hey,you got a hard job there so tell us single and free what is expected
of us if we want to date you.First if we ask you out we should pay the
baby sitter.what else?

Say What?

That's just too F'ng wierd....

NO the men do not pay the babysitter the MOM does. That was a nice offer
though~

some of the men i have dated after finding out i have kids, walked away
without any explaination.
Dont try to "buy" the kids. Dont try to replace the kids "dad" so to
speak. Don't dis the "dad" in front of the kids. Respect the MOM if she
is unable to make a date because of the kids. Dont be afraid to see if a
movie night inside is acceptable, if MOM will allow it. Do things with
MOM and kids sometimes, like going fishing, watching a movie, going to
dinner (McD).
stuff like that.

wellI got kids luckily the oldest 2 can watch the youngest 1 :)

and whoknows I know what you mean I mean I have not had that happen with
women but it seems harder for me to date now than when they were with
their mother

people who date should respect and those of us who do not mind kids,i
think there neat.Keeps ya on your toes.There are rule we need to follow
is what i was trying to get at.Like you said it a package deal.I do
belive if i ask a lady out and she has kids i should pay the sitter only
fair.I should meet the kids at her choice of time and place.Yes we
should after learning each other and gaining trust do something as a
family type of outing.Its hard for people to date with a child.We should
be thankfull that they are trying there best to care for there family.

well my problem is that when is the right time, never seems to be
actually, because I have been in one good long relationship(over 6
months) and my kids fell in love with her alos but then everything went
downhill and they got hurt almost as much as me, now I can take the
heartache from her, but the heartache from the kids is a killer

Paying the babysitter....what a wonderful thought! That offer in and of
itself is very impressive. Very thoughtful! One biggie with me is never
pretend to like kids if ya don't. Don't kiss up to the kids to win the
mom. It will backfire in the longrun.

man so sorry there.I have a friend that lost her boyfriend he had a
massive heart attack at 43 and he was tight with the kids man its a hard
thing to love and lose on any level.

there is not a set time frame. I chose in a way that was acceptable for
my kids. Depends on the children really. I was lucky. The one guy my
oldest fell in love with, was my ex husband. He still sees her on a
regular basis, goes on visits with her sister. He is "daddy" as far as
we are concerned. Her sperm donor has NOTHING to do with her except
having a job so the state can take child support. And now i have to
fight with the exhubby to get child support. Gonna go after his dl now.
Owes me over $1000, so the state can suspend his dl. i am also going to
ask for a seek employment order on his lazy bum buttocks.
It just depends.
Oh, and offering to pay the sitter is sweet. But i wouldnt do it for the
first few dates. Mom should pay the sitter. But after a few dates, you
might try going dutch on the sitter, especially if the night runs longer
than expected.
just my opinion. If it matters or not.

i be male i need data LOL,do think though i should pay sitter i do not
have the burden of bills that a parent has.At least work something out
thats fair to both.As for support i think before the end of divorce a
system is put in place to make sure the kids get whats needed.

Mustang, about paying for the sitter, if you do that you will be walked
on throughout that relationship...Guarenteed (take her out to a better
dinner and call it even)...