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i know how you feel samething happen to me i dint give up and at the end i got custody of all 3 of my kids, so what ever you do dont give, up fight it all the way.
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Steve do u have kids??? I wish I had kids. |
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Pennsylvania..its a bit difficult to get that changed with out good cause...I hope its the same way in Maryland..for u.. Wish u well.. I had the typical agreement..every other weekend...I laways gave the boys to him any time he or they wanted each other... I either worked..or slept...it was get ahead or recoup time.. I wish many would see it that way.. our children are not possetions....they are gifts to be shared between both parents...and the children no matter what age has rights to both parents as well..as long as they r safe of course...tell that to the judge... I should have gone into the domestics...I did it right...and have tried to help many ....cause it works...my boys are living proof...they have a wonderful dad and relationship... Also when they turned 16 and could drive...I threw the visitation agreement out the window..it then was completely up to them.. Again best to u and hope all works out... let me know...  
Thank you, Maryland I think is pretty good about both parents having continual relationships, my attorney says she has no case and will be thrown out...But I am in an area called Carroll COunty, and apparently they are know to side with the mother more for some reason |
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i know how you feel samething happen to me i dint give up and at the end i got custody of all 3 of my kids, so what ever you do dont give, up fight it all the way. Thank you!!!! I am, gloves are on and tied tight!!! 
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already have half..50/50..she is trying to reduce it I don't know how your state works but I wouldn't think that's possible without good reason in any state.. Stay positive a judge may not be in a good mood but he'd be stupid to take a child away from a father that loves and is good... I've noticed most dads these days are so involved and great.. It's so nice to see that.. Kids need both parents even if they're not together they need them both... Good luck Jim!!!
Thank you! I am standing my ground on this and fighting it all the way...it's all about $$$$ and that is so sad....I will prevail though...thanks for the support
Ahh yes that is typical, I had forgotten about people doing it for that reason.. I'm a little naive about those things.. I only asked for the bare minimum just to help out with daycare and supported my boys on my own for the most part and raised them that way too... Their dad didn't really want to be involved once he got his new family that hurt them.. I couldnt imagine not being involved in her life! I am a very active PTA member, volunteer at the school as much as possible, Heck..I even changed jobs to be closer to her, I am loser to her school now then my ex is. I pay her a lot as it is now, honestly all my female friends with kids say I am paying too much now as it is, now she wants to double it and try to take one night away from to cause that to happen...I truly feel for yours, that is sad and poor charachter about the father...It will come back to haunt him Jim, I don't think the court will do it.. It's see through that she wants more money to pay for the house.. I believe you will win this... My crystal ball says so..  Thanks it has already started to.. The 2 are grown and see how he is and do not have much use for him.. Their choice I never talked about it b/c it's too important for them to have that relationship.. So many times I was blamed and it sucked having to bite my tongue but I knew they'd decide on their own one day.. And now silly me keeps telling them to be nice and give him time it's their Dad no matter what...
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already have half..50/50..she is trying to reduce it I don't know how your state works but I wouldn't think that's possible without good reason in any state.. Stay positive a judge may not be in a good mood but he'd be stupid to take a child away from a father that loves and is good... I've noticed most dads these days are so involved and great.. It's so nice to see that.. Kids need both parents even if they're not together they need them both... Good luck Jim!!!
Thank you! I am standing my ground on this and fighting it all the way...it's all about $$$$ and that is so sad....I will prevail though...thanks for the support
Ahh yes that is typical, I had forgotten about people doing it for that reason.. I'm a little naive about those things.. I only asked for the bare minimum just to help out with daycare and supported my boys on my own for the most part and raised them that way too... Their dad didn't really want to be involved once he got his new family that hurt them.. I couldnt imagine not being involved in her life! I am a very active PTA member, volunteer at the school as much as possible, Heck..I even changed jobs to be closer to her, I am loser to her school now then my ex is. I pay her a lot as it is now, honestly all my female friends with kids say I am paying too much now as it is, now she wants to double it and try to take one night away from to cause that to happen...I truly feel for yours, that is sad and poor charachter about the father...It will come back to haunt him Jim, I don't think the court will do it.. It's see through that she wants more money to pay for the house.. I believe you will win this... My crystal ball says so.. Thanks it has already started to.. The 2 are grown and see how he is and do not have much use for him.. Their choice I never talked about it b/c it's too important for them to have that relationship.. So many times I was blamed and it sucked having to bite my tongue but I knew they'd decide on their own one day.. And now silly me keeps telling them to be nice and give him time it's their Dad no matter what...
I think thats the right thing to do. Sometimes what kids think is the best thing at the moment isnt the best thing many years down the road. |
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already have half..50/50..she is trying to reduce it Why, so she can get more money. Pretty cruel I think, she needs to wake up and enjoy the child It's ironic, Her and her boyfriend just bought a house a month ago...It's got it written all over it, I just hope he sees it like most of reality does My advice to as someonr that has been in this type of situation myself is this. Hire a lawyer,and research your local and state laws under" temparary injuction" or "Motion to quash" and ty up the case in court until the child is old enough to decide for herself where she wants to live. In most states the child can't decide this until s/he is in to her teen years. And even in this day and time, it is hard for a father to fight these things. In most states, the mother could be a crack head, selling her body on the street and still keep physical custudy, unless the father can prove beyond doubt that she is a danger to the child. This is very hard to do. |
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I feel for ya man i have 2 girls 5&8 I treid for equal custody, but the law would not let me because i lived 5 miles from there school!With my ex it was all about money and who can afford the better lawyer. She would let me have the kids when she could not find a babysitter, and keep the hours all but a few short of equal custody. So she could keep child support.I geuss my kids time with me is only worth the $800.00 a month to her.God bless ya and good luck!
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already have half..50/50..she is trying to reduce it I don't know how your state works but I wouldn't think that's possible without good reason in any state.. Stay positive a judge may not be in a good mood but he'd be stupid to take a child away from a father that loves and is good... I've noticed most dads these days are so involved and great.. It's so nice to see that.. Kids need both parents even if they're not together they need them both... Good luck Jim!!!
Thank you! I am standing my ground on this and fighting it all the way...it's all about $$$$ and that is so sad....I will prevail though...thanks for the support
Ahh yes that is typical, I had forgotten about people doing it for that reason.. I'm a little naive about those things.. I only asked for the bare minimum just to help out with daycare and supported my boys on my own for the most part and raised them that way too... Their dad didn't really want to be involved once he got his new family that hurt them.. I couldnt imagine not being involved in her life! I am a very active PTA member, volunteer at the school as much as possible, Heck..I even changed jobs to be closer to her, I am loser to her school now then my ex is. I pay her a lot as it is now, honestly all my female friends with kids say I am paying too much now as it is, now she wants to double it and try to take one night away from to cause that to happen...I truly feel for yours, that is sad and poor charachter about the father...It will come back to haunt him Jim, I don't think the court will do it.. It's see through that she wants more money to pay for the house.. I believe you will win this... My crystal ball says so.. Thanks it has already started to.. The 2 are grown and see how he is and do not have much use for him.. Their choice I never talked about it b/c it's too important for them to have that relationship.. So many times I was blamed and it sucked having to bite my tongue but I knew they'd decide on their own one day.. And now silly me keeps telling them to be nice and give him time it's their Dad no matter what...
Can I borrow your crystal ball?  ...I have a good feel to, just is nervous and scary to think that someone who doesnt know either of us or our child has the ability to make a decision to that....
You sound like a stand up mother...Kudo's to you and keep doing your thing. Last thing you want to do is have your kid's think you though negative of him, they shoudl make their own decision, and it sounds like he is making it for them....
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already have half..50/50..she is trying to reduce it Why, so she can get more money. Pretty cruel I think, she needs to wake up and enjoy the child It's ironic, Her and her boyfriend just bought a house a month ago...It's got it written all over it, I just hope he sees it like most of reality does My advice to as someonr that has been in this type of situation myself is this. Hire a lawyer,and research your local and state laws under" temparary injuction" or "Motion to quash" and ty up the case in court until the child is old enough to decide for herself where she wants to live. In most states the child can't decide this until s/he is in to her teen years. And even in this day and time, it is hard for a father to fight these things. In most states, the mother could be a crack head, selling her body on the street and still keep physical custudy, unless the father can prove beyond doubt that she is a danger to the child. This is very hard to do. Good advice....and I agree with you! |
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I feel for ya man i have 2 girls 5&8 I treid for equal custody, but the law would not let me because i lived 5 miles from there school!With my ex it was all about money and who can afford the better lawyer. She would let me have the kids when she could not find a babysitter, and keep the hours all but a few short of equal custody. So she could keep child support.I geuss my kids time with me is only worth the $800.00 a month to her.God bless ya and good luck! Thank you!!....$800.00? I wish I had that payment, it is CRAZY what I am paying now and what shey may get if she wins this.... Best thing is we are both equal to location mileage wise, but better yeyt my work is only 1.5 miles away now to her being 13 miles away... |
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you still have your JSH posse behind you 
YES I DO!!! Let's all show up in the courtroom!!!  They might frown on the cartoon peeps & animals!
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Also in most states child support is figured on a computer by inputing the fathers income and the mothers income. So unless there has been a major change in income on iether side you have little to worry about. And if she marries, some state consider that as a joint income and will reduce your child support.
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you still have your JSH posse behind you
YES I DO!!! Let's all show up in the courtroom!!! They might frown on the cartoon peeps & animals!
I will just show up with the face icons laughing, I think about 100 of them will do
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Also in most states child support is figured on a computer by inputing the fathers income and the mothers income. So unless there has been a major change in income on iether side you have little to worry about. And if she marries, some state consider that as a joint income and will reduce your child support. Yea, maryland does it that way also. Based on my income and hers I pay 63% of everything just because of that. I am okay wth that, but here is the kicker..One more night less every two weeks, (so that is 26 nights out of a whole year) reduces the over night stays to be below 128, with that being done it would raise the child support almost a $1,000.00 |
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Thank you!!....$800.00? I wish I had that payment, it is CRAZY what I am paying now and what shey may get if she wins this.... i wish i RECEIVED that much... hopefully, the judge will choose what's in the best interest of the children... it's not quite like it was several years ago...the mother doesn't automatically get full custody. if it's been at 50/50, and there's no major reason for her to get more than that...it'll probably stay like it is. |
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Also in most states child support is figured on a computer by inputing the fathers income and the mothers income. So unless there has been a major change in income on iether side you have little to worry about. And if she marries, some state consider that as a joint income and will reduce your child support. Yea, maryland does it that way also. Based on my income and hers I pay 63% of everything just because of that. I am okay wth that, but here is the kicker..One more night less every two weeks, (so that is 26 nights out of a whole year) reduces the over night stays to be below 128, with that being done it would raise the child support almost a $1,000.00 It's a little different in Nebraska. In my case I have 50/50 custudy, and no matter how many days I actual have my son it doesn't change the amout I pay....Not sure about how it works there regarding that, but I have never found a court case that I couldn't find a way to get what I wanted. There has to be a way to stop her in her tracks. Find a law library and do a little research. Laws very alot between states. |
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Making some faces for you! Here is some angels. ^j^ ^j^ ^j^ ^j^ My daughter's daddy is a flake. I never even tried to get anything from him. |
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