I believe that communication isnt just about talking its about truly listening and being brave enough to share the hard stuff too Its the foundation that allows partners to grow together instead of apart I think knowing how to respectfully disagree is just as important as sharing laughter and celebrating wins If we can talk openly about everything then everything else falls into place

Using Emotional Intelligence ("EQ") in a relationship to create Relationship Intelligence ("RQ"). Using RQ in a relationship with the right person leads to a happy and peaceful life.

In the first couple of months of a new relationship I try to casually bring these RQ issues up one at a time to guide us to a good position in the growing relationship.

1. STRENGTHS & WEAKNESSES – Every personality has it's strengths and weaknesses. Your strengths should help my weaknesses, and my strengths should help your weaknesses. 1+1 should be more then 2. We are team mates.

2. LYING – I will never intentionally lie to you, and I expect the same from you. If you think that I did, bring it to my attention.

3. EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (“EQ”) - When talking, I always try to find a gracious way of expressing myself. Being blunt and hurtful just builds resentment. Always better to be kind. We should always strive for Tolerance. I always try to work at being a better person.

4. BEING WRONG – When I am wrong I admit it. We then move on. When you admit you are wrong, I accept it, and I will be gracious about it. We are both human.

5. DISPUTES - I believe in managed disputes, so that disputes can be contained and not turn into a fight. It is important to be fair and use EQ.

6. CHORES – We both are responsible for chores. Chores should be done equally, but if one person has more time then the other, they should do more to help the busy partner. I have no problem doing the cooking, dishes, house cleaning, grocery shopping, etc.

7. CAREER – I retired because I have enough money, you may want to keep working. I will always support your desire to work, and will support you in achieving your goals. And, encourage and support you to reach your full capacity.

8. THERAPY – I am a big supporter of therapy. Some problems cannot be resolved easily, and may take a professional. If we have a insurmountable problem between us, I am always open to therapy.

9. COMMUNICATIONS – Open communications between us is important. You should never feel that you cannot discuss something with me. I will work with you so that your voice is heard, and you are comfortable.

10. BAD HABITS – Having contempt, complaining, condescending words, sarcastic responses, and other bad habits should be avoided.

11. BEING A BETTER PERSON - I will always work at making your life better, and you should always do the same. Neither of us should do things that are harmful or hurtful to the other partner. As long as you work with me, I will never give up on you.

Most people will have a list different from mine.