Sorry I didn't mean to put you on the spot. Heres what I always try to do..before I date anyone, I try to finish my past relationships. Just in case the old relationship rekindles. Only because it would be a shame to drag someone into my life and inreturn only hurt them. I am not out to hurt anyone, thats not what it is all about.

Well they say time heals all wounds. Take quality healing time. Keep yourself busy. It will all come back to you. Don't be co dependent and jump into another relationship right away just so you are not alone. Don't give yourself a headache over the "why" questions. Just move on.

Unsure, is very correct. I thought I was looking for another relationship, for a while. Then realized how deeply I still feel about Gwen. It took a great burden off my shoulders, made me realize where I was & life got a lot easier. So now I look for friends & accept the life of being single, for I am never alone.

Need to talk, mail, anytime.

Aw Never Ever give UP.. Great People get to know each other thru talking.. I LOVE it here..

She left going on two years now. The divorce was final last May. She turned into someone I just don't recognize anymore and has done some very disturbing things, things which I should not forgive her for. I don't know what happened to her and have waited for her to snap back. I guess I'm starting to realize, that's not going to happen and it's not fair to me to hang on anymore. It's time for me to move on, I know. It doesn't much matter whether I love her or not. Heck, I think I still love this girl I dated when I was 17! No one wants to be alone. I'm a great guy, if you don't mind me saying it, even if she lost site of that. Slow and easy. Time and patience.

perhaps i left u an email

I try to think about it as if it never happened and I cut off all lines of communication

First, you must remember loniless is a state of mind. You are only lonely if you allow yourself to be. I find things to do for myself, hobbies, writing, walking, etc........ If you are still grieving you must go through the process of grief. There are self help sites to help you through the grieving process. But in the meantime make sure you keep busy with stuff that is good for you. Drink is a depressant and should not be utilized for this process.

Coming on here and talking and laughing with folks in the forum is a good step. As long as that is all you are expecting is chatting and fun. If you are on here to have a woman handed to you on a silver platter you are setting yourself up for a hard fall. HTH

Great stuff. I'm glad I stumbled upon this site. I can see there are some real genuine people out there who care. As for expectations, mine have already been exceeded. Thanks folks.

Been there done that

Hated it

Mine was only 22 yrs though

Yeah, it sucks. But they say, "What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger!"

I don't think that there has to be a set time that you are with someone that determines the amount of loss that you feel when it is over. My best advice to you is this. When I filed for divorce......even though it is what I wanted........I felt very lost and alone. I started chatting in forums like this and found this was a great way to fill the void that I felt from his presents being gone. Soon I thought about it less and less and now feel pretty good. There are great people here and if you give them a chance they will help you not feel so alone. I wish you the best.

It helps to know people who have made it through. A little scary bearing one's soul on a public forum. Just glad people are mature enough here to handle it. Thanks Kirota.

Anytime........I hope things get better for you.

Try any and all of the following:

Allow time to pass

Cry

Get Angry

Talk with Friends

Exercise

Get professional help if needed

Take up some new hobbies; rediscover yourself as an individual

Write about it; draw; paint; play an instrument

Listen to music

Meditate

Get rest

Eat well

Get a physical

Punch a bag; take up cardio kickboxing

Pray

Let go and Let God

Take One Day at a Time