doubts..about you and himself.

good luck.

Don't give in to any Tanyrums.At all...Once you give in. he will win..Stay strong.I't can be very thouh.Good luck.

Thanks everyone and I really mean it! Its been crazy around here, he always seems to get the best of me.

And no, I will never BEAT my son! Although perhaps he does deserve a swat on the butt!

Spank him.

Spank him.

"Do not hold back discipline from the mere boy. In case you beat him with the rod, he will not die. With the rod you yourself should beat him, that you may deliver his very soul from She´ol itself." ~ Proverbs 23:13-14

Parent of 4 kids here, and it's hard when there are days where we are on edge.. kids sense it and jump all over it.. the best way to deal with them is to remain calm and in control.

It's not easy, and sometimes we all lose it.

I know this is going to sound crazy but parenting classes really help with this sort of thing. I took them after my kids were too grown to really help. Structure, structure, structure. If you are giving him any free time at all stop doing it. Also if you are being over nice to him due to the divorce STOP IT before it gets totally out of control. I can not express this enough have a schedule for him, structure his time, get him some extra curricular activities and keep him as busy as you can. It doesn't sound like it works but it does. Temper tantrums send him to his room and ignore him until he can be civil. That is what I learned plus there is alot more but you would have to take the classes to learn it all. Good luck

There is more than one reason for our butts to have padding.Than just holding up our pants.
Spare the rod,Spoil the child.There is nothing wrong with a swat on the behind..

(((Mary))) I know that being a parent can be SUPER frusterating at times! If you need to talk please email me.

exactly