My daughters mother acts just like a dude.Being though my daughter mom goes to work doing the week I keep her and her mom gets her on the weekend but for the last 2 weeks she been not coming and calling like every 3 days.How should I respond to this?

Well, I'm not certain how her behavior means she's like a "dude". How old is your daughter? The best way to approach your ex is maybe to ask her if she's wanting to amend the visitation. Maybe she is working overtime, maybe she is feeling guilty about not seeing her more so she evereracts and sees her less, maybe she is having some personal problems...My point is it could be anything. Or nothing. The only stupid question is the one not asked!

Most importantly you need to talk to her in a non-confrontational way. It's so very, very important to be open-minded and not to assume in any way when trying to co-parent a child.

Good luck.

What I saying is if a guy was doing the **** she doing his ass would be called a dead bead and child support would be on is ass.

Couldn't have said it any better lilith. Weedhead, hang in there and everything will come around. Do what lilith suggested and ask questions. This is the only way you'll be able to find out how she is thinking. Good luck and GOD bless.....

I do agree with you about the deadbeat and the child support thing weedhead. You are correct.....VERY correct.

Please explain the "acts like a dude" clearly. For instance, some women are tomboys, but that doesn't mean they "act like a dude".

Weedhead:

Just a little reminder, as a divorced mother of two, the person who does the accusing...tends to be the person who is the one doing wrong. And, from my experience, courts frown on certain behaviors from any parent, regardless of what sex they are.

Act like a dude such as not seeing her daughter,lying saying she'll be here to pick her up and never show.Thats dude ****.

Weed- Just get a calendar and start writing it down. Keep track of it in case you need it.

And if I'm not mistaken, what we are trying to point of here is that you are being sexist in a negative way. You are sterotyping your own gender.

Women are just as capable of lying and being absent parents as men are. Men are just as capable of independently raising children as women are. Pull that head up and shake off the sand. Welcome to single parenting!

Well I personally would start keeping track. And yes, I do realize as a single dad raising a child that has so many more important things to that this seems tedious, but you really should do it. Even if you do not plan on pursuing a full custody order or child support order right now, you may need it in the future. I would also try to have a heart to heart with her mother and stress the importance of the mother daughter bonding but try to be somewhat sensitive too, so that she doesn't feel like your attacking her.
Just say Hey, I was just wondering if we could get together, etc. Or leave a message and just say hey "insert daughter's name here" is really starting to miss her mommy and was wondering when you could come and see her again.

As far as the stereotype, you are right. The minute a guy acts this way, he IS labeled a dead beat dad, blah, blah. And yes there are MANY women that act this way, but what name do we, as society, associate with these mothers? So yes, he does have a valid point bringing up the stereotypical male. I knew exactly what you meant by her acting like a man after I read your first post. I would just try to keep your daughter's best interest at heart, and try not to think about any unfairness in the situation. Hang in there!