Perhaps too much honesty?

Grow some confidence.. you're only pathetic if YOU think it

just be yourself and who cares what people think if your true to your own heart.

As you said yourself, people will tell you it's too soon. And for those of us who have gone thru a divorce, I'd say most would agree. Divorce is hard whether you wanted it or not. There needs to be a time for healing before you can truly give yourself to another person or you'll just be projecting your insecurities, anger, sorrow, etc on to the new person.



just mho

thats right

not divorced yet? hmmm, i know u don't think so now but, we all need healing time otherwise u can take some unwanted emotional baggage into ur next relationship which would be a rebound thing at best...take time 4 u, make friends here, the ppl r awesome

My personal opinion, after reading the profile I would run. No offense, but you haven't resolved your old relationship, legally or emotionally. Rebound relationships suck big time and that is what she will be until you have been divorced for 6 months or a year and are completely cool with your ex. JMO

just my two cents worth...btw, welcome to jsh

Thanks.
I Know you're right.
I just dont want to hear it.
Yet

ain t that the truth

i think ur profile is ok, it's honest and how u feel. it's not worth lying about yourself coz if u meet someone that way it wont work.
but don't rush, take your time. and have lots if fun with friends first.

So there is no way out.
I am condemned to ride out the pain.
I hear you.
I guess I need to keep hearing it.

Thanks

I'm in almost the same situation as you, in the process of getting a divorce(which sucks) but it happens. My opinion? just look for friends at this point. That is what i'm doing I don't want to date yet because i know that still being attached to my (soon to be ex) wife will have an effect on who i'm with. I want to be fair to both people. And hey if one of those friendships turn into something more great, if not oh well. It's good to be alone sometimes too...to discover what makes you happy and not relying on someone else to make you happy. That's just my opinion.

Just remember...without being able to feel excrutiating pain, how would you be able to feel overwhelming love? The emotions balance themselves out. It hurts now. Most of us know exactly how you feel and we're all here for you to lean on. Don't be afraid to do just that. Talk it out when things get overwhelming...and soon you'll find that days will go by that are pain free. It's a process...and it's best if the steps aren't skipped along the way.

Thank You.
I appreciate what youve said.