(((miguel)))

i would b there to meet u even riding a horse

Here's the kicker....He's never asked for directions, or made reservations at a hotel and now apparently he doesn't have a car.

Did it ever dawn on you that he's probably married?

I always find it both humorous and disturbing to read threads like this. Most of us chime in with some very condemning advice about things we can not possibly be entirely aware of.

A few weeks of interacting via the net is normally not really much time to know all there is you can know about a person. Sure.. it is possible to cover a lot of ground..but also possible to not get to some stuff too.

I did not drive for over 10 years, by choice. I was pretty busy and running a successful business during many of those years. Since when does not having a car unequivocally mean that someone has time on their hands and they are a loser? Actually it could indicate the opposite. I had to plan my trips much more carefully, so as to avoid spending a lot of time traveling. Not having a car did not impede my dating life either.. since I tend to not attract the overly materialistic.

My schedule can be erratic at best. There are times when I am home working for days.. then there are other times that I am unavailable for a day at a time because I'm dealing with a clients emergency. I often do not tell everyone I should, exactly what is going on before I leave..simply because I am on the clock as soon as I get the call and run out the door. This is especially true if I get the call at 3 a.m..

It's early Friday.. He still has plenty of time to get directions, secure transport, book a room.. etc.... He only lives 4 hours away!

However... You (with a little help from your friends here) actually worked it all out for him, anyway. So any effort that he may or may not have put into this you are not aware of, is really pretty pointless.

Been there, done that, got the coffee cup!!! HE'S MARRIED!!!

There is definately more going on here then meets the eye on his end and he's being coy about it.

Maybe...maybe not. I have no way of knowing the entire story. I don't know him, or you for that matter. So anything I could offer that is at all definitive, would be conjecture at best. All I'm suggesting is: You might be talking to the wrong people.

Personally, I prefer to ask the person in question what is going on. Then basing my actions on what they say vs. their actions, with a healthy amount of empathy for their individual sense of privacy and situation.

There have been a few times that the gal I've been interacting with here has texted me..and I did not respond..simply because I was unaware that she had texted me, until she told me she did. When I am in a clients environment, my phone ringer is off, and the phone is often in my briefcase or jacket. When I am busy.. I often cut the conversation short.. and never had a problem with doing that. She knows I am taking care of my responsibilities first... When in that mode.. she does come second..as I do when she is working, or being with her child, her family....etc.. There is that understanding between us. All she has to tell me if she is delayed in getting back to me is: 'I was busy.' If she chooses to tell me with what? That's fine..if not? That's ok too.
Expecting more accountability then that from someone I have not even met yet, within less then a month from the first time we talked? Is really premature for me. I'm relatively sure that if I took it to that level with her...I'd be offering up the death knell to the relationship long before it actually started. I know I'd be taking a few steps back if she did that to me. Very possibly becoming less and less accountable, the more she pushed..until the relationship died an unnatural, premature and forced death.

Just some food for thought.

I'm not trying to judge you..or defend him.

I'm just trying to be the devils advocate. We have very limited information to work with here. For instance.. you did not mention that he hung up in the original post. A conversation cut short can be different then a conversation cut off.
My phone hangs up on the woman I'm talking to..on a regular basis. Simply because we run the battery down to non-functioning.

I sincerely apologize if I offend. That certainly is not my intention. I'm just trying to encourage everyone that was so quick to condemn..to look at it with a more open mind.

If you would have read further down the thread I did mention it later....