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Topic: Why can't I find anyone interesting?
LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Tue 01/15/08 02:35 PM
I have run into LOTS of interesting people here, but they are all 897,000 miles away. I actually have no way of knowing in anyone closer than that is interesting, since they won't talk to me! But if I have to go by what I see in their Mutual Match profiles, I'd say a baboon with a pencil sharpener would be more interesting....

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Tue 01/15/08 02:35 PM
Any of you guys from massachusetts? LOL makes the situation worse. I am & it's hard as hell here too.

SamhainPrincess Joined Mon 08/27/07 Posts: 186	Tue 01/15/08 02:38 PM Edited by SamhainPrincess on Tue 01/15/08 02:38 PM
I have run into LOTS of interesting people here, but they are all 897,000 miles away. I actually have no way of knowing in anyone closer than that is interesting, since they won't talk to me! But if I have to go by what I see in their Mutual Match profiles, I'd say a baboon with a pencil sharpener would be more interesting.... LOL yea, i get wackjobs sometimes that say things like "Send me pics of your a$$" and junk that that. It's really no fun...

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Tue 01/15/08 02:38 PM
Massachusetts , home of the high standards

SamhainPrincess Joined Mon 08/27/07 Posts: 186	Tue 01/15/08 02:39 PM
Massachusetts , home of the high standards THAT'S BULL! all you gotta do is go to a bar in boston after 10 and you're AAALLLLL set! LOL GO SOX!

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Tue 01/15/08 02:40 PM
I have run into LOTS of interesting people here, but they are all 897,000 miles away. I actually have no way of knowing in anyone closer than that is interesting, since they won't talk to me! But if I have to go by what I see in their Mutual Match profiles, I'd say a baboon with a pencil sharpener would be more interesting.... LOL yea, i get wackjobs sometimes that say things like "Send me pics of your a$$" and junk that that. It's really no fun...

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Tue 01/15/08 02:41 PM
Youll never find it when you are looking! I totally agree. You always find someone when you AREN'T looking. Very true, and in my case, they're usually nutjobs (not that I'm complaining) think I'd take a nut right now..been single too long.. howeve i gues it is better to be Single -n-Sane thanit is to be Coupled -2- Crazy

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Tue 01/15/08 02:42 PM
Cause were all in Canada silly!!! Really??? Ok Gypsy i believe ya

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Tue 01/15/08 02:42 PM
Massachusetts , home of the high standards THAT'S BULL! all you gotta do is go to a bar in boston after 10 and you're AAALLLLL set! LOL GO SOX! That maybe so & I hear ya, but I'm looking for more than that.... Go Pat's

breakdown Joined Fri 10/19/07 Posts: 29	Tue 01/15/08 02:46 PM
oh thats just one cute kid

mikecom21hotmaiL Joined Thu 08/31/06 Posts: 6595	Tue 01/15/08 03:04 PM
OK, I know I'm a decent looking guy. And I KNOW I have a good personality. Why is it that I can't find a decent woman? Too nice of a personality could be a problem, Some women want men to be in control of a relationship. If you're a pushover, then they will push you over.

wannaknow Joined Sat 11/17/07 Posts: 3	Tue 01/15/08 07:51 PM
Because you're looking to hard!! You will probably meet someone when you least expect it!! That's what I tell myself!!

Dominator55 Joined Tue 12/25/07 Posts: 37	Tue 01/15/08 08:49 PM
Yeah I think looking too hard can hold you back. Also, your standards might be too high...some of us are looking for that "perfect" match which can keep us from noticing.what's right in front of us!

lonelyheart36 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 470	Tue 01/15/08 10:43 PM
'cause they're either taken or in other freaking states.. ALL,of my mutual matches are in other states or countries lol. ummmmm just a thought. It is a mutual match because you both have chosen each other. hmmmmmmm, just maybeeeeeeee the solution is picking the ones in your area? do you know how to read?how can they be in my area if they are in another state?let alone another country.

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Tue 01/15/08 10:44 PM
OK, I know I'm a decent looking guy. And I KNOW I have a good personality. Why is it that I can't find a decent woman? Too nice of a personality could be a problem, Some women want men to be in control of a relationship. If you're a pushover, then they will push you over. To the OP: People vary. Some women want a man who is eager to serve and please them. If it floats their boat, I won't judge. lol Not every one wants equal status or power in their relationships. A power exchange or imbalance can be extremely HOT for some. Problems happen when individuals in a couple view their roles differently or have different expectations for themselves, the other, or the relationship and fail to communicate this to their partner. Some of the funniest, respectful, and caring Men I know like to be in control of a relationship, take charge. Sure, they can bastards and assholes, but in a passionate, loving way. I know like it seems like a contradiction in terms and most would not believe it possible, but it is, indeed. The key is mutual consent! Every body is different. Different people need to express affection, sensation, sexuality in different ways. I personally prefer a relationship where the roles and rules are clearly defined. It leaves less room for misunderstandings and conflict. Yes, it is more work, but it is surely worth it for both. I do not believe in "settling", but I also think looking for "perfection" is futile. For some, the grass will always be greener on the other side. They will always have too much trouble choosing from all the candy in the candy store. It is important to be open and honest about what you need and desire and to communicate it clearly to your partner. Good Luck!

JaceKnows Joined Mon 11/12/07 Posts: 5110	Tue 01/15/08 10:44 PM
Because you're looking to hard!! You will probably meet someone when you least expect it!! That's what I tell myself!! Yeah.. keep the expectations low, and no worries. (=

daniel48706 Joined Fri 03/16/07 Posts: 8566	Tue 01/15/08 11:18 PM
OK, I know I'm a decent looking guy. And I KNOW I have a good personality. Why is it that I can't find a decent woman? lmao, quit looking in the adult magazines Just kidding man, just kidding. emember it takes time and patience. Maybe the "decent woman" you are looking for IS in other state or country. Her location should have nothing to do with wether or not she is decent, you knwo what I mean? Yes I understand distance is an issue that will have to be resolved in order to make something work in the end. However, it IS something that can be worked out. So come on in, take a break and relax a bit. Get to know all of us, and have a good time.

izzie Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31834	Wed 01/16/08 01:28 AM
OK, I know I'm a decent looking guy. And I KNOW I have a good personality. Why is it that I can't find a decent woman? finding someone decent.. and finding someone interesting are 2 seperate things... i know many interesting people.. they are fun.. but not someone i would want to be with for an extended period of time. lol now as for finding someone to be with... keep your chin up..... it makes cheek bones seem sharper.... lol dont worry you seem like a good guy.. shes out there...

sleepy_jean Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 28	Thu 01/17/08 05:07 PM
'cause they're either taken or in other freaking states.. I hate when that happens. Grrr...

sleepy_jean Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 28	Thu 01/17/08 05:12 PM
raises hand I'm not a meth addict! lol Kentucky's not nearly as bad as people make it out to be.