When you start a new relationship with someone , you really need to leave all the drama behind , problems that was in your last relationship should never be brought up , they are history , go on and live your life , for if you bring your problems from a prior relationship into a new one , you will find yourself with the same problems all over again... leave them behind..

thats your opinion

I dont think thats completly possible to do, as those problems shape the person u are today, dont drell on them, but remember them and learn from them

Unfortunately, it's all too often the truth. No one can ever truly leave their past behind, it's a part of who they are. Until you've dealt with whatever needs to be dealt with, all too often, one or both people end up being hurt, which is right or fair to no one.

year right! if you haven't delt with your pass the new relationship will never work,it just happen to me. I moved my whole life for someone just to find out a month before I move. they were talking with there ex. I was out of the picture before I got out here. Now I have a child on the why and this all could of stopped before I moved out here. just by being realy with yourself.

Not all of it, but if people don't learn from there mistakes. Then yes you will keep going through the same things and that tells me that that person doesn't want to grow. I for one don't want to live in my pass so i chose to move on

I am not saying that you should not learn from your past , but the past must stay in the past or it will just come into your future and remain there till you let it go.. that is what I am saying

iwanna be a friend of u if any girl is interested then reply to me (panesar)

Well if you haven't let it go, then it will always be there no matter what. But then again the past is not something that will just go away. it's more of having an understanding of it and not living in it. some people like to hang on to the past and that is why they are in some of the situations there in today.

That is well put

Leaving problems in The past is a good ideia.But is it reality??
After all.Our pasts Are a big part of our lifes.Am i not right??
Where we move on,Is where we make better lives for ourselves.

Now that have chose to go on with our heads held hi.lets all just say hi!!!

if i lived in the past with whats happened to me might as well shoot me now...you have to learn from it i agree and its taken a few years living on my own to do that ...but if i start afresh with someone new thats what its going to be a freah start and a new adventure...with the past firmly behind me

year right! if you haven't delt with your pass the new relationship will never work,it just happen to me. I moved my whole life for someone just to find out a month before I move. they were talking with there ex. I was out of the picture before I got out here. Now I have a child on the why and this all could of stopped before I moved out here. just by being realy with yourself.


Wow...that's totally messed up!!..Sorry that happened to you..Isn't it sad how hindsight is alway's 20/20?

See this pic? That's all the baggage (other than clothing) I brought with me from my 3 BR home to this 1 BR apartment. I agree. Leave it all and start fresh. Make it all new. If you lookin' for someone, they deserve that.

year right! if you haven't delt with your pass the new relationship will never work,it just happen to me. I moved my whole life for someone just to find out a month before I move. they were talking with there ex. I was out of the picture before I got out here. Now I have a child on the why and this all could of stopped before I moved out here. just by being realy with yourself.


Wow...that's totally messed up!!..Sorry that happened to you..Isn't it sad how hindsight is alway's 20/20?
yeay this is sad but I will be they better person and keep being me and that is real and honest and upfront on who I am. This will keep me stong and knowing to myself I did no wrong and it will keep me out of the game playing. I chose today not to be anthing other then who I am. I guess this is why I have so many good friends and they know me and that feels good

year right! if you haven't delt with your pass the new relationship will never work,it just happen to me. I moved my whole life for someone just to find out a month before I move. they were talking with there ex. I was out of the picture before I got out here. Now I have a child on the why and this all could of stopped before I moved out here. just by being realy with yourself.


Wow...that's totally messed up!!..Sorry that happened to you..Isn't it sad how hindsight is alway's 20/20?
yeay this is sad but I will be they better person and keep being me and that is real and honest and upfront on who I am. This will keep me stong and knowing to myself I did no wrong and it will keep me out of the game playing. I chose today not to be anthing other then who I am. I guess this is why I have so many good friends and they know me and that feels good


Amen, brother.

Shadow, you are right..stay strong, and true to yourself..You will be fine

I couldn't agree more! The past needs to be the past. While it does shape our future, it does not have to dictate it!

After my divorce I spent a considerable amount of time examining, exploring, and learning from my mistakes by trying to understand the decisions I made, why I made them, and what the consequences were. I was determined to break the patterns I saw in my relationships and live a happier life. It worked and I am proud of the woman I've become. I don't carry baggage from the past into a new relationship, I am more complete as an individual, and make healthy decisions now. If I find myself in a situation that brings up memories from the past, I sort through those feelings, extract what it is I need to learn, and make decisions based on the here and now. Not always easy, but less painful and more rewarding in the long run!

(slowly steps off of soap box!!!)

Oh how easy it is to say for you who have not had any REAL problems that completely change who you are. But, for the right price, I'd be willing to change that. For guys, I care not if you have baggage. I'm strong, bring it. For those who don’t like it, I sharpen my axe nightly for you.

Sorry randy...i have to disagree with you.....I do agree however that your past makes you who you are today. I beleive that the person you are going to get into a relationship with deserves to know about your past relationships. It shapes who you have become today as well as gives them a general understanding of why some things worked and why some things didnt. It shows them some of what you might like in a relationship and some of what you might dislike in a relationship. I am not ashamed to tell anyone about my past relationship. I am a little ashamed to say why it ended but I still do, because I do think that anyone who I might potentially get into a relationship with has a right to know before they get into a relationship with me. However, I do think you should leave baggage at the door. If you are hostile toward your ex for any reason do not go ranting and raving to your new partner about it. If you need to talk find someone else to talk about it. Also if they are still talking with their ex you need to ask yourself if you are ok with that. I still talk to my ex, we are great friends now. Nothing will ever become of us ever again, we are better off friends, and he is engaged again. So I guess I agreed with you partly Randy....