On New Years Eve I met and proceeded to make out with a very cool girl in a mutual state of drunkeness.
Phone #'s were exchanged, and we went out last Friday. This girl is AMAZING... we like the same music, TV shows, ect. she is arguably the coolest chick I've ever met. Hell, not only did she know who Monty Python was, she had seen "The Rutles", perhaps the most obscure of Eric Idle's movies...
Small glitch... She's not exactly attractive. She's decent looking... a few extra pounds... but otherwise a dream girl. I'm definetley seeing her again, I just hope I can see past some minor physical things I don't like. You would think at my age that these things wouldn't matter.
My experience with hot girls has been that they only stick around long enough until they meet an upgrade. Shallow, in other words, and usually boring as hell...
So, how important is physical attraction to y'all? Don't lie!

GET OFF THE LOOKS OF A PERSON........THE PERSONALITY, KINDNESS, HONESTY ARE FAR MORE IMPORTANT THAN LOOKS.........HOPE IT ALL WORKS OUT FOR YOU

Of course there has to be an attraction-but let the attraction be what is in your eyes-not societies eyes. She could be the best thing since peanut butter......no sorry, that is me, LOL! but she could be the perfect one-give it a try! Good luck!

In my experience, the more you have in common and the more fun it is to be around a person, trumps looks all the time.

Physical attraction is important but I think that certain things can be looked past and the personality can outshine those things...

Good luck with your dates and kudos to you for not shutting her out b/c her body isn't perfect...

I'm 31 years old. Physical attraction is usually the first thing there. If you made out with her on New Years drunk and still went out with her after that, I think the attraction is there. So what if she's a little heavy, who gives a crap, SHE LOVES MONTEY PYTHON!!!!! That's a HUGE plus!! If she likes all the things you do johnnie, you need to go for it!! It is VERY hard to find that special person out there who has the EXACT same things in common as you do..... Good luck and I hope it works out for ya!!!!

Oh, I'm seeing her again... Just wondered how important looks were to all of you...

I FORGOT..............BEAUTY IS IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER TOO..............( YOU )

You need to look past it my friend....from experience. The older you get, the vision gets better, in the mind that is. Looks are not NEARLY important now as they used to be. Good luck with her....she sounds really cool....

Well I am blessed to have them both..

Seriously, I wish more men would look on the inside of someone.
I wish yal both Luck and Happiness, everyone deserves that.

they has to be some sort of physical attraction there but if its just cos she's a little overweight personality wins hands down.

I have had my fair share of both. TRUST me when I say that personality is better. SO WHAT? If she weighs a bit more than you are used to, if yall have chemistry, you will motivate her to losing some of that weight, (it's a girl thing) she will want to look really good for you. Best of luck to you and dont let shallowness ruin what could be pefect.

Just remember that looks fade with time...what was once a beauty on the outside may not always be that way. NOW someone with a heart of gold, thats the real winner!! Your inner beauty can keep growing no matter how old you get!! Hey some people are blessed with both and don't even know it...those are the real keepers!!
I think you just have to look beyond the exterior and look at the interior!! BUT only you can decide that...good luck on your decision!!!

You obviously have a strong connection with this woman and that is great.....but my concern is do you respect here to be talking about her in this fashion........She would not like to read this negative thread about her.........

Respect is very important too..........

I have met MANY people who got more attractive the more I was around them! I have also met many very attractive people who got less attractive as I got to know them! Give yourself time to get to know her attractive qualities and you may eventually not even notice the others.

fresh thats so true more people need to see that theres much more to a person than there looks i know im very plan and alittle fluffy but i believe im mostly good and theres good in us all

I don't think I said anything negative about her, nor did anybody else... I think it's been all positive. I just wanted to raise the question.
I think looks are a major obstacle to online dating... you get two or three looks at somebody and a paragraph...
It's like a crapshoot.

You said"I hope that I can get past some physical things that I don't like".....that is not a compliment....that is what I meant.........Didn't mean to offend you....best of luck....

I say that if she is "decent-looking" there should be no problem...you like her...she likes you...go for it!

who cares what anyone else thinks...if you like each other, that is all that matters darlin...go with it!