I'm sure this has been addressed a thousand times here. For the thousand and oneth time then, how do you do it? I got a feeling I'm going to be flying solo for a long long time. Anybody got a manual I could borrow? I built my life on my family and one gal for 27 years and I just can't see the other side.

Just start talking to folks, post in the forums, be decent, have fun & go slow. Lots of good folks here, very open & decent. Watch their comments & you will find people you want to associate with. Questions, just ask like you did.

Good Luck & WELCOME

Booze and strip clubs..Best manual I've read yet!!

Good place to start I suppose.

Bad place to end up, but funny.

27 yrs i dont know..... i say pat yourself on the back for that!! i guess for that long i would hope that u know u are a great guy...and u gotta get out and meet people.. if they dont feel right u may think its cause u arent over your marriage... but in actuality if it does feel right u wont have that feeling.. so ya dont know till u start dating gl to u

Only time will get you through this, and patience It's hard to see the other side sometimes, but have faith in knowing that it IS there and you will get there. The journey is just as important as the destination and slowly or quickly, you will get where you need to be.

In the meantime, make some new friends, re-establish relationships with old ones (if necessary), take care of you and all will be well.

Trying to cheer you, I went thru the same thing 11 years with the same woman it get's better, just keep busy dont set around and think about.

Chuckle, I know and I appreciate that. Trying to keep my head on. It would be easy to slip into an alcoholic coma for a few years but I know that wouldn't do anyone any good. I spent a long time slapping my own hand and turning my head to stay loyal to my relationship. Guess I gotta unteach myself.

Buttons, Suzin, good stuff.

Guys, a little different look to show things could be worse.
No matter how bad the divorce, if she died you would feel a lot worse. Just my opinion, but been there, done both, #2 is a whole bunch worse.

Message, things could always be worse.

I kinda know how you feel..I am out of a 10 yr marriage..Just seem really out of the loop..What friends I do have are either married ..or with kids.. or both..lol .. world feels a lil empty sometimes now..So what did i do? got online..joined a few sites...but Here..I have found the most friendliest ..and helpful at time..
so just hang in there..It does slowly get better..

Wow, I would say make sure you are over that situation first. Its rough in the beginning thats for sure...but once you get use to being alone, its really not so bad!! I have been happily divorced for 10 wonderful years now and I have devoted my time to my sons. I just sent my first one off to college in August and my other son is in the 7th grade. One down and one to go as they say!!
Just get to know yourself and be good to you! I think we lose ourselves when we are married...we try to please way to many people and in the process we forget about who we really are. I have had plenty of time now to work on me and maybe someday soon...I might be ready to start over with someone.
I wish you luck and I hope you find what you are looking for

True. They say divorce is "almost" as bad as the death of a spouse. At least maybe there's closure?

Difference is divorce is a desired seperation

Death is undesired.

surround yourself with friends, here is a good venue for that too, allow time for you to heal before getting into anything serious...and btw...welcome! ...Carol

I didn't, and still don't desire this. Walk-away wife syndrome with hardly an explanation. It's more like death to me...without closure.

So I assume you still love her?

very good point Sage! and hello to you as well!

I'm having a hard time answering that one!