Anyone ever let their ex that they havent seen in a couple of years come
back to see if things had changed only to find out they hadent then been
stuck with the delima of what do you do, you have a kid togather and
your daughter is happy her mom is home but you are absolutly miserable.
What do you do??????

in my opignion a kid is never completly happy unless the 2 parents are
happy with eachother. But for what to do it always depends on what is
the problem and can it be changed or otherwise fixed. Or just talk to
her about it.

(if all of this makes sence)

Ya I'll try it and see what happens when the time is right right now I'm
having to listen to how everything is my fault and things were going so
great noe I'm starting to fell like I did 2 years ago and I dont want to
go their. Anyway I need to get to school have a great day!!!!!!

I just hope for you Alpine everything turnds out okay and dont belelive
her cause im sute thats its not all your fault. It takes 2 to tango.
take care

Have you tried marriage counceling or anything like that? Before
breaking up, again, I would get her and you to go to marriage counceling
and if she does not want to go, then go yourself.

truth he cant really go himself because that wont help the problem she
would have to go too.

If you know your not happy ..then its not going to work is it .I had
tried to stay for the kids sake ,does not work ,if its not good ALL
around then it will never be a happy family .

IF YOU are not happy, then it could be YOU....Now, I am not trying to
sound mean, here...but you MUST understand, no person, no job, no house,
no car, no anything or anyone can MAKE YOU happy....Happiness comes from
WITHIN not from without.

Don't stay miserable!!!

Kinda in the same boat right now only I concluded there is no working
out. I mean there IF I wanted to but I don't want to cause the feelings
for me are dead. We have 2 kids together and I am one of those people
who will not stay with someone regardless of there being kids involved.
Right now we're just friends and get along but he wants more. He knows
now it was entirely his fault why I left but it's just a little too late
for me.
Besides we get along way better being friends altho it's hard for him to
do so.
Hang in there chickie!

ALPINE, DUDE ITS ALL ABOUT YOU AND YOUR CHILD!!!!

IF YOU WANT TO TRY GETTING OUTSIDE HELP FOR YOU AND YOUR EX TO GO
TO AND FIND THE PROBLEMS AND WORK ON THEM, AND 'YOU' REALLY FEEL

THAT IT MIGHT WORK, THEN GO THAT AWAY...

IF YOU BELIEVE THAT YOUR CHILD IS HEARING AND SEEING ALL OF YOUR

TWO'S DRAMA ALL THE TIME, THEN I WOULD NOT DO THAT ANOTHER WEEK.

IF YOU TWO DID NOT WORK BEFORE, AND YOU DIVORCED. THEN GOING

BACK, REALLY SHOULD HAVE BEEN MANY TALKS OF WHAT HAD HAPPEN IN

THE PAST THE FIRST TIME AND THEN THOUGHT OK WE CAN TRY.

BUT NOW, IF WHATEVER HAPPEN THE FIRST TIME IS RECURING NOW.

THEN THAT ISSUE WAS YOUR FALL, AND WILL NEVER WORK IT SELF OUT.

Alpine,
is terrible to feel the way you do, but you don't have to, because her
mother will be her mother always, and if I was you, I would make sure
that we have a relationship as friends, only,
your daughter will still love you, and her, but is not healthy to
continue with a relationship that will only hurt you
the child will feel this pain and she will also me miserable

that is just my 2cents.

its all about the kids not ur love relationship ups and downs. for the
better , i thk yall need to understand that line, and may be if u do,
the tha will make ur childs life colourfull.. with happiness while u
just great frd not strings attached..
who knows it may get u go back to day one . datin

Alpine, continue thinkin like a parent first, as a parent, you know she
needs to feel loved. no matter if you stay with her mother or not, she
needs that, and you know it. you could be with Dora the explorer and
all your daughter needs to know, is that you love her.

i think you should talk with her mom, in an even tone, and explain to
her, that you want what's best for your daughter, just as much as she
does, but you 2 being together isn't good for either of you, and seeing
how unhappy you both are, certainly can't be good for your daughter.

regardless of how the next few weeks go, always always always remind
your daughter, that you love her. She's the most important person in
all this, how she feels. Her parents not being together will always be
a disappointment to her, but she needs to feel/know that she's loved by
both parents.


sorry if i went too far with this, it's just important that you 2 think
of your daughter first, put her before your individual needs always.
(not to imply that you don't now, just saying)

good luck Alpine

LG

CHURCH AND HAVING FAITH IN THE LORD WILL HELP U WITH THAT SITUATION.
GOOD LUCK

Thanks for all your advice it didnt work we made it a whole 2 weeks 2
years was to long we didnt know each other anymore but now at least we
know its over. The most awkward 2 weeks of my life.lol

yep my youngest 2 want me and their mother to get back together I told
them I could not do it I wasn't happy and won't be happy like that and
they understand, the oldest told me if we ever did she was going to live
somewhere's else lol

oh and good luck on your and the kids future :)

get rid of the ***** and explain as best you can to your daughter that
you two just can't be together. you are in one of those situations where
you will never be able to make everyone happy. good luck with it though,
i hope it works out for the best for you.