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because people instead of giving effort to fix an existing relationship figure they'll dump the person and move on. Then they complain that they're single and all the guys/girls around them suck etc.
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thats true too
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I agree that walking away might be the easiest solution to problems in a relationship, but it also depends on the extent of emotions involved, and the amount of time invested. Sometimes it's like you're damned if you stay, and damned if you walk...especially if one loves more than the other...it's a given that someone's going to get hurt either way! If one has already given up on trying to make it work, regardless how good things were going...or how much the other is committed to work things out if a problem arises...the relationship will almost surely end...and the one who truly cared enough to try and work things out is left with a broken heart...while the other has freed themselves to just move on! I prefer not to ask for advice on a relationship problem...and try to give it my all to make it work..though sometimes it's not good enough, and it fails anyway...I've listened to my heart...without the influence of others!
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I 100% agree with you, but what if you try to move on and you find out a year later that you have a baby with her? Lil hard to move on from that.
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I 100% agree with you, but what if you try to move on and you find out a year later that you have a baby with her? Lil hard to move on from that. Hard yes, but doable. I also agree with Debbiejo, listening to your own heart might be the best way to go. Everybody else can tell you what they think and give you all the advice in the world with the very best of intentions. But if one of you does not want the relationship to continue, all the trying in the world is not going to change that. Sometimes I think that little pill is the hardest thing in the world to swallow! |
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There is a time to work on something and a time to let go......give up. Sometimes I think I give up to easily not because I dont want to work through something but because I dont take any crap....
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i would much rather be alone and by myself than in a bad relationship, been there, done that. never again i third it!! |
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There is a time to work on something and a time to let go......give up. Sometimes I think I give up to easily not because I dont want to work through something but because I dont take any crap.... Yes, standing strong and not putting up with a bunch of crap is not a bad quality. Love does weird things to me, I think I put up with too much in order to make things work! I am sooo trying to change that part of my personality. When I look back at how much I put up with it always amazes me!! |
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I totally agree. Like I dont want to give up because of the problem I am having now, but it seems like that is what everyone tells me to do. I think society thinks that anything that involves work is too much. Just laziness. Frankly if people are that lazy...nothing will work out because nothing worth having is easy. 
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Do you think we have become to much of a disposable society?
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Edited by
s1owhand
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Sat 01/12/08 12:16 PM
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i gave up on giving up and gave in to giving in!
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I agree that walking away might be the easiest solution to problems in a relationship, but it also depends on the extent of emotions involved, and the amount of time invested. Sometimes it's like you're damned if you stay, and damned if you walk...especially if one loves more than the other...it's a given that someone's going to get hurt either way! If one has already given up on trying to make it work, regardless how good things were going...or how much the other is committed to work things out if a problem arises...the relationship will almost surely end...and the one who truly cared enough to try and work things out is left with a broken heart...while the other has freed themselves to just move on! I prefer not to ask for advice on a relationship problem...and try to give it my all to make it work..though sometimes it's not good enough, and it fails anyway...I've listened to my heart...without the influence of others! |
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i gave up on giving up and gave in to giving in! Does this mean you give in at the expense of being true to yourself? |
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i would much rather be alone and by myself than in a bad relationship, been there, done that. never again i third it!! |
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I agree with the opinion that most people on here tend to tell the OP to give up and move on.
I would say that usually, the presented scenario does not provide enough information for others to tell either way. However, if you have enough of a question to post in this forum, you obviously are having doubts. It's quite possible the OP might be looking for rationale to walk away. I firmly believe in communicating in relationships. The OP should clearly put their gut feeling in the posed question so that the thread actually stays on that topic, rather than the "walk-away" bandwagon. It also helps if they continue to stick around and answer questions and such. A one way conversation doesn't do much good! |
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ok all joking aside. i'm not sure i agree that there is a preponderance of advice to just give up...
i think that generally there are a lot of people who post about problems in one-sided dating situations but i think that a lot of the advice offered for those problems as well as others is often pretty good. most of those here are not in long term committed relationships  yet but most of those who i interact here seem pretty resilient and tenacious...even bloody minded! of course that just may be my kind of wolverine my post about giving in...that only was to suggest that i prefer being flexible to accommodate my partner - as much as possible. it makes them happy  so it gives me pleasure  you know what i mean?
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I think people just need to realize that nobody is perfect, this is true, but even with their faults and problems, they can still be perfect for you. If that makes sense...
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Giving up doesn't always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go. ~ Author Unknown
Ask me why I keep on loving you when it's clear that you don't feel the same way for me... the problem is that as much as I can't force you to love me, I can't force myself to stop loving you. ~ Author Unknown If the relationship is one-sided & you're the one trying to hold it together, it will most certainly fail. A relationship must be built on a strong emotional foundation and you both must work on it through effective communication. Been there, done that... so I know what you're going through. Sometimes we must take a stand and move on... 
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 talk is the key word.
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