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Topic: Why do some men prefer drugs over a relationship?
zebra127 Joined Sun 01/20/08 Posts: 457	Thu 01/24/08 07:39 AM
because there stupid and weak

Jistme Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 2991	Thu 01/24/08 08:01 AM
Sorry Zebra.. but you'd probably be more convincing if you used a grammar check. There = in that place or position; to or toward that place. An adverb. Their = a possessive pronoun.

eskimo_nell Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 3035	Thu 01/24/08 08:03 AM Edited by eskimo_nell on Thu 01/24/08 08:03 AM
I don't think they prefer it, it's an addiction

eskimo_nell Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 3035	Thu 01/24/08 08:04 AM
Sorry Zebra.. but you'd probably be more convincing if you used a grammar check. There = in that place or position; to or toward that place. An adverb. Their = a possessive pronoun. thanks always confused me

zebra127 Joined Sun 01/20/08 Posts: 457	Thu 01/24/08 08:05 AM
Sorry Zebra.. but you'd probably be more convincing if you used a grammar check. There = in that place or position; to or toward that place. An adverb. Their = a possessive pronoun. sorry bro im no english teacher and dont care if my spelling sucks tbh..

hardnready Joined Mon 01/07/08 Posts: 1118	Thu 01/24/08 08:10 AM
True love is a drug...and hopefully the only one that you dont want to stop.

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Thu 01/24/08 08:43 AM
Addict do not love themselves so they are incapable of loving anyone else this includes their children, spouse, family, etc...

otterman Joined Fri 12/21/07 Posts: 623	Thu 01/24/08 08:44 AM
your brain produces a pleasure endophine which does not replenish itself. opiates cause an overflow of this endorphine which leads to less and less untill eventually the only way to produce this feeling of pleasure is to use the drug.

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Thu 01/24/08 08:54 AM
To draw the line to a simple answer is ridiculous, there is no simple answer as to why someone starts useing drugs and to try and find one will drive you insane. In all honest this argument will run full circle again and again, there will be no end to it...addiction is personally driven and not driven by the drug, as I've done the most addictive drugs and walked away because I didn't like the way I felt and/or didn't take well to the drug (IE. vomiting, nausea, etc.) again, drop the argument before you make enemies out of possible friends. You are right, there are as many reasons as there are people. However, I believe the OP was specifically asking about it in the context of Relationships with significant others. That is a bit different, IMHO. As for addiction being personally driven....Well yes, it does START out that way. But somewhere along the line if you do it long enough and hard enough, the drug itself, insidiously takes over. Then, you have no control over it any more. I've seen it often enough. Treated it often enough, to know. It's not just drugs that can be addictive though. Some folks get addicted to being online, posting, to certain types of Partners, to certain fun activities, sensations, all kinds of stuff. Know yourself and keep a positive, sober support system around you at all times. Take care of you first.

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Thu 01/24/08 08:55 AM
your brain produces a pleasure endophine which does not replenish itself. opiates cause an overflow of this endorphine which leads to less and less untill eventually the only way to produce this feeling of pleasure is to use the drug. This deals primarily with Opiate substance abuse, doesn't it?

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Thu 01/24/08 08:56 AM
True love is a drug...and hopefully the only one that you dont want to stop. Unless it is gasp "Addictive Love". That one is not so cool.

otterman Joined Fri 12/21/07 Posts: 623	Thu 01/24/08 09:11 AM
your brain produces a pleasure endophine which does not replenish itself. opiates cause an overflow of this endorphine which leads to less and less untill eventually the only way to produce this feeling of pleasure is to use the drug. This deals primarily with Opiate substance abuse, doesn't it? from what i have learned yes. ive battled addiction for years and have been clean for 2 now.for me i can see the effects of this daily.i am not numb but my emotions are somewhat lathargic.you have a great job, helping people is quite rewarding!

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Thu 01/24/08 09:13 AM
your brain produces a pleasure endophine which does not replenish itself. opiates cause an overflow of this endorphine which leads to less and less untill eventually the only way to produce this feeling of pleasure is to use the drug. This deals primarily with Opiate substance abuse, doesn't it? from what i have learned yes. ive battled addiction for years and have been clean for 2 now.for me i can see the effects of this daily.i am not numb but my emotions are somewhat lathargic.you have a great job, helping people is quite rewarding! Congrats to YOU! Keep it up.

toastedoranges Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 11042	Thu 01/24/08 09:17 AM
because there stupid and weak spelling error aside, i couldn't agree more. for someone to say that drugs always lead to addiction or worse things, that's a broad generalization. some people actually have enough will power and knowledge to keep themselves at a healthy balance. if you slide down that slope, that is your weakness. that is your inability to control your own body and life. and yet another excuse to be made.

Jistme Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 2991	Thu 01/24/08 09:32 AM
for someone to say that drugs always lead to addiction or worse things, that's a broad generalization. some people actually have enough will power and knowledge to keep themselves at a healthy balance. And somehow you manage to counter that broad generalization by agreeing with an equally broad generalization?

bgeorge Joined Fri 09/14/07 Posts: 7850	Thu 01/24/08 09:36 AM Edited by bgeorge on Thu 01/24/08 09:42 AM
drugs make me happy and when i'm happy ... everybody's happy

toastedoranges Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 11042	Thu 01/24/08 09:48 AM
And somehow you manage to counter that broad generalization by agreeing with an equally broad generalization? people are stupid, can you argue with that? people will look for an out in their life. whether that "out" be drugs or a new hobby. if it is drugs, most people will later use it as a scapegoat for their issues. points you can argue?

bgeorge Joined Fri 09/14/07 Posts: 7850	Thu 01/24/08 09:51 AM
nope..too happy to argue

Jistme Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 2991	Thu 01/24/08 10:12 AM
people are stupid, can you argue with that? people will look for an out in their life. whether that "out" be drugs or a new hobby. if it is drugs, most people will later use it as a scapegoat for their issues. points you can argue? No more then you can argue that drug use often does lead to abuse... You seem to be a suscriber to the philosophy that it is a moral and fiber type issue. Which is the typical stance of someone who has never had the experience of substance use, or the practicing user who is feeling a bit bullet proof and in some denial about some consequences they are experiencing.

littlebit_srb Joined Tue 12/25/07 Posts: 23	Thu 01/24/08 10:19 AM
well i have been there and you can't control a person that you love who is on drugs they will hurt you in a way they don't realize because of the drugs and wonder why you are mad at them i was in a bad situation till one day i woke up and had enough i am free of this man he ruined my life for 2 years not only the dugs but the violence too so women out there who says i can't leave because he needs me and i love him well that is bull **** they love them selves not you stay far away from people thike that you will only get hurt and regret the choices you made