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Topic: Thinking out loud ..
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Mon 01/14/08 03:48 PM
yeah,this has become the norm for me.then the nice one's want a kid after just months of going out.and when i say let time take its course,they tell me to get lost lol.

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Mon 01/14/08 03:50 PM
TAKE IT FROM ME!!LOL...
it all boils down to the choices that we make..choices that govern our every day lives where love is conserned...

the only thing that i have ever wanted for the past 5 years is to finally have a woman who will be waiting for me while i am away on another job...many times it could take up to a month ans a half or two...i have had 4 ex's in the past 5 years with women who said that they were strong enough...well they were wrong..god bless them..but yes sometimes being single is writen in the stars for some...because my choices will always be the same...i will never choose my work over my love..but i will never leave my work for them either...enigmas i guess

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Mon 01/14/08 03:54 PM
Has anyone ever thought that maybe the best thing to do is start looking for just friends and then go from there? You have to be friends first right? So why not just look for friends and then build from friendship?
Honestly it is not that bad being single, it has so many advantages that people overlook!! I think people need to stop looking at the bad points and start looking at the good points of being single. Trust me, IF you have ever been in a rough marriage, being single is GREAT!!!
I think you should just stop worrying about it so much and when you least expect it...thats when love finds you! I wish you luck and sooner or later, don't worry, if its meant to be...that special someone will come into your life flowerforyou

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Mon 01/14/08 03:58 PM

TAKE IT FROM ME!!LOL...
it all boils down to the choices that we make..choices that govern our every day lives where love is conserned...

the only thing that i have ever wanted for the past 5 years is to finally have a woman who will be waiting for me while i am away on another job...many times it could take up to a month ans a half or two...i have had 4 ex's in the past 5 years with women who said that they were strong enough...well they were wrong..god bless them..but yes sometimes being single is writen in the stars for some...because my choices will always be the same...i will never choose my work over my love..but i will never leave my work for them either...enigmas i guess
yeah,i agree.

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Mon 01/14/08 04:00 PM

Has anyone ever thought that maybe the best thing to do is start looking for just friends and then go from there? You have to be friends first right? So why not just look for friends and then build from friendship?
Honestly it is not that bad being single, it has so many advantages that people overlook!! I think people need to stop looking at the bad points and start looking at the good points of being single. Trust me, IF you have ever been in a rough marriage, being single is GREAT!!!
I think you should just stop worrying about it so much and when you least expect it...thats when love finds you! I wish you luck and sooner or later, don't worry, if its meant to be...that special someone will come into your life flowerforyou


very wise words miss unsure...it is a little difficult though when you are the one with the answer in th palm of your hands
and you keep thinking about career more then love...and in the back of your mind regreting it later..but very true..a good friendship is paramount for the foundation of a great relationship..

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Mon 01/14/08 04:03 PM

Has anyone ever thought that maybe the best thing to do is start looking for just friends and then go from there? You have to be friends first right? So why not just look for friends and then build from friendship?
Honestly it is not that bad being single, it has so many advantages that people overlook!! I think people need to stop looking at the bad points and start looking at the good points of being single. Trust me, IF you have ever been in a rough marriage, being single is GREAT!!!
I think you should just stop worrying about it so much and when you least expect it...thats when love finds you! I wish you luck and sooner or later, don't worry, if its meant to be...that special someone will come into your life flowerforyou


Good Point.

I always think of being friends first if anything and seeing what happens from there.

I mean yes I agree it's not too bad being single but I wouldn't mind having some one to hang out with and so things with etc.

Oh well, I guess I'll let time and some one just find me and if that does ever happen I'll be here awaiting.



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Mon 01/14/08 04:05 PM
John..I have been single for 18 yrs. now....I've found alot a good friends along the way but not that "special someone". It's the friends we choose to surround ourselves with that get us through the days

Who knows, I may walk outside tomorrow and literally stumble into Mr. Right. If not, I'll go go shoot the BS with a friend.

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Mon 01/14/08 04:07 PM


Has anyone ever thought that maybe the best thing to do is start looking for just friends and then go from there? You have to be friends first right? So why not just look for friends and then build from friendship?
Honestly it is not that bad being single, it has so many advantages that people overlook!! I think people need to stop looking at the bad points and start looking at the good points of being single. Trust me, IF you have ever been in a rough marriage, being single is GREAT!!!
I think you should just stop worrying about it so much and when you least expect it...thats when love finds you! I wish you luck and sooner or later, don't worry, if its meant to be...that special someone will come into your life flowerforyou


very wise words miss unsure...it is a little difficult though when you are the one with the answer in th palm of your hands
and you keep thinking about career more then love...and in the back of your mind regreting it later..but very true..a good friendship is paramount for the foundation of a great relationship..

TY Kolhauszer!! I think sometimes we have to make choices, a career is a very good choice and IF they love you they should work with you!! Yep a great friendship is the way to go and then who knows, it could turn out to be a wonderful relationship flowerforyou

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Mon 01/14/08 04:09 PM

John..I have been single for 18 yrs. now....I've found alot a good friends along the way but not that "special someone". It's the friends we choose to surround ourselves with that get us through the days

Who knows, I may walk outside tomorrow and literally stumble into Mr. Right. If not, I'll go go shoot the BS with a friend.


Well I see your a bit older then me, but I've been single my whole 27 years of life, lol yeah every single one of them years.

And no I don't have many friends, but I guess that's how life works out.

No big deal though. I guess as some say life happens.

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Mon 01/14/08 04:15 PM



Has anyone ever thought that maybe the best thing to do is start looking for just friends and then go from there? You have to be friends first right? So why not just look for friends and then build from friendship?
Honestly it is not that bad being single, it has so many advantages that people overlook!! I think people need to stop looking at the bad points and start looking at the good points of being single. Trust me, IF you have ever been in a rough marriage, being single is GREAT!!!
I think you should just stop worrying about it so much and when you least expect it...thats when love finds you! I wish you luck and sooner or later, don't worry, if its meant to be...that special someone will come into your life flowerforyou


very wise words miss unsure...it is a little difficult though when you are the one with the answer in th palm of your hands
and you keep thinking about career more then love...and in the back of your mind regreting it later..but very true..a good friendship is paramount for the foundation of a great relationship..

TY Kolhauszer!! I think sometimes we have to make choices, a career is a very good choice and IF they love you they should work with you!! Yep a great friendship is the way to go and then who knows, it could turn out to be a wonderful relationship flowerforyou


YESSSSS the light has been shown!!!..exactlyyyyy..
there is nothing wrong with having both career and love..even if it is one such as mine..in fact many times my lady loves would join me on these long journeys,,seen every province..seen different ways of canadian life..but of course in the end it would die off as all the others would..yes,,if they love me they would endure..

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Mon 01/14/08 07:16 PM



part of a healthy relationship : selflessness

that means getting over having it all your way.
you want the good stuff, sacrifices will have to be mad.

you might have to move,
give up a job,
give up a house, and sacrifice something.
it's called compromise.

tinabelle's photo
Mon 01/14/08 07:18 PM
most important...take the time to get to know-
that way you can make a wise decision, and the sacrifice
isn't a sacrifice at all.

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