Recently again, I lost a close friend due to cancer. I have watched way too many go this year. It's getting bad. I wonder about the after life and what happens there. I am not asking anyone to be relgious or upset anyone with this question, but I just was pondering what others think after seeing so many friends go. I have come to grips with it after loseing my dad four years ago and I know that no one gets out of it alive. I am just trying to find a way to deal with losing so many people I have known for so long. Maybe I need a change of sencery or new friends. Nah I like the old ones. So many songs come to mind. Bob Seger, Van Zant and the list goes on & on. Anyway just was wondering if anyone has any thoughts. Thanks.

speaking of the devil i got a letter in mail today offering full coverage cancer insurance and i think i,ll play it safe and get it

they said 6.00 monthly and its from mutaul of omahas

I'm sorry for your loss. It's so hard when you lose someone that is so close to you. You're asking for opinions, here's mine...I know I will see my family and friends, that have gone before me, again. That is what I believe, and that is what gets me through the days when I am missing them the most.

My senior year of highschool which was last year I went through a similar ordeal. first it was a friend a sophomore in H.S. in an auto accident, than it was my Best friend of 3 years in an auto accident, than it was almost me and my father in an auto accident, my great grandmother, than it was my other great grandmother, than my great aunt, almost my great grandfather,than some friends of the family, than an aquantince i had through another friend, and then another friend of the family. so all in all i have been to like 10 funerals this whole year. i must say being a teenager at this time is very confusing for me, but i have a lot of support from my relatives, my teachers, some other friends that i turned to, coaches and of course my pastor and church. if you are religious read psalm's there are a lot things that can help. basically you need to talk to someone i.e. pastor, counselor, friends. mostly celebrate what you had and remember the good times b/c you can't really focus on the point that they are gone or you will drive yourself to a place you dont want to go. with that said as a human and a person i give you wishes on the best of luck to deal with these emotions.

its better to have known the friends and had good times than to not have any at all

its better to have known the friends and had good times than to not have any at all

Wow...sorry to hear this..Keep the faith

I had cancer, so I know your pain, and the fright, be strong, stay pink!

(((chopperdan)))

I too have lost several people in my life to cancer...
alot of family memebers, a fiance', and friend's.
One year it took 10 people I knew. It seemed like everyone I knew was dying.

I was so distraut over these feelings... I was begining to think- that just talking to me- some one was going to die next.

I know there is life after death. I have seen some amazing things at peoples death beds... Many say they want to go home...

I believe we will see our beloved people again. That there is
a great reunion in heaven...

Hugs Chopper...

Yeah, I've lost a lot of people to cancer, to alcohol, all kinds of stuff. As comforting and reassuring as it might be to think that everybody goes to a "better place," I have yet to see anything in my life that points in that direction at all.

From my own individual perception of a realistic standpoint, we're here for however long we're here -- and then that's the end of it -- and the trick is to make the best of it -- and to let the people who matter in life KNOW how much they mean -- because there will come a time when that's no longer an option.

I've gotten into the habit of spending some time with each person who is close to me, every now and then, and telling them how I feel about them. It was a little awkward at first, but it gets easier, and the responses I get back from them are more fulfilling than any gift they could give me.

The bottom line is, I'm not going to count on the crapshoot of an "afterlife" -- which I have no reason to believe in -- when everything I need to say can be said here and now, in this life....

Whatever the ultimate reality is -- whether there's a heaven or a hell or just a hole in the dirt -- we can't change any of it. I'd rather work with what I can see and hear and feel in this reality.

You know...I am not sure about the afterlife either..makes a person wonder. You know...I plan on living my life to the fullest while I am on this Earth...live everyday like it is the last. We need to enjoy life to the fullest...enjoy you friends, hobbies, the things and places you like, just get out and live.

so sorry to hear of your loss ~ Tim

I have to tell you all I do beleive in someting because I have expieranced many times things that cannot be just dismissed. Too many things point to something after and it has to be hard to dismiss. Thank you all.

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Do not stand at my grave and weep.

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you wake in the morning hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
(Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there, I did not die!
Mary Frye (1932)



A copy of "Do not stand at my Grave and Weep" was found in an envelope left by a young British soldier, Stephen Cummins, who was killed on active service in Northern Ireland. The envelope was to be opened by his parents in the event of his death. Along with the poem were photos and a letter. The immediate thought was that the soldier himself had penned it; this has since been proven wrong. There are many suggestions that have been floated regarding the true author, including Joyce Fossen, Albert Spengler, Gwyndion Perderwen and Mary Frye. There is also a possibility that it was written originally by Navajo Indians. It is the "the most requested English language poem of the past sixty years." I also believe that it is quite possibly the most beautiful.

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